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Originally posted by wilbjammin
The second that I stopped caring, stopped wanting for anything, was the second that I got more than I could have ever wanted.
My original thought when reading this was my general feelings of alienation towards almost all people, and how if I were to write a post similar to this it would have been in a different category.
We are brainwashed to think that love is all there is in life that gives it meaning.
(SNIP )
Nothing will happen overnight, and that maybe the hardest part of this kind of internal battle. There is not one way to approach this, but maybe this will be some help.
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One of the best posts to come to the TFProject Sexuality forum.
I have been in a situation very similar to yours. I may still be, as I don't have the ability to see the 'light at the end of the tunnel' so to speak. I do believe I am somewhat better.
Heres some observations.
One : You will stop caring about these things and go on with your life. Of course, in such, you will find that you aren't getting what you want because of apathy.
Two : You will start caring more about these things ( lack of a girlfriend) as a reaction to your earlier apathy, and change.
You might get a girlfriend, and you will be happy for a while. But if you lose her, or you never get a girlfriend, you are likely to switch back to your apathy state.
Neither of these is "the right thing to do"... they are just my experiences with my self esteem in regards to women. You will find a mean in your life of aloofness and seriousness, of motivation and apathy. Then things will fall into place.
Will it be immediate? No.
Can the 'magical mean' go away or be changed once you've found it ? Absolutely.
Will you be happy? Maybe. You have to create happiness for yourself no matter what your situation is. Noone is going to hand it to you, or send it as an email attachment.
I wish you the best of luck. Feel free to PM me if you have any further questions or want additional details.