sexymama

^Good point -- and fair. He does have a right to be paid for watching after these boys. I wouldn't teach if I didn't get paid.

I'm still frustrated though. He talks with the girls every Sunday evening. This evening he must have told them I won't let them go visit, as the eldest asked me why when she was done with her call. I simply replied, "honey, I will let your dad see you. He can come here any time he wants or I can take you down there. I simply won't have you staying in his home while the foster children are there." Lebell backed me up -- and she responded, "we stayed when _____'s (the girlfriend's) foster children were there." I said, "but I didn't know they were there and when you called me up to express concerns about them, I was not pleased." (He had promised me they wouldn't be around.) "She said, "It was just that they were so mean." "My point exactly." "Oh." Nothing more was said.

I'm ranting -- but it just gets me that we are paying money on lawyers when I'd much rather be using the money to take them to visit their dad. (And yes, I told him that.) So sad for everyone involved!

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