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Originally posted by rat
Every single little thing that women complain guys don't do--I do it. I'm also genuine when I do it because I do it almost out of a sense of duty--kinda like these are the things I should be doing, so I go ahead and do them. And I hated doing it with all but one of them.
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This right here got my attention. If you're doing all the *right* things from a sense of duty, no wonder you're getting tired! No matter how nice it is to recieve tokens of affection and even love, if a guy is not doing those things for me simply because he wanted me to know I was thinking of him, and he wanted to be creative and show his care/attention/love in spending his energy in making/doing thoughtful things that conveyed that caring, those gifts mean nothing. I was in a relationship where the genuine attention and love I got was far better and more important to me than lavish gifts. The three artistic and unique carnations I got while my irises were on order for my birthday once were one of THE most cherished tokens I got from the guy. And it was because he knew how much irises were my favorite flower, and the time he spent to track down something unique made me feel on top of the world.
So I guess all this is saying you need to stop the gifts and gestures if they're coming from a sense of obligation. A girl should be wanting to date you for YOU, not for the gifts and gestures she thinks she's going to recieve after she starts dating you.