The weight thing - well Hubby wasn't skinny when I met him nor is he now. I loved him for his sweet thoughtfulness, his humor, and his confidence. He was fun to be with. If a girl isn't willing to look past appearances then you don't want her anyway. For those that will look though appearances you can try to be yourself, have fun, not be afraid of what people think about you (i.e. confident) and be thoughtful and kind. It will make you stand out quickly. I wish you good luck in finding your dream woman.
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My Karma just ran over your Dogma.
