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I certainly know how you feel brother. I myself haven't had a GF in what... (counts on fingers) a long time, 10 years just about. And I have similar issues, overweight being what I think holds me back the most.
I have no lack of confidence in my own abilities in life, however being heavy gives you a self defeatist look on things. Instantly thinking no woman would ever want to be with you in 'that way' and so it makes it hard to take the leap to go for it. Plus, couple that with a general fear of rejection and it hurts our outlook on the opposit sex.
I myself and extremely outgoing. Everyone I have known or has gotten to know me has enjoyed my company (unless they've been lying and have taken me on as a friend just so they can mock me behind my back) and I just basically haven't had many lady friends. Basically, and I know the trouble is going to the fact that while being a social person, I don't like going to bars (i find them contrived and pathetic meat markets) unless it's with the boys for a game and a brew. I don't like to dance at all, and I work evenings meaning I couldn't get out much even if I wanted to. So I guess that wouldn't help.
I to have tried lossing weight, atkins, the gym 4 days a week and it works at the beginning but WHAM i let it slide and it's gone. I actually enjoy lifting or tredmilling but there's got to be someone for me to go and do it with or I just say f'it all i'm fat and that's it. Not like I'm not comfortable with myself, because I am. But the problem is that the ladies aren't comfortable with it. And so be it.
I've only resently been missing that extra person in my life, it's probably only a phase though because I've been by myself like this all my life and don't recall what it is like to have someone calling you besides your parents that isn't asking for your money/sell you magazine'/voters poll or to come into work a half hour early.
~holy vent batman~
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