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I see your point, but I think it breaks down even before the "this is my house" becomes a situation. At the age of 14 my parents told me "if you don't like the clothes we buy you, then buy your own", from that point own, I got myself a job, and worked for everything from old clothes I'd buy off friends, to the car and insurance on that car I got as a teen-ager. I hated my parents at the time for not being "supportive" of me, and eventually moved out as soon as I graduated high school to start my own life and be rid of their "rules". Then, I realized why they did what they did.
In those years I worked for myself, I developed the necessary skills of responsibility I needed to survive on my own, and get by, and be successful. I think too many parents are neglectful, they say "When you turn 18 you're out of the house", or "Oh, you need money for tonight, here's $sum go have fun". I think children in both these circumstances do not learn to make choices for themselves. I have friends who still live at home, and their parents just give them money everyday, and they literally do nothing. I have other friends, who have been kicked out of their home, had a child, and moved back in with their parents because their parents want to make sure their child is taken care of, and then that person who was kicked out, leaves the child as their parents' responsibility and continues the lifestyle they were having as though they didn't have a child.
It's a touchy subject, and I don't have any answers as to how it should be done. I do feel parents need to realize what's best for their children, and not one answer will be the right one for each person, because we're all different. Putting one person out on the streets can lead to completely different results as any other person.
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