I would take this to PM, but maybe this won't be brought up again if it is answered here.
What CosmoGirl doesn't realize is that many normal, well adjusted , nice men cannot get girlfriends without taking drastic tactics such as the ones outlined in this thread. She has either ignored the fact, or doesn't know any, or is in a state of denial. Most guys fitting the "nice, well adjusted, normal" stereotype are also "boring, unattractive, and shy" in the eyes of women. They have to become "exciting, outgoing, and confident" to get the women. That is what the 10 lessons are for, not for running a train on 314 random chicks in one week.
She only sees her point of view, the fact that she dates her friends, which she sees as attractive.
I, personally, am not attracted to any of my friends. I have female friends... that have the same interests as me, not because they have hot boobs. I have male friends because they have the same interests as me, not because I am attracted to them. I would bet the majority of people on earth are like me in this respect.
But, apparently, cosmogirl does pick friends of the opposite sex based on attractiveness. That's why she finds this so hard to believe. Most girls won't date their friends. Telling guys this just makes the problem worse, and these tutorials necessary.
These guys.. the nice, average looking, intelligent and socially clueless men will never get any girl in the world if they don't show some balls and a willingness not to be a pussy. No matter what they want the girl for. Sex, companionship, anything. Period. They in fact, try to befriend the girl first, as they think it is the right thing to do.
Using these techniques for dating... the person doesn't change, but the attitude towards dating does. They become a MAN, not a boy. They become interesting to women, no matter how they look. They become able to do what they want with women.
Cosmogirl, I really don't see why you have a problem with it. By using these tactics, more guys will come up to you and ask you out. There are plenty of women who would love to be asked out, but hang out around shy men too much.
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