Too late to post what I wanted but I will say this.
(Some women and I don't know enough to give a fully edu, opinion of all!)
will wait to tell you when something is bothering them. But when they do. It comes out as ranting, they bring up things that didn't have anything to do with the problem at hand.
Men interprit this as an attack. and get deffensive.
I learned this from Men are from Mars Women are from Venus btw.
keep your head up. If you care enough about each other you can work most things out. If you are willing to put in the effort.