dtappeiner

Ok....I can't win here. I am 34 yeears old and have been married for 10 years. I have always ejaculated quickly, no matter what I try. I know when I am going to ejaculate and I can stop (usually) but that doesn't really help becuase my wife gets frustrated when I stop. Our routine has become failry routine (unfortunately) but she still really turnes me on (which is great) and I feel so frustrated for the following reasons:

1. Because I can't usually control my orgasm
2. Because she doesn't orgasm
3. Routine!!

Ok, so here's the routine. I start by caressing her all over, teasing a little, ribbing my nails up and up an down her skin, her back, etc...then I tease her nipples and suck them...kissing her and her neck in between...I may be on top of her at this point just rubbing my cock againt her....she will usually reach down and stroke me...sometimes I even feel like I will cumm from this alone (and I have actually), but usually we keep going and if she let's me, I go down on her...she may in turn go down on me...I usually want to stay down on her until she cumms but she is always wanting to get me in her right away...we use condoms because she does not do well with the pill and I haven't gotten tid off yet!! Anyway, I will put the condom on and if I go non-stop I may last 2 minutes or so and then it's over. She hever cumms anymore and I am wondering what's up.

Why won't she let me eat her longer until she cumms. She has become failry conservative but she must be frustrated by not cumming?? I want to please her but I think she is more about getting it over with. Maybe because I always cumm too quickly?? I don't know if that makes sense because....

I went out and purchased some condoms with desensitizing lubricant and used those the other day...boy did they work...too well in fact. I got past the initial excitement and we screwed for at least 10 minutes, first missionary and then doggy...I was able to maintain my erection but I honestly could not feel much...well, while we are in doggy position...I see her kind of shake her head in frustration and I ask her what is wrong and she says "what's taking so long?" well...that was a deifnite mood killer of course..she obviously wasn't enjoing it much!! So, we talked and she said she felt like she wasn't turning me on , etc and that it never took me that long to cumm....I told her about the condoms and she felt better but I didn't!! Obviously she doesn't much enjoy the actual intercourse part.

Help, I am frustrated!! Is she cheating? Can she actually be happy not having an orgasm at all?

Frustated in CO