To put a slightly different angle on this, you say that she wants you really bad. Then you're (possibly) going to ask her out for coffee. Don't you think that's leading her on?
And I don't think she'd still want you if she knew you had a girlfriend for 4 years. In my opinion, you might as well be married at that point. You shouldn't be looking at other women unless there's a VERY good reason to leave your current one. And maybe there is. If you loved her, you wouldn't be looking to "trade up."
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