Wow... great thread...
I have a lot of thoughts and this topic... as i am a submissive... married to and serving my Husband/Dominant/Friend of 15 years...
I have to agree with Xapphire here... i am completely devoted to my husband, and freely show my submission... through my collar, and many other things. What makes my submission lasting, meaningful and full of depth for me, is my DECISION to do so. In my opinion... submission should not come from a place where you feel you "have to"... or have so little a sense of yourself that you know no different.
My husband has always said what he loves most about me is my fire... which btw includes a hell of a lot of stubborn pride, tenacity, and difficulty in surrendering. All of which make my submission that much more meaningful.
*shrug*... just my two cents... as i have learned in this lifetime... to each their own... and if it works for you and yours, and you are happy and healthy together?... more power to you.
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