I got married when I was 25 years old. Hubby was 22. I graduated from college one month after our wedding. The first year was bumpy but ok. The second was rough because of outside circumstances. The third was the worst and we both thought about divorce. The fourth we did a lot of talking and compromising as well as personally growing. The fifth was our best so far and I have hopes of it just getting better and better. I feel like we've finally crossed a few hurdles and we communicate our ups as well as down in a much more productive way.
I didn't actually connect to my husband till I decided that I was going to quit "hunting" for a man. I had determined that I didn't need a man or children to feel fulfilled and I had begin to make plans for my life on my own. I've talked to so many people who didn't find their mate - the RIGHT one - until they quit looking for them. I think that until you are confident enough to face life on your own that you would be too dependent and desperate for the RIGHT one to want to live with you.
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