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Originally posted by Yakk
(In addition, practically, doing "gushy" stuff in order to get laid can so result in a bad conditioned response from your partner. They learn quickly that cuddling implies you want sex from them. Thus, if they aren't in the mood for sex and you start cuddling, they'll react with that knowledge. If you cuddle for reasons unrelated to "I want sex now!", the positive response from cuddling won't be infected with a possible "you only touch me when you want something from me" negative response. This is just another reason to learn to enjoy cuddling for cuddling's sake, if you need it.)
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..that's a 2 way street though. I don't want to have to 'cuddle' her in order to get some action from her. And that's what it feels like to me. I will agree though....I'm not much of a cuddler....to me it's kinda pointless for her to practically sit on me when there are 2 huge couches while eatching tv. I like Grimlok's approach...but unfortunately she doesn't go to the same gym as me. I do wish that she had a friend tough to go work out with....i think going by herself is a big problem (for her) too!
..whenever I find the 'secret' formula...I will let you guys know....cause ladies...this is prolly the main reason why boyfriends cheat!!!