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I understand your concerns Hossified. I somtimes worry that telling my fiance' that she looks fine will backfire and she will go too far the other way and gain a lot more weight. I'm ok with her now but if she gained more her fears might come true and I really would lose my physical attraction to her. Sorry to all the hopeless romantics but yes, physical attraction is a big part of a relationship. Personally I would want someone to tell me if I got a bit pudgy. In fact at one time I did let myself go and people telling me I looked fine only allowed me to let it get worse before I got myself back in shape. With the significant other though honesty is a dangerous policy when it applies to appearance. My girl does the same thing with diets as well. She tries for a few weeks and if the pounds don't fly off she quits. Bottom line is she won't do it until she (much like an alcoholic) "hits bottom" and really feels she must get in shape. Until then maybe you could just try to add romance back into the equation. Do some of the things you did when you were first dating to get the original spark back. Try something new, a dance class or maybe some sort of martial art or something that interests her. Send her roses, write her a love letter, go on a trip. Maybe if you sweep her off her feet she'll sweep you into bed more often. Good luck.
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