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Prince · 04-11-2004, 01:56 PM

Ever had a "friend" that just didn't take a hint?

Enter wife's friend, let's call her "Laura". She got dumped by her boyfriend last year, and in her lack of other friends has latched onto my wife for frequent company and a social life. If a single day goes by that she doesn't call, I'll be truly amazed. It gets particularly bad on the weekends...that's when it feels as if the calls never stop. And then there's the drop-ins... *sigh* She is a co-worker of my wife's, so telling her to back off a little would just create an uncomfortable working environment for her. Besides, since my wife doesn't have other friends either, she likes hanging out with her now and then...and when she's not feeling up to it, she's usually too nice to tell her so.

As for me, I can't stand the bitch. Seriously. I was fine with her up until I started getting the distinct impression that she didn't like me. She had the tendency to invite my wife to do stuff with her, like go to a restaurant, and then add "and Mika can come, too". Gee, thanks. To top it all off she took it upon herself at one point to keep tabs on how my job hunt was going, and once when my wife told her that I hadn't found one, she said "well tell him that I'll call the INS about him if he doesn't get off his ass and find a job". Umm, 'k. At that point I was still working on getting my permanent residency, which as a process is no joyride, and quite frankly, despite the fact that there was no point to her calling anyone, much less the INS, about my unemployment, I just did not and do not find jokes like that amusing. At all. It's too fucking serious shit to joke about.

Anyway...my wife and I have little time for ourselves these days, and the weekends are the best chance we have to do stuff. Her constant interruptions are beginning to really annoy the fuck outta me.

I think having friends is very important, but what if someone is so desperate for company that they'll practically force themselves into your life, much to your disdain? I'd appreciate any stories you might have to share.

04-11-2004, 01:56 PM	#1 (permalink)
Prince /nɑndəsˈkrɪpt/ Location: LV-426	Undesired friendships. Ever had a "friend" that just didn't take a hint? Enter wife's friend, let's call her "Laura". She got dumped by her boyfriend last year, and in her lack of other friends has latched onto my wife for frequent company and a social life. If a single day goes by that she doesn't call, I'll be truly amazed. It gets particularly bad on the weekends...that's when it feels as if the calls never stop. And then there's the drop-ins... sigh She is a co-worker of my wife's, so telling her to back off a little would just create an uncomfortable working environment for her. Besides, since my wife doesn't have other friends either, she likes hanging out with her now and then...and when she's not feeling up to it, she's usually too nice to tell her so. As for me, I can't stand the bitch. Seriously. I was fine with her up until I started getting the distinct impression that she didn't like me. She had the tendency to invite my wife to do stuff with her, like go to a restaurant, and then add "and Mika can come, too". Gee, thanks. To top it all off she took it upon herself at one point to keep tabs on how my job hunt was going, and once when my wife told her that I hadn't found one, she said "well tell him that I'll call the INS about him if he doesn't get off his ass and find a job". Umm, 'k. At that point I was still working on getting my permanent residency, which as a process is no joyride, and quite frankly, despite the fact that there was no point to her calling anyone, much less the INS, about my unemployment, I just did not and do not find jokes like that amusing. At all. It's too fucking serious shit to joke about. Anyway...my wife and I have little time for ourselves these days, and the weekends are the best chance we have to do stuff. Her constant interruptions are beginning to really annoy the fuck outta me. I think having friends is very important, but what if someone is so desperate for company that they'll practically force themselves into your life, much to your disdain? I'd appreciate any stories you might have to share. __________________ Who is John Galt?