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Originally posted by Rodney
Do you give support for gays, lesbians, bisexuals, and transgendered folks if/when your conservative family brings it up? If they never do, would you? If you would speak in their favor to to your family, I think that'd be integrity enough.
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I'm in the same boat. I am bisexual, but I don't broach the topic. Doing so would isolate myself and make people uncomfortable for no good reason. But if people are talking about it anyway (and most certainly saying things like, "Bisexuality doesn't exist" or "you're either straight or gay"), then I'll throw in my two cents.
If your family starts saying "Swingers go to hell." Then politely inform them that hell is where you are going.
After talking with some lesbian friends of ours, a straight-guy friend said, "You know, if you are a minority, you won't be rejected socially if you are apathetic about that fact. If [insert lesbian names] were to be in everyone's face and saying, "I'm lesbian, does that make you uncomfortable?!?!" then they would only be friends with other lesbians.
I disagree that it is apathy that saves, but that it's realizing that sexuality is not a 'big deal'. Sexuality is a part of a person, but it is not the defining characteristic. Yes, it sucks to not be completely open about all of you, but pushing the subject intentionally is just not very modest.
Modesty is a conspiracy of silence, so only play your cards when someone's ignorance is insulting you.