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Fetish and reputation

Discussion in 'Tilted Life and Sexuality' started by Street Pattern, Dec 25, 2013.

  1. snowy

    snowy so kawaii Staff Member

    It's goooood.
     
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  2. ralphie250

    ralphie250 Fully Erect

    Location:
    At work..
    is it as good as I'm thinking it is?
     
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  3. AlterMoose

    AlterMoose Slightly Tilted

    Location:
    Pangaea
    Being been away for a while, I forgot just how much I love you freaks.
    The spanking of various sensitive bits drives Mrs Moose up the fucking wall. I wouldn't have thought it before trying it, but the way she twitches and moans makes me feel like some sort of hedonistic god.
    Yeah. Is good stuff.
     
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  4. How about being I guess "molested" in your sleep ? I sort of want that ..depending on who of course and if done right ..I want a chick to just want to do it and hopefully think I'm asleep and I'll just play along ...

    Is there anyway to get that to happen without really asking I want it unexpected ..which makes me think it's impossible...am I wrong ?

    No not a joke idk why I even feell Ike it's happening some nights just Bc Im half asleep dreaming and all and I play along usually just my dck moving bc Im gettin hard and since I'm laying down my boxers are tighter so it feels like something touching me ...

    It's sad it's the only thing I really dreamt of that I doubt will ever happen ..
     
  5. ralphie250

    ralphie250 Fully Erect

    Location:
    At work..
    communication with your significant other
     
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  6. Would ruin it tho .. I don't want planned or telling ..it's gotta be spontaneous so ...gonna be tough Id imagine ..I guess subtle hints but itll cheapen it for me massively .
     
  7. Herculite

    Herculite Very Tilted

    Going through life expecting your partner to read your mind is generally going to lead to boring times. We've had some amazing sexual adventures, and none of them would have happened if I waited for it to be "spontaneous".
     
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  8. Baraka_Guru

    Baraka_Guru Möderätor Staff Member

    Location:
    Toronto
    Anticipation can be way hotter than spontaneity.

    Though spontaneity is largely wishful thinking. It's difficult to pull off. Trying to effectively create serendipitous situations is probably a lot like trying to herd cats.
     
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  9. snowy

    snowy so kawaii Staff Member

    This.

    It's something I sometimes want and enjoy. I've given my husband consent to try and sex me up when I'm sleeping. Sometimes it works. Sometimes I burrito myself even in my sleep because I'm not in the mood. Regardless, we talked about it first.
     
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  10. snowy

    snowy so kawaii Staff Member

    This hit the news today (thanks, @Baraka_Guru, for bringing it to my attention in the first place):

    CBC cuts ties with Jian Ghomeshi after receiving “information” about Q host | Toronto Star
    Jian Ghomeshi's statement on Facebook:









    --- merged: Oct 26, 2014 at 7:16 PM ---
    Not to make light of his situation, as this is complicated, but personally, I'm a little aroused by this change in Jian's reputation... ;)

    [​IMG]
     
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  11. Street Pattern

    Street Pattern Very Tilted

    Whoa. Thanks. I could not imagine anything more directly relevant to this thread.
     
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  12. Levite

    Levite Levitical Yet Funky

    Location:
    The Windy City
    Whoa, dude. I've never been a big fan of Ghomeshi-- for some reason I've never been able to put my finger on, he just rubs me the wrong way a bit. But he clearly has always done a good job, and nobody should have to be summarily judged and fired for what they consensually do in their own private bedroom. Especially when the information about what they do in their own bedroom came to light because of lies and harrassment.

    I am very disappointed in the CBC. I home Jian Ghomeshi finds another gig quickly, and is able to recover from this.
     
  13. Charlatan

    Charlatan sous les pavés, la plage

    Location:
    Temasek

    I think we need to remember that we have only really heard one side of the story here. It's my understanding that there is more to come. Gomeshi hired top PR firm Navigator to help him get out in front of this. His letter on Facebook was just the first salvo.

    For the record, I am not ready to take a side in this. I need more information.
     
  14. Charlatan

    Charlatan sous les pavés, la plage

    Location:
    Temasek
    And here we start to see there might be more to the story:

    LINK
     
  15. Levite

    Levite Levitical Yet Funky

    Location:
    The Windy City
    Hmmm. Well, if true, that would be both awful and surprising. I have to admit, if he's really a violent abuser, he does a fantastically convincing job maintaining his public persona as a soft-spoken, progressive, promoter of tolerance and peaceful dialogue through art.

    Still, you never know. People who have secret lives can be amazing actors to keep their secret. He would hardly be the first to pull of such a convincing charade in public while doing terrible things in private.

    On the other hand, in his statement, Ghomeshi says that the CBC execs confidently said, after examining whatever evidence he felt he had to present, that they felt he always had consent. And he also points out that his accusers sought to go to the media rather than to the police, which I agree seems odd and suspicious. That being the case, I could wish that, rather than firing him on the spot, they had placed him on administrative leave while there was a formal inquiry.

    If he is lying, and he was non-consensually violent, he should indeed be fired, and should be prosecuted as well; and I will be deeply disappointed in him.

    However, if he is telling the truth, and he had consent, and is now having his name dragged through the mud for spite or other personal vendettas, then he should retain his job at CBC and his name be cleared.

    What displeases me about this is the possibility that he might end up having told the truth and having had consent, but have been fired and lost his reputation because of rumor-mongering and slander.
     
  16. Charlatan

    Charlatan sous les pavés, la plage

    Location:
    Temasek
    It's dirty any way you look at it.

    It's not clear and his classic PR move (spearheaded by Navigator) is muddying the water just as any good PR move should.
     
  17. Lindy

    Lindy Moderator Staff Member

    Location:
    Nebraska
    I guess it is part of my non watching TV habit, but I know nothing of Jian Ghomeshi, which leaves me both ignorant and apathetic, so as is usual with my attitude toward celebrities, I don't know and I don't care.
     
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  18. Charlatan

    Charlatan sous les pavés, la plage

    Location:
    Temasek
    He's the host of a Canadian radio program on CBC Radio One that has been syndicated in the US via NPR.

    He isn't really a celebrity, so much as he is a really good interviewer.
     
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  19. Levite

    Levite Levitical Yet Funky

    Location:
    The Windy City
    So this blogger is apparently a master kinkstress, and she evaluates the Ghomeshi incident as follows:

    I find her analysis to be compelling. I am starting to question more and more that Ghomeshi is any kind of kinkster, but maybe is just another guy who tries to hide that he has a major problem conflating horniness and rage, most likely with a touch of misogyny.

    How disappointing.
     
  20. snowy

    snowy so kawaii Staff Member

    That would be exceptionally disappointing.

    Also, I'd think anyone in the public eye would have a comprehensive conversation about consent and about hard and soft limits before proceeding. Though we only engage in play on the very light end of the spectrum, even there it takes a lot of talk to figure out who wants what, who is willing to do what. I would say that it's probably a good idea, if you are a public figure and engage in this kind of play, to get written consent prior to play.