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Why Do You Live Where You Live?

Discussion in 'General Discussions' started by snowy, Oct 31, 2014.

  1. snowy

    snowy so kawaii Staff Member

    For some of us, the reasons are plain and simple: it's close to work, it's close to family. For some of us, the reasons are more complicated. Why do you live where you live?

    We live in a small city in the PacNW. My husband is a "townie"--he's essentially lived here all of his life. I came here for university, loved it, and stayed. We moved away for a job for a few months; that was nice, we lived in the big city, and it was fun.

    His work now is a commute from where we live, but we still choose to live in this small city over places closer to his work. Here is the conclusion I have come to: I like a balance between small town life and the big city, and where we are now provides a good combination of that. Where I work is a much smaller town, as is where he works, but where we live is in between. There are certain things we require in life: restaurants with vegetarian options, bars that aren't meth holes, and multiple grocery stores. We live where we live because I want to be able to shop at stores other than Safeway or Wal-Mart, I want to be able to go out to eat places my husband can eat, and I want to be able to go and drink craft beer at places where I won't have to deal with meth heads. The town he works in provides none of those options. As it stands, I can go to the independent cinema if I want, the symphony, concerts of all kinds, collegiate sports events, etc.

    What services are present in your town that you consider essential? Why do you live where you live?
     
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  2. Lindy

    Lindy Moderator Staff Member

    Location:
    Nebraska
    I'll have to come back to this thread, I need sleep. But I could swear that you're talking about Lincoln, Nebraska.:cool:
     
  3. Speed_Gibson

    Speed_Gibson Hacking the Gibson

    Location:
    Wolf 359
    Close to my kids and if that changed can't afford to move. Beyond that important reason, I would prefer to move back to the Salem Oregon area. I grew up south of there beween Salem and Portland but would probably pick Salem itself. If you can't find a decent job in the state capital then there is a problem. I think the parking lot for the State Fairgrounds alone is nearly the size of the entire fairgrounds here near Colfax. Been a few years though since I have seen the fair in Salem.

    On the plus side, "traffic" out here in the middle of nowhere is absolutely nothing. I learned to drive on I-5/217/The Banfield and have yet to see anything resembling actual traffic in 10+ years. Spokane is a different story, but that shares much more in common with Portland in terms of size/layout/congestion/etc.
     
  4. Charlatan

    Charlatan sous les pavés, la plage

    Location:
    Temasek
    I moved to Singapore for work. I have since changed jobs and am still here. My family and I Iove it here.

    The reason we live where we do in Singapore is because it is one of the few places that gives us a house with a yard that is also affordable. Prior to this place, we lived in condos. They had pools and all the amenities, but they were still just apartments.

    Long story short, we had an opportunity to move into this neighbourhood and jumped at it. It's close to the subway. Close to all the amenities we want and not too far from work.
     
  5. Chris Noyb

    Chris Noyb Get in, buckle up, hang on, & be quiet.

    Location:
    Large City, TX
    We can't afford to move. A degree in Journalism (me) and a degree in Music (my wife) doesn't equal high paying jobs. Choosing to do work we enjoy is another factor.

    When we moved into our neighborhood it was mostly retirement age white people, many widows since men tend to die before women. Housing prices were high enough to keep rental properties to a minimum, but that has changed. One way folks here cover the rent is having mutiple families living in one house. That was rare back when we decided to buy our house.
     
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  6. Fremen

    Fremen Allright, who stole my mustache?

    Location:
    E. Texas
    I was born here.
    I've had my thumb up, but nobody is stopping.
     
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  7. Chris Noyb

    Chris Noyb Get in, buckle up, hang on, & be quiet.

    Location:
    Large City, TX
    Given the conservative movement in Texas over the last few decades (not that most Texas democrats were any where close to being considered liberals), I would have no problem leaving Texas.
     
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  8. genuinemommy

    genuinemommy Moderator Staff Member

    Why do you live where you live?
    I currently live in the general vicinity of Cincinnati, Ohio. Hubby and I came out to this part of the country from California for graduate school. It was affordable for us both to get our higher education at the same time, living off stipends. We wouldn't have both gotten our degrees had we stayed in California, we would have needed at least one solid income to afford basic necessities like food and a roof over our heads. I chose a school that had a reputable graduate school in my area of interest, accepting a decrease in income compared to my undergrad grants, but it was enough to cover rent and food. What tipped me in the direction of this school, though, was that I happened to notice that they had a scholarship for their MBA program that my husband would probably qualify for. He didn't apply to the MBA until after we moved, and with his excellent undergraduate GPA from a top-tier university, he had no issues getting that scholarship. So we both were able to do graduate school, and we were able to get through graduate school without going into debt - while paying off our cars. When he graduated his MBA I was still plugging away at my PhD, so he got a job. The job happened to be in Northern Kentucky. He suffered through an unbearable winter of 2+ hour commutes both ways, and we decided to move someplace that would give us both 45-minute commutes with an attached 2-car garage. We found the only townhouse complex that fit that description and moved there. We chose this specific unit. It happened to be the first unit they showed us after the model, and I walked in, noted that the views were incredible, there was a tiny ~5'x5' hunk of dirt in the front where I could plant stuff, and saw that the windows of the house were East/West, which is how the homes Tom and I grew up in were situated, which is oddly something we both really depend on for our circadian clocks (we've lived in apartments that had no Eastern-facing windows and our sleep schedules were really badly off for that year). I said the place was perfect, the person showing us around was really confused that I didn't want to see more units, and we started painting/moving in the next week. We've lived in that townhouse for 4 years. We'll be moving out of it in December for our next adventure, and I'm sure I'll miss it.

    What services are present in your town that you consider essential?
    Water/electric/sewer hookups.
    Close proximity to hiking/biking trails.
    A grocery store with vegetarian food options.

    We moved to a place that would give us both 45-minute commutes, that had an attached 2-car garage. That was the primary search criteria we used when we found our current residence. We didn't think at all about what was nearby. This narrow prioritization did bite us in the behind in some ways. We are cut off from the park system and bike trails that are in our town by a huge freeway, and there are no safe pedestrian or bike paths to cross over. We are in a relatively posh townhouse complex that has a pool and a gym, which are nice to have. There is a lot of open space with grass and trees that make for nice walks and pretty views, but no sidewalks. The outdoor space is very hilly (good for adventurous sledding!), so there's no good place to play ball and there is no playground within walking distance for our daughter to play.

    Our posh townhouse complex seems out of place in this primarily working class town. There are a lot of 3rd shift workers, so we rarely see our neighbors. We are a racial minority (nearly everyone else is Black or Latino, we are Caucasian). The public schools are really, really bad - and yet most everyone here sends their kids to those schools and they take huge pride in their sports teams (I just don't understand this part of the midwest culture, I guess).

    Since we commute and our neighbors work 3rd shift, we have to travel great distances for social events with co-workers or friends from school, and have no friends in our immediate area. We put ourselves in a place that is honestly too isolating.
     
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  9. Bodkin van Horn

    Bodkin van Horn One of the Four Horsewomyn of the Fempocalypse

    I live somewhere in the triangle formed by the headquarters of Google, Apple and Facebook. We came out here because I got a job, and we're kind of stuck out here because we lucked into a cheap apartment in a place that's kind of awesome for raising kids.

    This place is a bubble in so many ways. There wasn't really an economic downturn here. Everyone here is from somewhere else because the cost of living is so expensive. Houses that would be $200,000 where I grew up sell for $1.5 million here and are frequently bought by Chinese real estate investors sight unseen. Because of the ridiculous cost of living out here, it's pretty unlikely that we'll stick around after the kids go off to whatever they decide to do after high school. Especially because droughts and ocean-flooding are in the region's long term forecasts.
     
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  10. snowy

    snowy so kawaii Staff Member

    Yeah, there are jobs for my husband in that neck of the woods, and both of us are not interested. Unless he got that dream job offer from Tesla, of course.
     
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  11. Bodkin van Horn

    Bodkin van Horn One of the Four Horsewomyn of the Fempocalypse

    I know folks who work there. As an employer, it's kind of a mixed bag. Aside from the name (and the stock options), it can be kind of a shitty place to work. They have more of an Apple approach to employee satisfaction (long hours, pay that doesn't necessarily compare well with other companies in the area), than a Facebook approach (lots of amenities, frequent off-site excursions, unlimited free perfectly cooked bacon). Though if you work in the right department, you can take a Tesla home with you to "test drive".
     
  12. snowy

    snowy so kawaii Staff Member

    A friend just got a job there, so I'm interested to hear how he likes it, since it is in my husband's industry and new area of expertise.
     
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  13. Bodkin van Horn

    Bodkin van Horn One of the Four Horsewomyn of the Fempocalypse

    It's an exciting company to work for, for sure. And having an in with Elon Musk, no matter how small, is kind of awesome if he's your thing.
     
  14. ralphie250

    ralphie250 Fully Erect

    Location:
    At work..
    i olive where i live because of a bad decicion. i grew up in the town i live in now, met my wife in school, we got married and moved to a small town 40 miles south of where we currently live. i loved my house, i had 6+ acres of land, it was in the country. that is what i wanted, fast forward many years, my wifes mom died (long story) and at the time she died my wife was 7 months pregnant. after all was said and done with the funeral, my sister in law made the comment that we could move into their moms house, which is across the street from my sister in law, becasue she could help with the baby, closer to family etc... my wife thought it would be a great idea, but she knew i hated the idea. but i agreed because i wanted to make my wife happy. needless to say we had some work done to the house and i packed up everything in our old house on a friday, put it in a ryder truck, unloaded it all the next day with the help of some friends and my wife was induced on monday. for the record i hate my house and where i live. the shcool system sucks ass thats why i put my daughter in a private school.
     
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  15. redravin

    redravin Cynical Optimist Donor

    Location:
    North
    I grew up in this crazy state and without Jadzia to keep me in NJ coming back to Alaska seemed to the right choice.
    Finding a place to live is a challenge because the rents are so high but my kiddo found a decent apartment on a bus route and bike trails for less than a major organ every month.
    Heat is important considering the weather and of course cable, neither of which is cheap.

    There is something amazing about this place that can be hard to describe.
    Just stepping out the front door and looking out at the mountains or seeing moose walking down the street.
    I've lived here all my life and coming back is a weird experience.
     
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  16. Street Pattern

    Street Pattern Very Tilted

    I live in Ann Arbor, Michigan, which is consistently rated as one of the best places to live in the US. There are plenty of cultural opportunities, topnotch health care facilities, good public schools, an excellent public transit system, very little crime, and just about the only thriving old-city downtown business district in Michigan, if not the Midwest.

    There's a wide variety of housing available, from semi-rural to suburban ranch houses to walkable historic neighborhoods to high-rise apartments. Housing costs are high by Midwest standards, but very low compared to the coasts.

    When my wife finished her internship, she had offers for postdocs in three places: Yale, Northwestern, and the University of Michigan. Ann Arbor was the most sensible choice, given that we were getting married later that year, and it was closest to where family and friends were.

    Ann Arbor is a sought-after place to live and work for professional people, so rents are high and salaries are low. Hence, a whole lot of people either work in Ann Arbor and live cheaper elsewhere, or live in Ann Arbor and commute to more lucrative jobs elsewhere. My wife and I were in the latter group for several years, commuting two hours a day in opposite directions, but now we both live and work here.
     
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  17. snowy

    snowy so kawaii Staff Member

    This sounds a lot like where we are. The university fosters a lot of start-ups. Crime is incredibly low, and our city has been named the safest city of its size multiple times. Our downtown core is full of little shops and restaurants. In fact, I'm going down there this evening to barcrawl on Halloween. Should be fun!
     
  18. omega

    omega Very Tilted

    Came out of Maryland, a nice area but heavily crowded. That being said, I don't want to live in the country either. So I told my wife at the time, "we're moving, make it so". So we moved to an inland state, not too far from the mountains. Warm dry summers, variable winters. Good snowstorms, but can be fifty degrees two days later. Great skiing in the mountains, good mountain biking. Decent open space. Housing isn't cheap, but a little better than Maryland. Low humidity means fewer bugs, less sweating. This area is developing, so it is getting more crowded. But most areas have carved out some open space. I'm happy here. And now I like what I do.
     
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  19. ASU2003

    ASU2003 Very Tilted

    Location:
    Where ever I roam
    This is a good question.

    I moved here for a job is the easy answer. I would have moved pretty much anywhere back when I was looking for work.

    If I lost my job, I would like to move, but I have no idea where I could move to. There is a high possibility of buying a boat and traveling around Michigan in the Summer and Florida in the Winter. Because just staying in my house that I have now, the property taxes and insurance would cost as much as food for a year on a boat.

    This area in Ohio isn't too bad. Well, November through March aren't very good since it is cold. But, I have found very few cities around the world that are better at the same cost of living. If I wanted to live like I do now in San Francisco let's say, I would probably need 3x the salary. The one place I would move back to is Arizona. I'm not sure where in the Phoenix valley I would want to move to, but it is a possibility. Arizona has it's own problems though. New Mexico might be an option, as would Nevada. Reno or Vegas would be high on my list. I wouldn't rule out California yet either. The issue is figuring out where to move to and what to do. After visiting Washington, the Oregon Coast, and the Northern coast of California, I realized that I need to be within 10 miles of a hardware big box store, and within 10 miles of a large grocery store. But, I would also like to live close to a beach. I have never lived anywhere close to a nice beach.

    Moving out of the country might be an option someday, but so would moving back to my hometown (at least for the Summer).
     
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  20. snowy

    snowy so kawaii Staff Member


    Out here, we have Fred Meyers, which is a Portland original bought out by Kroger some time ago. Fred Meyers advertises itself as "one-stop shopping," and for the most part, they mean it. I can buy my groceries, a nice dress, motor oil, a enameled cast iron Dutch oven, art for my walls, camping gear, a card for my dad's birthday, and nursery plants at one place. The one in my town is a little small, but there are several large ones up and down the coast that serve the purpose of being both the hardware big box store and the large grocery store.