What would society look like if nudity, sex, and porn were normal and violence was bad?

One of my memories growing up at around 9-12 years old was watching The Terminator with my Dad. Seeing Arnold shoot up the Police Station wasn't a problem, but seeing Sarah Connor in a G rated shaded 'sex' scene was awkward...shouldn't that be the opposite?

Could you imagine if an X-Art style sex scene was in a major Hollywood movie and there was no FCC or 'family group' to complain about it?

I do think the Internet has started to turn the tide a little on this, where boys can now see what they want, but I don't think it is quite 'socially acceptable' yet by any means.

Would our cities turn into Amsterdam or Las Vegas if this happened? Would we have a lot more nude beaches and less violent crime? Would going into a sex store and talking about sex be just as easy as going into a gun store with friends?

 

Maybe if I had grown up not having to view scrambled Cinemax, I wouldn't be so warped.

 

Dude, you too? Your post brought back some memories...

 

For a guy growing up in Ontario in the 80's, it was the Italian movies on Saturday night tv. I got my parents to let me stay up late on Saturday night to watch Saturday Night Live, thus was a little teenage pervert created.

 

How is that odd? I'd pick sex anyday over someone being beat or stabbed to death in front of my kids.

 

Growing up, my daughters saw R rated movies before they saw PG-13 ones. Sex I can explain, mass murders and random violence, not so much.

 

I loved watching violent movies. I got to watch them all the time but had to close my eyes for anything dirty. - I'm now extremely non violent and sexual. Would watching dirty movies makes you less dirty as an adult?

As for violence in movies- i don't see that as effecting normal people.

For sexuality- i just want a world where nudity is acceptable.

 

I hate having to explain to my daughter (12) that seeing people killed and hurt is considered acceptable, but seeing people kissing and in bed is socially unacceptable.

She's just on the edge of Asperger's (yes, actual diagnosis, not parental excuse for bad behaviour) and she doesn't get how it is ok to see people hurt, but not loved.

It's not especially unhealthy here, but you have it even worse in the colonies. :-(

 

Porn study scrapped as researchers can't find any young men who haven't seen it - Mirror Online

Thanks to the Internet, it appears that porn is becoming much more widespread, yet for some reason even though everyone has or will seen it, even showing a boob for a split second during the half time show is still controversial...

Mainly because it is secret and there is a problem with seeing nudity with parents or other people who might know. Some other countries have come to grips a little with that, but I'm not holding my breath on that happening in the US soon.

 

It would be a lot like living in Denmark.

They are down on violent movies and have a low crime rate. On the other hand, they seem to have an open mind toward life & sex.

 

I don't mind the idea that some things are "risque" and "adult," but I totally agree, that should be violence, not sex. There is something so freakishly mind-fucked about letting your kids watch violence on TV, in movies, in video games-- all over the place-- but God forbid that that anyone under the age of 18 gets to see people's junk on TV, or depictions of people making love.

We still really live under the Victorian delusion that children are innocent, and innocence must be preserved at all costs until a child comes of age (which we arbitrarily say happens at 18-- either far too late or a fair chunk too early, depending on how we define maturity). This idea is pure bullshit. If there's one thing I've learned as a teacher it's that kids are no fools, and they are not innocent-- they're just immature and inexperienced. Kids know that the stuff that adults try to shield them from exists, and for the most part, they're not all that interested in being blindly shielded. They want to understand, to know what's out there. The students I've had who are the most grounded, the most centered and mature for their ages, are the ones whose parents don't just try to pretend their kid doesn't have any interest in sex, or try to convince their kid that sex is "dirty;" the ones whose parents talk to them about violence, and make them media literate; the ones who, if they try to forbid their kids from something, take the time to tell the kid why, and what they are trying to prevent; and whose parents are flexible and willing to listen and not judge.

The real problem isn't that stuff is or isn't permitted, or what is or isn't more widely censored, it's the fact that we don't educate ourselves and our kids about media, we don't talk to each other and to kids about the choices we make in media consumption, regulation, and censorship, and we not only allow a vast proportion of our media to come from a tiny handful of sources (thus severely limiting the spectrum of what's out there, what different kinds of media products there are to discuss and evaluate) but we permit our rules about media censorship to be made by politically pandering morality police, and that will never lead to healthy rules or results.