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Refuse your 4-year-old kid McDonald's? Lose custody of them! What custody messes do you know of?

Discussion in 'Tilted Life and Sexuality' started by Borla, Nov 8, 2013.

  1. Borla

    Borla Moderator Staff Member

    Check this article out:

    How Saying No to McDonald's Might Lead to Dad Losing Custody | Parenting - Yahoo Shine

    Dad has 4yr old for custody visit. Dad says "we can go anywhere for dinner except McDonald's". Kid throws a tantrum and insists on McDonald's. Dad says "anywhere but McDonald's or no dinner". Kid picks no dinner option. Mom finds out and now wants the idea discussed of having the father's visitation/custody rights completely revoked. *facepalm*


    What a nightmare. It appears the father just wanted the kid to not eat junk food. Now he faces losing the right to have his son visit him completely. Without more information, I mostly blame the mother. Did she really need to escalate it to that based solely on this incident, as reported by a 4yr old? Is it really abuse to allow a little kid to skip one meal because he's having a tantrum?

    I know some of you probably have kids you've shared custody of, have friends in that scenario, or were the kid in that scenario.

    What are your thoughts on custody battles and the stupid things parents fight about, seemingly just to cause grief for the other parent?
     
    Borla, Nov 8, 2013
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  2. Remixer

    Remixer Middle Eastern Doofus

    Location:
    Frankfurt, Germany
    My SO showed me this article yesterday and it pissed us both off. There were three main reasons:

    1. This child was obviously exploiting the sensitivity of the divorce situation. And his dumbass mother instantly rewarded him for it rather than discipline him.

    2. It boggles the mind how widespread the incompetence of social workers/psychiatrists involved with Western family courts is. Evaluations/forensic analyses are almost entirely arbitrary in their methodology and results are evaluated subjectively without any systematic oversight. To quote:

    Source: http://www.stanford.edu/group/psylawseminar/standards.pdf

    3. The case is just another reminder of how skewed and irrational the entire arena of Family Law is. Parents combat each other in their pursuit of having/keeping the bigger slice of the pie, and manipulate the crap out of their children in a vain effort to make the relationship with the other parents, and thus the life of the ex-partner, as miserable as possible. Little of it serves the best interests of the children, and the system has a huge need for comprehensive reform.

    I have no idea of the likelihood of the dad's lawsuit ending in success, but I am nevertheless very happy to see that there are looming consequences for the psychiatrist. I just hope she won't get away with it by arguing the First Amendment.
     
    Remixer, Nov 8, 2013
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  3. RedSneaker

    RedSneaker Very Tilted

    I think this I'd ridiculous.
     
    RedSneaker, Nov 8, 2013
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  4. omega

    omega Very Tilted

    I don't mind him not taking him to mcdonalds, but he should not have sent a 4 year old to bed without dinner. A kid that young isn't going to understand a lesson that protracted. It should have been something like a peanut butter sandwich or something.
     
    omega, Nov 8, 2013
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  5. Charlatan

    Charlatan sous les pavés, la plage

    Location:
    Temasek
    The need of a peanut butter sandwich aside... This smells like a typical custody battle.
     
    Charlatan, Nov 12, 2013
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  6. KirStang

    KirStang Something Patriotic.

    Location:
    In the 17 Judicial Circuit
    I personally hate acrimonious divorce cases, but, we do what we must. It's also noteworthy that there is generally *a lot* of discretion involved in family law battles--the Judge usually has to make a determination based on those factors, but those determinations are governed by once again--discretion. You only get to correct the judge on the very lenient "abuse of discretion" standard.*

    I don't think the allegation will go very far, but I sincerely hope the Dad gets attorneys' fees and costs for litigating such a silly claim.

    *this isn't legal advice and shouldn't be construed as such.
     
    KirStang, Nov 14, 2013
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  7. rogue49

    rogue49 Tech Kung Fu Artist Staff Member

    Location:
    Baltimore/DC
    This is why we have laws and amendments that protect civil rights.
    The authorities are not always correct.
    In fact, they can be just as stupid and abusive as the people they are "supposedly" investigating.

    I don't shy away from defending myself.
    Too many people take the notion that the authority is just that.
    In the end, they are human.
    Be your own advocate. (and get a lawyer, if needed...and even then, watch for yourself...lawyers are also human)
     
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    rogue49, Nov 14, 2013
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