Painful Sex (not first time)

Okay so here's a story for the TFP to throw their collective experience at.

I'm a guy, 29, married for two years. My wife and I have have had lots of sex. I've not kept a running count, but a few years of happy, mutually satisfactory sex. About two months ago she pretty much stopped cold turkey. I'd ask her, she'd come up with some reasonable reason to decline. This went on for like two months until I finally stopped believing her and asked for a real explanation. Eventually she told me that it had become unusually painful to have sex. She described it as a painful pinching or cutting sensation in her lower abdomen. So I started Googling and everything talks about something called "vaginismus", which sounds more like a generic symptom and not really any specific problem. A lot of it is either some weird mental conditioning or relatively normal first time problems. Given the history, this doesn't really fit.

Eventually I got her to relax and she let me poke around with well lubricated fingers and a flashlight and she was ok during this, even when I went inside. We did find a troublesome spot, but I couldn't really see anything obviously different or wrong there. I was slightly inside the vagina somewhere well before the g-spot. Like right inside. Anyway, she's got an appointment to get it checked out, but maybe someones been down this road before.

If it was vaginismus, why was it never a problem before?

If there was some kind of an abrasion or something, wouldn't it have healed after all this time?

 

I agree with seeing a doctor. Borla's right, there really is no way to tell without an examination by a professional. There's too many possibilities for diagnosis by symptoms.

It's pretty a pretty low chance, but when my ex-wife randomly started having pain during sex, it turned out she had developed an allergy to latex. We were particularly cautious young adults at the time and were using condoms and birth control. We tried polyurethane condoms for a while, but they got expensive and we just stopped using them altogether.

 

Another thing that can cause pain on intercourse are ovarian cysts. My wife had that for a while, its how she realized that she really LOVES doggie style.

 

See the doctors. My woman has a multitude of problem, including cysts. She's now in physical therapy to see if she can improve her enjoyment of sex, due to some other problem I can't remember the name of right now.

As far as "it used to be great, then it's not" that happens as we get older. Our stuff changes over time. It's probably not something you two were doing wrong.

 

Just out of curiosity are they better than the regular latex ones?

 

I got nothing but all I could think when I read the OP's post was, "I'm not a gynaecologist but I'll take a look."

 

i agree, i think she should see a doctor, ask her if you can accompany her, it might make her feel better about the whole situation

 

Yes and no. There was more sensation, but because they're not quite as stretchy they took a little getting used to.