New ideas for a masochist.

I currently am in a relationship with a man whom I love very much. He happens to be a masochist, and I a sadist. No, he is not any sort of slave. He is a partner. Neither of us "belong" to the other.
I am looking for new ideas to pleasure him next time we are together... We currently have tried biting, cutting, clawing, scratching, and asphyxiation. Do any of you have some suggestions for us?

 

Hello, Aydia.

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Tiny bit of olive oil on the nipple. The scourer will be able to cut through AND slide at the same time. You don't want friction, but moving pressure over the tiniest area.
The corner of the scourer is like a microscopic thatch of brambles.

We begin with a light 'tease' which will wake his nipple up. After a minute or so of this, his sensation could be described as a kind of irritating sexual hunger, centreing in the nipples but flicking from time to time within the groin. if we oil our palm and cup his glans, that will ground it, removing the irritation whilst making the overall experience more pressurised and intense.

Then we trap his nipple between scourer and fingernail ... like, we're pinching his nipple, but one side, we're pinching the scourer on to him. GENTLY increase the pinch. The scourer is not as hard as metal, but it is sharp and abrasive. If we've primed that nipple enough, it will get heightened focussed jolts in what feel like amplified nerve-endings. Some people feel like their nipple has turned into the universe, with nebulae condensing into stars which run their life- course from O-type to B, A, F, G, K and finally the M-class red giants before going nova, exploding and flashing their petite morte message across the galaxies. Especially when taking LSD. In fact usually only when taking LSD.

At that point, we can keep the scourer/fingernail pinch OR fold the scourer so that we are pinching the scourer ONto his nipple with both fingers. It is important to keep infinitesimal lateral motions as well as increasing pressure, otherwize the nipple becomes slighly numb due to acclimiation, and we don't want that. For is pleasure/pain AND his safety, he needs to remain at maximum sensitivity. Otherwize he might not know when to say stop, or to use some safe word, like 3.14159265359 or καλοκαγαθία

In fact, I strongly recommend smiling and retaining eye-contact at all times, well, not so much the smile, but definitely the eye-contact, because we've got to be part of the process of taking no chances re going too far, but heck .. YOU're the sadist and probably know abou tthat aspect a lot better than I do.

Now, I appreciate that you are a sadist and he is a masochist, and that so far, all I'm doing is advocating a slow process of sensitisation. I suppose it's because I'm not a sadist BUT I do like giving and receiving those ecstasies that occur on the threshold between pleasure and pain. Pleasure taken to the point just before system-failure. Then held there for a long time. It's very nice. In fact, it's very nice indeed.

So, let's see ... I'd calibrate to the threshold - fine tune my senses to her go/no go threshold, and keep it on the pleasure side. I suppose you'd move it over to the pain side. Once you're there, then you're where I don't go - I've not got a clue about the protocols of how to make it work, but I hope the basic method could be useful, or at least, a springboard as you continue to develop your lovemaking.

Best wishes.

 

Have you tried e-stim, or electric stim on him? That can give someone quite a ride. the ability to create different sensations from pleasurable to sharp and very intense is something else. I dont approach it from a masochist perspective, but a little adjustment or twist of the knob is pretty potent.