ladies in the 40 and older

is it odd to like and want to have relation with ladies older then 40 will i am only 24 years

 

When I was a young man, I thought women 35 to 45 were hawt. I liked the younger ones too, but older ladies seemed to have settled into their looks and sexuality.

Never dated one, but MILF dreams were the norm.

 

For sex? Do it. For a relationship? Comes with issues.

Age differences create issues in life stage priorities. A 24 year old is starting their career, still wild and free... whereas a 40 year old is mid-career, is likely settled into a domestic routine.

Age differences create issues with context in pop culture. I couldn't be in a serious relationship with a woman either too young or too old because she wouldn't get my '80s cartoon references.

I was banging a sophomore college girl for week and she didn't know Thundercats. To the curb, wench.

 

and they all stink

 

^^^This. Totally this.

Absolutely zero wrong with hooking up with whoever you find hot, so long as they are over the age of consent and interested. I know when I was in my early 20s, there were plenty of 30something and 40something MILF types I would have loved to fuck every which way from Sunday.

But an actual relationship with someone who is of a considerably different age with you does tend to involve considerable complications. Most especially, as @Plan9 incisively noted, in terms of life priorities and needs.

When I was in my early 20s, I was all about dropping everything for new experiences, taking all kinds of risks, having adventures, doing some partying, and I was still very much finding myself. Now, in my early 40s, aside from having a career and kids, I am much more selective about what kinds of risks I am inclined to take, what kind of new experiences I feel motivated to seek out; I am infinitely less interested in partying, and I have a fairly settled and clear idea of who I am. When I was in my early 20s, I was totally open to short term relationships and flings (though in practice I have always tended to be a serial long-term monogamist); but by the time I hit my mid-30s, I was done: I wanted commitment.

Granted, not everyone is like I am in those respects. It is entirely possible to find people in their 40s who still enjoy a more bohemian lifestyle, and their priorities have never really shifted from their youth. But I tend to think the majority of people, as they hit their 30s and 40s, probably slide a bit more in the directions I've gone.

Also, cultural reference gap is a legitimate phenomenon. It can be off-putting, and make you feel displaced. It's less critical than the issues around differences in priorities. But it's there.

 

I'm not 40, but I'm getting there...Would I date someone in their 20's? Not right now....I've got a man. Who knows what the future holds though. I don't like a lot of people, regardless of age.

I don't think it's fair to say that a 40 year old woman and 24 year old man are incapable of having a lasting relationship. We don't know this woman. Since the OP is from a new member, I doubt many if anyone know him. He could be one of those "old soul" types. Lots of assumptions. I'd need more information....

This is not questioned when the genders are in opposite roles. A 40 year old man and a 24 year old woman is seldom questioned any more. If we start perpetuating the cultural bias against a 40 year old woman and a 24 year old man in a relationship, then it will always be taboo.

Would it last? A lot of relationships don't last for all kinds of reasons. I didn't go after my baby daddy at first because I was afraid of what others, mainly my redneck family, might think of me with an Asian man. There are cultural differences and societal differences, but fuck it. I wish I hadn't let it get to me, because I wasted at least a whole year by not being with him from the beginning. If you like this woman...go for it. The sex will probably be pretty good. With age comes wisdom and confidence.

 

Agree with a couple of points: First the sex should be really good. I believe based on personal experience that many woman reach their peak of sexuality in their late 30's and into their 40's.

As a 24 year old I was sort of half-man half-boy. Not really mature enough for a serious long term relationship but I remember many of the women I knew who were the same age, seemed more mature than I did. So it helps me to see how the older man/younger woman thing could work.

 

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thanks all, but i really like olders, and have a lot of relation with them

 

Depends on the woman, I mean Liz Hurley is 50 and who would say no to her

 

not me, but thatll never happen