I have a fetish of being watched while pleasuring myself. Any thoughts?

Let me first say I am not some creepy guy sitting on a park bench, wearing nothing more than a trench coat, waiting for someone to pass by, or the guy sitting in his car waiting for done unsuspecting worn to walk by...

I am a good-looking (so I've been told), professional, college educated, what I consider normal WM late 30's, married once (for 8yrs), divorced now, plenty of girlfriends in the past. Always enjoyed masturbation when I was "single". I am very well endowed, so the pleasure sensations of masturbating are that much more enjoyable. But towards the tail end of my marriage, I started to take my self-pleasure enjoyment a step further. I always fantasized about being watched while masturbating, especially the initial look and reaction of a woman when she sees my fully erect penis. I've always read about the "hotel maid" fantasy, but getting off to an unsuspecting woman isn't my thing. So I posted ads on Craigslist seeking women who "like to watch". I though I would mostly get replies from guys and prostitutes, but I was surprised that some "normal" women actually responded. I would say about one out of ten ads resulted in a genuine reply. Over the past two years I've met about ten women for such encounters. All were "one timers". I'll describe a couple encounters here. I would love to hear from those here what they think about my kink, or fetish, or whatever you want to call it.

#1... Answered my CL ad looking to meet a women who enjoys "watching". Said I was not looking for anything else, unless there is mutual consent. I describe to her what I wanted to do, that would be to be in a hotel room, lying on the couch naked, full erection, eyes closed, while she walked in. She would walk in, and silently grab a chair and sit and watch. She would be free to pleasure herself if she chose to. I anted to see how long I could keep my eyes closed, knowing she was just a coupes feet away watching. We first met for a drink in the lobby to make sure both of us were real and were configurable with each other. She was an attractive woman in her mid 30's. I gave her a room key and said to come up in 10 mins. I kept my eyes closed for about five minutes while she was there. Those five minutes were amazing. The later "gave me a hand", and I pleasures her orally before she took off. Amazing experience.

#2... Same basic ad on CL, reply from a woman who invited me to her apartment. She was a bit on the large side, whom I would normally not be sexually attracted to, but for this I was fine. She wanted more of a show, so what we ended up doing was this... She invited me to her living room, she sat on one couch, I the other. We had a couple glasses of wine. We small-talked for 5-10 mins, before I could tell she was anxious for thugs to start. While we were talking, I started to slowly rub my thighs, then to my bulge in my jeans. Could tell she this was turning her on. Slowly remove my jeans, leaving my colored boxers on, with half an erection hiding behind them. Could tell she was becoming more excited. We kept up the small talk (local sports team, etc) while I was rubbing my cock they my boxers, waiting for my cock to become fully erect. Could tell she wanted to see more, so I slowly slid my cock out and saw that look on her face I longed to see. For the next 20 mins I gave her a nice show while she pleasures herself. I came, cleaned up, a little more small talk then I left.

#3... Same sort of ad on CL, reply from a woman who said she was married and worked in the same area where I normally would get a hotel. So this would be on her way home from work on a Friday. She said she did not want to see a picture of me, she wanted to be "completely surprised" when she walked in. Wanted to see me completely naked with a full erection when she walked in. I knew this could be a dangerous one, she could actually be a guy, or someone to rob me or someone else bad. But I wasn't ahead with it anyway. Got the text on my phone that she was in the lobby, I replied with the room#. Laid back on the couch and got my cock nice and hard. Saw the door slowly open, I was relieved to see a a nice looking woman in her early 40's. Could tell she liked what she saw. She walked over to the couch and sat on the chair I set up. She said she wanted to watch me for a while, as I pleasures myself. About 15 minutes later I asked her if she wanted to "give me a hand". She said "you betcha". We went over to the bed where she nicely brought me to an orgasm. I asked her if she would like me to return the favor, after a quick yes, I went down on her until she had a nice orgasm. After that she dressed back up and left.

I could go on more, but I'm sure you get the picture. I never explored any of this with my ex during our time. The first and third encounter I described were while I was still married. The 2nd, plus all the others were afterwards.

I would love to hear from both men and women here. From woman, does watching a man pleasure himself turn you on? If so, what would be your fantasy scenario? I would love to try a new scenario the next time I meet up with another gal. From guys, have you ever done anything like this? For you, what is it about being watched turns you on? As I said for me, it is the initial look on her face, the silent "mmmmmmm" I can sense that is going thru her mind, the nice smile I get when I make full eye contact after she sees my cock, twice I've seen my partner lick her lips. That is an incredible turn-on.

I know everyone has their own fetishes and what turns them on sexually. I don't think this is any different than a foot fetish, or another fetish. I would love to hear what you have to say. Thanks for reading my entire post.

 

It would totally turn me on. I think posting a scenario would be crossing some lines for me but part of why as a woman I like porn is watching a guy masturbate. I think a huge part is watching him confidently stroking and of course watching what happens with his body, also his facial expressions can be a turn on too.

 

Your comment about watching facial expressions is a good one. Watching a woman facial expressions plus her moaning, breathing are a real turn for me too. One of my most erotic sexual experiences relates to this... I was in Vegas staying at a very nice hotel. Down in one of the bars I met a very attractive and very nice woman (I knew she was a pro, but I didn't care since I had no intentions of having sex with her) I asked her if she wanted to come upstairs, so we went up. Once in the room I told her I was only interested in mutual masturbation. After getting the financial part out of the way, we both undressed and sat on one of the couches in the room, both facing each other. She brought out a small vibrator which I found very nice to watch her use. Unfortunately the batteries ran out. Long story short, we're facing each other, she is rubbing her clit, very much into it (as I like to believe) while I was stroking my cock. I inched closer to her, and she did the same, until our privates were right next to each other, maybe an inch apart. We kinda scissored our legs so we could get this close. The next ten minutes in this position has to be the most erotic experience I've ever experienced. Me watching her run her clit, her facial expressions, and her watching me vice-versa. After we both bummed, we left it at that. Highly recommended to anyone reading.

 

Has anyone masturbated for a friend (or stranger) on a video chat site? I used to do cam4, and one other about 5 yrs ago that I can't remember. I would normally on a good night get upwards of 70-80 viewers, though 90%+ were guys. That didn't bother me. I loved getting all of the compliments. Never did a Skype video session. Anyone have a suggestion for a good video cam site?

 

Please explain how so, exactly. I would seriously like to know how penis size affects sensations when maturbating, other than the mental pleasure of admiring your own cock.

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There are threads here, and in the previous version of the TFP, that discuss women wacthing men masturbate. In general, yes it turns women on. Some women prefer men to take their time (make it an erotic experience so to say), and others prefer to see guys get right to it (a more natural technique perhaps).

 

Can't say I've ever particularly fantasized about anyone watching me wank. I like the other way around, though: watching a woman pleasure herself, and I do love seeing a woman's facial expressions both when playing with herself, and when she knows she's being watched while playing with herself....

 

Mutual masturbation is something I've enjoyed.
Watching her get off while she is watching me.
It can also be a teaching moment as well, you get to see what gets your partner off most effectively.

 

I'm enjoying this conversation and let me just say that if I we're 25 yrs younger...............

 

I have experience stroking for women and men online. I would think that is a pretty common experience. One of my favorite fantasies is to be in a room of several fully clothed women and submit to their wish to watch me masturbate. Subby fantasies are common for me.

 

Since the above quote appears to be butchered, I'll use copy & paste:

" "Admiring" as you put it is one thing, as men in general are very visual. But mostly, I would say it's two things. One simply, more area, more nerve endings = more enhanced pleasure feelings. Second, with a larger cock you can incorporate a few more techniques. Double-handing has an amazing feel, and I've been told is very erotic to watch."

I don't really buy into the idea of more area, basically because the glans are where the sensations are felt, or the idea of having more techniques. But I suppose that doublehanding could produce more sensation depending on how it was done.

Really all that matters is you enjoy what you're doing.

 

i love to watch woman masturbate. my wife likes it when i do, atleast i think.

 

My wife & I sometimes enjoy mutual masturbation. I enjoy watching a woman pleasure herself, and even don't mind seeing a guy do it real amateur porn, but not so much in pro porn or fake amateur porn.

 

my wife isnt a fan of masturbating she dosent do it (that im aware of) but shes not comfortable in her sexuality. but i love the amateur porn the real stuff like you said. either male or female.

 

I have been watched masturbating mainly by school friends as a boy, I was also when I was 16 forced to masturbate by an older and stronger cabin mate

 

If God hadn't meant man to masturbate, He'd have made our arms shorter. I really believe that you don't just drag yourself into there and use yourself again. How about a movie and a quiet dinner for one? Or try bringing home flowers. And be coy with yourself - "I don't want to!" "Ah, but please honey, fer me?" But even playing coy with myself, I held firm to my standards and never accepted money from myself. No sirree!

 

Like a tyranasouris rex. That's why they were so Angry

 

Looking at woman masturbate have always turned me hard, very stiff. I use to pick my dick out after a while, starting to play with the cockhead. Asking her if she would like to feel it in her hands. It always end up with sex.

 

I enjoy mutual masturbation, especially when there are toys involved. Watching a girl get herself off with a dildo is among my favourite sexual acts, and definitely my first choice in porn. And I like being watched just as much. I'd probably go so far as to say it may be a fetish. As for my previous sexual partners, only about half of them were into it. One was against it because it "wasn't sex" and I think she was struggling to define what exactly lesbian sex was (... who cares, let's get each other off).