Dryhumping and Scared to go farther?

Hello, this is my first time posting on this forum and hopefully I can convey my message without too many hiccups .

I've been going out with my beautiful girlfriend for about six months now. During this time the most we've ever done was dryhump which was yesterday. We kind of did it before but it was nowhere near the extent of what it was yesterday, Yesterday, her and I were boating moaning and making these sexy sounds as if we were actually having sex and she was clutching and holding me really tight as we grinded upon one another.

Here's the problem: I've fingered her a few times and I'd be willing to go down on her anytime but I know it's probably annoying her that every-time she tries to return the favor I say no. I'm just very self-conscious about my body and I've measured myself and it's only "6 inches if that. I feel like it'd let her down if I let her touch me there but there's also a part of me which thinks she'd love me not matter what.

This confuses me so much, what do I do.

 

A man can get along just fine with a 6" dick.

And I don't really get how dry humping is not sex.

 

Not to mention that dry humping is now seemingly placed farther in the spectrum that fingering. Personally, if I've got my fingers in someone's junk, that's more intimate that rubbing up against them. Granted, I ride enough trains and buses that I might have a different perspective, but that's me.

So I'm going to ask the same question Martian asked - how old are you? And how old is she?

I ask because it seems like a problem of your own creation that you somehow seem unwilling to solve. She's willing to touch you, but you won't let her even though that's the best way to get off? Why is this even a problem?

 

I agree with Lindy. If you don't do it, that means you don't do it. Just relax, let nature take over. This is one of the better parts of living. Let it happen. A couple of times, even.

 

Dude, how old are you? You seem really young, and inexperienced. So I don't want you to take this the wrong way, because believe me, I know where you're coming from. I was very self-conscious about my body, and about my dick, and about my ability to satisfy a girl, when I was a teenager. I was fortunate to end up with a couple of girls who were amazing, and helped me through the worst of it, and both shared pleasure and learned how to be a better lover from them. But I get your nervousness.

So don't take it amiss when I say, with real kindness and empathy: get over it. You have to let this go. If this chick is dry-humping you to mini-cums (or maxi-cums, for all I know) she's okay with your body. And six inches is just fine: some dudes I have know did great with more than a little less than that. Henry Miller had a six-inch dick, and not only was his wife a smokin' hottie, but he had a torrid affair with Anais Nin, who was legendary (of course, she had torrid affairs with every other guy she met, but still...). You're doing fine.

Your self-confidence and your willingness to get in there and pleasure her or die trying is what will really work for you, and make you a better and more memorable lover than if you had a rock-hard six pack and a ten-inch cock monster.

If she didn't want you, she wouldn't be making out with you. And since she does want you, just go with it. You can even admit to her that you're nervous, because she's so hot and you want her so much. I have yet to meet a chick who hated hearing that. But just take a deep breath, remember that there's nothing wrong with you, be yourself and be as fearless as you can about it, and go make that girl orgasm.

 

Seems Levite and I were very much the same. I was so very self-conscious. But when we realized it was the right time to have sex, and I pushed through the initial awkwardness and got down to it, that all dissolved in a moment. All we knew that we made each other feel good and that it was right.
One thing I don't think anyone has asked outright: would this be your first time? Or hers, for that matter? For my own part, I only felt that nervousness the first couple of times, and then we started getting used to each other's rhythms and how our bodies felt and moved together and the confidence grew as the nerves faded.
Take a deep breath, my friend. You're already enjoying each other. You want her, she wants you. The time will be right, and it'll happen. You will be okay.

 

Even if I was half the size I am now ( thank the FSM I'm not ), I'd let my woman suck it. If it wasn't enough for her, I'd move on. It's going to happen sooner or later. Sooner is actually better...

 

Sex is like a buffet. You don’t have to love every single thing to enjoy the experience. You take a little of this, a little of that and usually end up satiated. So the rib roast was not up to par? The crème brulee made up for it 100 fold! It all evens itself out in the end. If she does scoff when you unleash your little monster, make up for it in the cunnilingus department. If that’s all I ever had for the rest of my life I’d be as happy as a clam. (fuck you, Freud!)
Trust me, she'll thank you later.

 

1} Instead of thinking about your own fears in the midst of all that there is, you might want to be mindful of her, her feelings, and boosting her confidence. You could say out loud the things you appreciate about her while she is touching you. It could be a win-win. Rahfuckingrah!

2} Allow her to use her mouth, rather than her hand.

 

You know that joke about how God only gave Adam enough blood for his penis or his brain to work at the same time? You have too much blood.

You shouldn't have anything to worry about. You're inexperienced, that makes you insecure, and watching porn has made you worry that your penis is inadequate (you know why those guys in porn are porn stars? they're the freaks of nature with unreasonably large dicks that will respond to their whims like a private to a drill sergeant) and your self-image is in the shitter because of it. There's nothing wrong with you and there's nothing wrong with your dick. If she's willing to go down on you, let her, believe it or not she's going to enjoy pleasing you as much as you enjoy pleasing her. You're willing to please and you're afraid that you won't, and that's some serious motivation. If your girlfriend is dry humping you and not getting fed up about not humping for real, she's not going to leave you if you don't exceed all expectations. Tell her that you're nervous and want her to let you know what she likes and doesn't and she will.

Stop thinking so hard.

 

And stop thinking while hard.

 

According to Wikipedia, the "mean" (kind of like average) length of the human penis is slightly less than 6 inches. Human penis size - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

So you're good. I bet she's nervous too it'll be a learning experience for both of you. Have fun!

And wear a condom when you get to full sex. Seriously.

 

But we all know that the average for us manly men here on TFP is 8 inches of throbbing power snake.
Nothing average about us!

 

It's roundth not length that makes the difference, or so I've heard.

 

Sex is best when it's selfless. Stop worrying about your own perceived inadequacies. Instead, focus on your lover and on giving her the best experience she can have. She should do the same. The lovemaking will be awesome.