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Do you cringe seeing the same sex in erotic poses?

Discussion in 'Tilted Life and Sexuality' started by rogue49, Jun 19, 2014.

  1. rogue49

    rogue49 Tech Kung Fu Artist Staff Member

    Location:
    Baltimore/DC
    This is a question I've been wondering about for some time.

    I am NOT homophobic at all.
    I have a variety of long-time friends that are gay and respect many that are gay.
    I feel that gays should have the same privs as any...and be themselves.

    However, that being said...and being very comfortable with myself. (wear "pink", call a guy handsome, be nude, cover makeup for zits, etc...)
    I get automatically weirded out or revolted seeing men (since I'm a guy) in certain poses or activities.

    Kissing, a soft caress, a certain pose, etc and so on...just frickin' all makes me cringe.
    Even watching a porn with male-female...if the camera angle gets a bit too off or close, I flinch.

    I wonder if this is instinctive...society taught...or both??

    I know my mother & sis say the same about seeing women in that context,
    although it is more "accepted" and pervasive in media...so they're more acclimated.

    What about you?
    Male or Female...what do you say?

    Or if you're fully gay (not bi)...do you get weirded by seeing hetero couples connect or the opposite sex in erotic poses??

    I just want to be real about this...this is not supposed to be a "pile-on"
     
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  2. Levite

    Levite Levitical Yet Funky

    Location:
    The Windy City
    Well, I have to admit, I once stumbled across a threesome porn clip where all of a sudden, the girl just gets off this one dude's joint and the other dude just swooped in and slurped it up, and I was more than a bit taken aback. I confess I have no desire to watch dudes getting it on. Didn't make me scream or anything, but it did cause me to deflate a bit and switch to a more congenial video clip.

    But I've got no issues short of that: I can watch dudes kissing or snuggling or whatnot, doesn't skeeve me out. Doesn't turn me on, either. But whatever. Usually I'm just glad people are happy. Same thing if I see a straight couple snogging in public: might be a little declasse, depending on the location, but whatev, as long as they're happy.

    I dunno. I've had gay friends and been around gay couples since I was a little kid. To me it just seems normal. It's not my bag. But too normal to feel any squick about it.
     
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  3. Japchae

    Japchae Very Tilted

    It doesn't make me cringe, but it doesn't turn me on. Either gender. It just is what it is, in my mind... People getting it on. I guess I'm lucky that way. I know some people who become uncomfortable. I'm not sure if it's societal, or something instinctual, but I tend to go more societal. I don't care if I see women in porn... But, to me, cooter ain't pretty. Ha ha... That was a joke from a Ladies Night years ago. I think it's the interaction between individuals that fascinates me in porn or erotic images. I don't really care about the gender of them.
    Just the accent. Jersey Shore porn sucks.
     
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  4. Street Pattern

    Street Pattern Very Tilted

    I've written before that straight and gay men (speaking only of people at the opposite ends of the spectrum) are biologically different. Brain differences have been discovered. There is the fear/hope of discovering a "gay gene", or of some kind of blood test for homosexuality.

    I presume that there are different suites of responses to specific sets of pheronomes or other potentially arousing stimuli. If so, based on the biological encoding, the "wrong" stimuli doesn't just leave you cold, it repels you.

    However, any such gut-level biological response, sexual or not, can be overcome.

    For example: some learn to enjoy the pain of hot peppers (capsaicin) on the tongue. Some overcome the fear of heights and go skydiving. Pachelbel's Canon keys into some kind of primitive pleasure sense in the brain, but educated people are taught not to enjoy it. Your training and experience can override and cancel out your body's instinctive reaction.

    I don't think there is any comparable biological difference between lesbians and straight women.
     
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  5. DamnitAll

    DamnitAll Wait... what?

    Location:
    Central MD
    You just had to throw Pachelbel's Canon in there, didn't you @Street Pattern? ;)

    @rogue49, I'm curious to know what your reaction is to seeing this .gif:

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    I consider myself lucky, and gratefully so: any combination of M and/or F is not only completely normal to me but, if it's intended to be sexual, it will more than likely turn me on.
     
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  6. Stan

    Stan Resident Dumbass

    Location:
    Colorado
    Guys don't do anything for me. I don't find it offensive or creepy, I'm just apathetic.
     
  7. rogue49

    rogue49 Tech Kung Fu Artist Staff Member

    Location:
    Baltimore/DC
    Well, I don't think I "want" to overcome it...or need to. Anymore than I want to force myself to eat grapefruit. (which also makes me cringe)
    Nor do I feel guilty for it...because I'm just fine with them just the way they are. It is the way it is.
    It's the automatic reflex or feeling that I'm curious about.

    It's almost like an exact opposite reaction that I have to women.
    And I've been on the web and encountered more than enough in the privacy of my home to know what I like and don't like, being honest.
    Women...it's either null or a hunger. (almost always)
    Men...it's either null or acknowledgement of their looks (competitive) or...a revulsion.

    I just find it interesting.
    Wondering if others feel the same...perhaps without even being aware of it.

    I also wonder, if so...then does this "feeling" translate into hate or negative societal mindsets for those who don't "interpret" their reactions like I do.
    Is it taught...or is the negative stereotype an enforcement/enhancement of what they're feeling anyway.
     
  8. Bodkin van Horn

    Bodkin van Horn One of the Four Horsewomyn of the Fempocalypse

    That shit is hot. Or it isn't. Depends on a lot of things. The notion of dudes boning used to put me off, though. I think once I allowed myself the privilege of appreciating the appearance of cock, I got over it.
     
  9. rogue49

    rogue49 Tech Kung Fu Artist Staff Member

    Location:
    Baltimore/DC
    I have no reaction to it at all...until the end when I see the thumb caressing the other hand. Then I note it.
    That's what I'm saying.

    I have no issue with seeing a dick...or a dick penetrating a pussy.
    But, once you get to certain angles...or a dick touching a dick...it makes me turn away. (or fast forward)
    Hell, I can even see a rimjob and feel fine, even aroused...but it has to be a woman doing the deed.
    (however, that's an erotic act...if I saw the male anus by itself and a bit "too close" then I'd not like it)

    If I see two of my gay friends having a tender moment, I respect it and don't react badly. (it's cool)
    But it definitely makes me feel different in comfort in comparison to a man-woman or woman-woman moment.
     
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  10. snowy

    snowy so kawaii Staff Member

    Yes.

    Dudes kissing = hot.
    Ladies kissing = hot if it's authentic. I'm not into porno kissing, and there is a lot of that.
    Dudes gettin' it on = hot.
    Ladies gettin' it on = hot.

    You can conclude that people gettin' it on = hot in the snowyverse. My inner pervert is gigantic AND shameless. Dicks touching dicks is great. Boobs on boobs is also great. My boat is easily floated.
     
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  11. Baraka_Guru

    Baraka_Guru Möderätor Staff Member

    Location:
    Toronto
    I'm with @snowy somewhat (to varying degrees).

    I think ladies kissing is hotter than guys kissing, but a lot of that depends on the context.

    Ladies getting it on? Not necessarily hotter than dudes getting it on. Again, it will depend on the context.

    For me, the hottest by default is a guy and a girl getting it on. Despite the coveted "two chicks at the same time" that most guys dream about, the next hottest for me is two guys and a girl. Depending on my mood or some of the factors, I'll find the latter way hotter than the standard one on one.

    There is something that really turns my crank about a sexually open female who wants two (or three) men to pleasure her and to be pleased by her simultaneously. I've considered the "bisexual" threesome aspect, where it's open season for all parties. This is a bit of a grey area for me. I'm not sure if I'm a 1 or a 2 on the Kinsey scale, but I do have various erotic responses to the idea of two guys and a girl all just going at it in various capacities. Would I do that? I don't know. If, however, I knew without a doubt that the other two parties would really get off on my sucking a dick or my giving a guy anal, then I'd be open to trying it. Would I enjoy it? Would I enjoy having a guy suck my dick or giving me anal? It's difficult to say. I get off on others getting off. So probably. But, again, it depends on the context and some of the factors.

    I'm less attracted to purely lesbian sex than the average guy, I think. Maybe if it involved penetration. I'm into fucking fucking. That said, I'm probably more attracted to gay sex than the average guy. Again, I like fucking fucking, and guys have the equipment.

    With the two chicks at the same time, I'd be more into it if it was focused on the women more so than the guy. The focus on the guy in such an arrangement seems like overkill.

    Did I cover everything?

    I'm open to questions. :p
     
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  12. snowy

    snowy so kawaii Staff Member


    You asked for it, and I just can't resist posting it.
     
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  13. Baraka_Guru

    Baraka_Guru Möderätor Staff Member

    Location:
    Toronto
    I would do anything for Lady Gaga.
     
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  14. snowy

    snowy so kawaii Staff Member

    Me too.
     
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  15. Baraka_Guru

    Baraka_Guru Möderätor Staff Member

    Location:
    Toronto
    At the same time?
     
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  16. snowy

    snowy so kawaii Staff Member

    Of course.
     
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  17. Fraeia

    Fraeia Getting Tilted

    Location:
    Newfoundland

    "Fully gay" here... and I think I'm mostly apathetic as well. I have been with other lesbians who have been into gay porn though, and i've enjoyed watching with them, but mostly for how it turns them on. Counter to what you'd think none of the bi-girls that i've dated have been as into it.

    I place most PDA's in the "adorable" category, no matter the gender combination. It's just nice seeing people who are that happy with each other that they don't give a fuck what else is on the go.
     
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  18. Chris Noyb

    Chris Noyb Get in, buckle up, hang on, & be quiet.

    Location:
    Large City, TX
    MM sex doesn't turn me off, it doesn't turn me on either. I don't mind it as long as it appears to be real (I've posted many rants here about pro porn).

    MM intimacy--kissing, caresssing, making out in general--puts me off. I realize that many gay/bi-sexual men men go through much the same rituals as heterosexuals leading up to sex, but I just don't care to see it.
     
  19. FreeVerse

    FreeVerse Screw Tilted, I'm all the way upside down.

    Location:
    Suburban Chicago
    being a lesbain - no. same sex wouldnt bother me. seeing hetro people like that. no. doesnt bother me, in things... but out in public - i dont care if its two gals, two guys, or a guy and a gal, i dont like it. keep it at home
     
  20. Herculite

    Herculite Very Tilted

    I find the male body inherently unsexy. I can admire a guy who's in great shape for being in great shape, but it registers zero on the sexy scale to me. Seeing a male with a female doing something sex related, something I've seen many times in person, doesn't really bother me, as long as the she involved is sexy to me. If shes ugly I won't get weirded out but I'll get a little constriction in the neck which is reserved for gross things. Two men, no matter what they look like, will give the same reaction.

    Watching women get it on, on the other hand, is a hobby of mine, though I have to think they are attractive.