Being judged

It's sad when you walk into a store or somewhere and you feel like people are starting at you for whatever reason, mine would be my size. Alot of times when i walk into a buffet i feel like people automatically Jude how much money they will lose, or a big and tall store, feel like they are judging me or guessing how big i really am. Even though it is a big and tall store.
I went too starship earlier (a sex store) to buy more lube and to brouse, and i feel like when i walk in there nobody judges me, i feel comfortable in there asking for help or where something is. Its almost sad that one is more comfortable in a sex store than a restaurant.
What are your experiences?

 

Depending what I'm wearing, which is quasi-androgynous in appearance more often than not, I am often called "Sir," and I am not so much a fan of this phenomenon. I don't wear men's and unisex clothing to look or be more like a man. i wear it because it's comfortable and has pockets i can actually use... not that I need to justify it. Still, I've been told my face is feminine enough that these people wouldn't mistake my gender if they took the three extra seconds to actually pay attention to it. Or for fuck's sake, they could look at my tits. They are there, after all.

 

Yes, there are times I feel judged. Generally it has to do with eating, clothing and/or health and fitness.

However, I'm not really positive that I'm being judged by the outside - I may just be judging myself. I'm a hard critic on myself.

I'm sorry to those who are indeed being judged. But that's their loss, y'all are awesome people. (Remind me to tell myself that every now and again)

 

It's everywhere Ralphie.
Try being a short, balding 150 pound dude some day. Doubt it's much better.
Ignore it.

 

i wish i was a150 pound guy, u know to ignore it, just frustrating

 

maybe i am judging myself. never thought ofs it that was, you know i love you

 

I think I am judged on my weight, my introverted personality, my sarcasm, and my very young sounding voice (call center rep).

I try very hard not to judge others, but I will ask questions, and possibly even form opinions on their situations, which comes off as judgmental. My opinions are more along the lines of decisions I would have made differently, or in the future will make differently so that I do not find myself in their predicament.

Have you ever consciously watched how many times a day you make judgments about others? It might be more than you think.

 

@playswithpixels I am judgy. It's awful. Again, I think it has more to do with me than them. Becoming happier with myself has made me less judgy of others. Progress.

 

some progress is better than none

 

I don't like the whole being judge thing, people can't help themselves. They look at others and judge to make themselves feel better about their twisted lives.
At least that's how I see it. People pick up on a person that is not confident.
Next time you go to a buffet @ralphie250 make some noise when your plating your food. eg. going to get some of that, yum, some of this...take control and have confidence. Really give them something to talk about and enjoy that you are in control. Screw the watchers!!! <3

 

I'd guess that though they may glance or stare, they really don't care. You're just visual stimulus, as quickly forgotten as momentarily considered. The inner dialogue that continues well after such an encounter is just you filling in what you imagine are their thoughts with your own insecurities. Why not choose to see all of this as reason to hit the gym rather than the buffet? It's one thing in a professional or social context where the stakes are higher but I can't imagine reading so much into a random encounter is worth your time.

I feel judged all the time, the stuff that really sticks are the times in which I've wanted to feel seen, when I've invested myself in another's perception of me.

 

I dress down when shopping for a major purchase. Treat me like crap and I figure you'll treat my wife like crap when she needs customer service.


I generally wear a concert T shirt, torn jeans, and a beat to shit motorcycle jacket when shopping for a major purchase. I don't believe in shaving on weekends. If you judge me based on appearance, you're gonna be wrong. I hate shopping and wouldn't be looking at new cars, motorcycles or whatever, unless I was planning on buying one and could afford to pay cash.

 

I don't usually get judged my appearance*, except sometimes in antique stores. One time I seriously considered introducing myself to the guy who was following me around while pretending to shop, or taking some merchandise to the counter and cancelling the purchase at the last minute with an explanation that they lost the sale because I didn't appreciate being followed while I was shopping.

* I have had peoples eyes and faces automatically dismiss me when they look at me. IMO there's a difference between a 'you don't appear as though you can afford to shop here' look and a 'you're not worthy of being in my presence' look. The former I can sort of understand depending on the situation, the latter makes me want to say "Fuck you, too. What makes you think you're so special? Don't bother answering, that was a rhetorical question."

There's a sex toy store near us where they used to greet folks with a loud & enthusiastic (as in a bit startling) "Thanks for coming in! How can we help you today?".

 

We actually have quite a few creepy ones all in the same area. Maybe I'm just a prude

But I DO like some of them - so perhaps they really are creepy. Hey mister, I know we're in a sex store, but quit looking at me with your hand down your pants. Eww.

 

which ones are creapy?