keeping it down

[Tolano]

I recently obtained my first girlfriend (dont laugh, lol). I have a problem however keeping it down when we are together. This isnt a problem when we are fooling around, but it is very embarrassing when she is sitting in my lap with a bunch of friends around. She doesnt say anything until we are alone, and she is never mad, but it really bothers me. Is there some trick or does it just take time? I try thinking about things that arent sexual, but that doesnt work. Thanks for being understanding.

[Redlemon]

If she's sitting in your lap, she's probably trying to get that reaction out of you. I don't see a problem here. How old are you two?

[Tolano]

we are 18, and still in highschool, so im sure you can understand my predicament if it were to get out that i had a woody all the time, lol.

[desal75]

I know that can be embarrassing but it will eventually wear off and not be so frequent. At least she is understanding about it.

And on a humorous side not, it is better than the opposite occuring.

[maleficent]

Wear more constricting undies... that will prevent poppage?

You're 18 -- i thought that was a permanent condition of 18 year olds

[hambone]

roll of duct tape. Strap it down.

Seriously though, there is no trick. She arouses you, your body reacts. Sure it is unfortuante at certain times. I had the same problem with my wife. I was just always attracted to her. I was actually afraid something would come up during the wedding, which luckily it didn't

[trache]

Wear some tight fitting jeans. Put your piece in between your stomach and the wasitband of your pants/underwear. With your mental imagery, go one better and do what Austin Powers does: think of Margaret Thatcher naked on a cold day.

[wolf]

Snake it down your leg, Underwear bands help too. Jeans are good cause they tend not to tent so much.

[skier]

Who cares?

Just tell her something along the lines of "I'm not ashamed of how my body reacts to your beauty/hotness/attractiveness/spankin' ass. Your body is so amazing/hot/smokin'/etc. that I couldn't stop the feelings I get when we touch, even if i tried."

[Charlatan]

Just tape a sign to your chest with an arrow pointing at your crotch with the words:

Sorry, but my girlfriend's a hotty.


People will understand.

[gduventree]

If it's the tenting you're worried about, jeans are great. Just make sure to adjust yourself to the up position when ready, or else it's going to get mighty uncomfortable for you.

If you think there's something wrong with you, you need to understand that it's not something you have much control over. Sometimes it just seems to have a mind of its own.

Oh, and the same thing happens to every guy, so you're not alone

[Spicy McHaggis]

Start having more sex together or do it yourself more often. Sounds like your pipes are ready to burst.

[dlish]

totally normal.. i remember when i was your age sitting in chemistry class trying to think of the worst things just to get rid of them...oh the memories... (and yes margaret thatcher naked on a cold day could be it)...

anyways, its normal, they wear off..but just make sure you dont wear boxers AND tracksuit pants at the same time, you'll be pitching a circus tent..best option would be undies and jeans if you want him under control.

My boy still reacts this way to me... I actually take it as a compliment

I seriously doubt its as obvious as you think it is, and if it IS... try tighter fitting clothing, maybe..

[NegativeNine]

I love your wording... "obtained".
I always went with looser jeans... it managed to get lost in the folds somewhere...

[insidious_machinae]

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[stonegrody]

Damn, I miss being 18.

[guthmund]

Originally Posted by Tolano

I recently obtained my first girlfriend (dont laugh, lol). I have a problem however keeping it down when we are together. This isnt a problem when we are fooling around, but it is very embarrassing when she is sitting in my lap with a bunch of friends around. She doesnt say anything until we are alone, and she is never mad, but it really bothers me. Is there some trick or does it just take time? I try thinking about things that arent sexual, but that doesnt work. Thanks for being understanding.

Why does it bother you?

You're 18, with a girlfriend and raging hormones shooting everywhere in random directions.

There is no trick. Your penis is only responding to the physical stimulation. It has no other 'choice.'

On that note, who cares if you've got a boner? Be proud of your boner! There are plenty of other things to get hung up on (pun intended) you should leave your Willy alone. (you know what I mean )

Constrictive clothing isn't going to help, in fact, there's a good chance it's going to exaggerate the fact that you've got wood.

I'd imagine, if played the right way, your girlfriend will find it more of a compliment that you can't control yourself around her.

In summary, there's not much you can do, so, for chrissakes, be proud of your wang! Have affection for your erection!

[Furry]

Frankly I'd be worried if you weren't reacting. It's all good and healthy. Oh, and tell her that if she makes you uncomfortable like that one more time, she'll pay for it later. Tell her with a big smile...

[*Nikki*]

Tie it to your leg with a bandana under your pants.

[Carno]

I'm with you dude. I still get hard ons from holding hands
I always wear jeans and have my hands in my pockets when I'm with a girl though.

It kinda ruins dancing for me because I'm always worried the girl has noticed it and is annoyed by it or something. I don't know who I'm kidding though, I'm pretty sure girls can feel it when you're grinding together..

[heccubusiv]

Same situation here, i ussually try to hum the notre dame fight song to keep it down and think about very unsexual things like the blood pressure difference in the aorta then in the superior vena cava, thats pretty much the lest sexual thing i can come up with. I have gotten caught huming the fight song before and it leads to an interesting story none the less

[HookedOnChronic]

The exact same thing happens/happened to me when I first started going out with my girlfriend and still even today, she just looks way too good for it not to turn me on!

I'm with the others that said it's nothing to be ashamed of... I guess if your friends saw it, it would be embarassing. But infront of your girl is nothing to worry about it. I bet she takes it as a compliment - and if she doesn't see it that way, she should

[Demeter]

When my boyfriend gets hard around me for no reason except that I'm close to him, I find it very flattering. I'm sure your girlfriend must too.

[sammy776]

it happens, dont worrie about it. just tell her there is only one way to get it to go down. just be luky you have a hot girl

[Drewzy]

All is good, it happens us all. I tell you all the times I had to fake my shoelaces being untied so I could tie them hehe...

[drakers]

Trust me, I was a late bloomer too, but it just comes with time. I'm used to being around my wife now, but of course I was always a little bit more "nervous" in the sense that I wasn't used to the physical contact. You just get used to it with time.

[c172g]

I've been married to my wife for almost 10 years, I'm 35, and I still have that same problem. As someone said above, be happy it's not the opposite & you need Viagra. Maybe it will go away, maybe (like in my case) it won't. If I'm within 10 feet of my wife, it's probably going to happen. We still have sex regularly, but I find her to be the hottest mother around, so walking around with an erection is just part of my day...

[Rinndalir]

Ummm yeah...4 years, 1 kid, and if the wife bends over or changes clothes or is showing some cleavage or just looks at me funny I get hard instantly. She loves it. And once again, if she's sitting on your lap, she's probably expecting it.

[todd]

Originally Posted by Carn

I'm with you dude. I still get hard ons from holding hands

Ditto

[MSD]

Congratulations, your penis is functioning properly.

[bing bing]

When this happens to me, i bite my tounge really hard and think about anything posted on Rotten. Usually it works. I'm now 21 and it doesn't happen nearly as often as it used to.

[little_tippler]

This thread put a smile on my face

that's cute...it's just life, and it must be flattering for your girlfriend.

[cowgirl02]

My boyfriend does the SAME thing EVERYTIME we are together i think that it is cute how excited he gets. Dont be ashamed of it just say that she excites you with her beautiful/sexy body. That is what he tells me and it makes me feel good so tell her that and it will prob do the same. We just laugh about it its nothin to be embarassed about!!!

[jaypc2]

dont worry about it but since you obviously are (other wise you wouldn't have posted something about it) you have a few options.
many have said tighter clothes (but that can be painful)
and then there's always sacred "TUCK" which is always a great solution
if all else fails and you still get a hard-on then your new task is to get rid of it. reciting the alphabit in my head over and over again always seems to work for me
best of luck to ya

[World's King]

I remember when I couldn't control my erections. Now I'd be happy to keep it up long enough to get through the damn talking before the sex scene.

[streak_56]

the glorious age of being 18.... not soo long ago I was that age.... and hell, I have some stories... but thats for another thread... just get comfortable with it.... heck if she is comfortable with it... means shes a keeper.

[la petite moi]

nwlinkvxd says he thinks about pelicans.

[blizzak]

Originally Posted by wolf

Snake it down your leg.

Hah that's just about the best thing i've heard all day...almost as good as my friend saying: We should patent '3 hour abs' ... It comes with a toilet and a fifth of tequila

Kudos!