quesiton from a newbie
 

i'm still a virgin, and i worry about whats going to happen when i start. you see, it takes most of you guys from 10min-1 hour to get orgasm, while me, masturbating that is, takes me less than 5 mins..
any advise ??

There are a few threads on this forum about stuff like this so do a quick search and see what other people have to say. Something I've read that seems to help is to masturbate until you are about to come and then stop and hold it. Repeat as many times as you can until you start to learn how to control the muscle that keeps you from blowing. Just pace yourself and find a nice girl who wont be a bitch about it :thumbsup:

plain and simple.. don't stress it.

Also just keep in mind that when you're getting yourself off you're not trying to please your partner, you're not maintaining a romantic mood, you're not shifting positions and trying new things. I'd say you're just going straight at it, as quickly as you can. That's why you last only a few minutes: becuase you're aiming for it.

Make sure your partner knows it's your first time (pretending it's not your first time is a huge mistake), she'll help you out, hopefully be very understanding if you come too quickly or not at all, and after a few rounds you'll learn how it all works. Like these guys, and the dozens of threads about this, just relax until the time comes.

Haha Rlyss said "comes". I think pretending it's not your first time is fine if you're just having casual sex. As long as you're not in a relationship with the person (which might make it a bit akward), it's probably fine.

Well during masturbation you know what you like best, i mean girls im sure can get off in like 5 mins, and then you get a guy whose not up to par with his tounge/finger skills could take alot longer.

I lost my virginity 12 years ago and I still finish faster when I watching porn than when I have sex. If you're 18, you've practiced the best ways to get yourself off for probably 7 years. You'll learn to relax with a girl/woman.

The advice about the Klegel excersises is also excellent. Bring yourself up to that last moment and then learn to stop. Its like practicing playing a sport or instrument, when you're with your girl and you hit that near climax moment your muscle memory will kick in and you'll stop yourself.

Don't stress over it. It's always faster by hand. Don't stress over it w/your girl either. Be honest. You have a long journey ahead of you. And if all else fails, go out and buy the Kama Sutra. Read it. Study it. Learn it.

Virgins exist, but it's a curable condition. :)

This is all you have to do, if for some awful reason you can't last long enough, let the woman know that you're talented in other areas (oral, fingering, and the what not) some women get turned on just as much by that as other things, as for how to fix the not lasting long enough, lemme know when you find out how to fix that one.

i say if your 5 min by hand that first hot wet tight hole will let you last mmm about 27 seconds..... after a copule times you will get better.. but unless you a verry good secret or are wearign 6 condoms i wouldnt worry about lasting an hour......

Well, use your fingers and your tongue to get her horny -- lots of foreplay will make her come a lot faster. And wear a condom, because there's less feeling that way and you should be able to last longer. Personally, I just... Don't think about it, don't take pleasure from it until I can see that she's about to go. I went for 10 minutes the first time, and I can come in under 2 minutes while masturbating; just concentrate on her.

Hmm I have never met any of these guys who took 10min to one hour. :)