How to ask a girl if she has stds?
 

I'm curious. How do you ask them before you get freaky? Obviously it would ruin the mood if such a question is posed. All the girls I ever had sex with either fucked me before I had a chance to ask or they were virgins.

How to put this delicately... I can't.

If you can't ask the question, so when was the last time you were tested? You really shouldn't be having sex... (but that's just me)

I don't think it kills any mood- - hell herpes, or HIV will do a lot more than kill a mood.

I always just have told people I've been tested for everything, and ask if they have. You need to be able to talk about it before you have sex! Besides, don't you think she'll appreciate it?

It's time for another episode of Good Idea, Bad Idea.


Good Idea: I think we should get tested together before we move on to a more intimate relationship.

Bad Idea: Ain't nuttin funny going to be showin up on my dick from stickin it in ya right?

Condoms.... when in doubt wear condoms.

Also, offer to go get tested with them... if they refuse it means they have something to hide.

You don't.

Do you have reason to suspect it? Do you think she is the type who would not tell you and expose you?

Either way would make me not want to sleep with her in the first place.

It's hard to "suspect" whether someone might be infected: if she's ready to sleep with you without knowing (or caring) if you've got an STD yourself, and without using a condom, what does that tell you? She's a disease-ridden skank, or she's just too horny and can't care at that particular moment? I'd say the latter in most cases.

So, simple advice really: to avoid "freaking out" don't stick your dick in chicks you're not sure are "clean" without using a condom. Choose a moment when you're not having sex to explain to her that you need the certainty that your partner is not infected, and suggest to go get tested together.

Just ask. Be gentle, but ask.

I can see it now...you're sitting in the waiting room of the doctor's office with some strange rash on your twig and berries, and you say "Well, at least I didn't make things akward by asking her first." Silly....