Question for the ladies
 

This question is more towards the females of this board, but perhaps men who know the answers also..

I've been with my girlfriend for about 6months now (Im 19, she's 18) and we've been sexually active for some time now. Anyways, 2 nights ago was the first time where she really felt like she had to scream her lungs off. Great! I thought, unfortunately she made me stop, because her parents were in the room next over lol (btw this was done with just oral / hands). Last night we had some more privacy, and I did the same thing. Did what I did before, alot of teasing, etc. When she got to that point again, she tells me she doesn't know whether it feels good or if it hurts. She said it kind of felt like a shock, but still is not sure. Are really intense female orgasm's like this? I tried telling her to relax, but she said she couldn't. I asked her whether she thinks it feels good or not, but she said she is incapable of thinking when its happening :p Anyways, I'm kind of nervous because she made me stop again, and I was wondering if there could be anything wrong? This is primarily clitoris stimulation, perhaps soreness or something? Dunno, maybe theres something else. Should she see a doctor? Or am I just being paranoid. Although I must say I am quite proud of myself (got all the sex tips from the board haha, thanks guys!!) Any and all comments helping would be greatly appreciated. thanks guys!

-Chuckles

I'm confused...does she actually ever have an orgasm??

Well I have to say that clitoral overstimulation can be quite painful, still with pleasure mixed in too but painful. For me (and I'm sure I'm not the only one) there are certain parts of the clitoris that can't take the stimulation. It's not that unusual for me to ask someone to stop if they are getting too hard and heavy on a sensitive area, it's always been that way with me. From what you wrote I can't tell if she had an orgasm either but it may be that you need to back off just a bit and try again a little more gently.

That is kind of what I was thinking, too, but I also couldn't help but wonder a couple of things. 1) Does she ever have an orgasm with you, whether from her manual stimulation or yours? 2) Does she/can she have an orgasm while masturbating?

Even if my husband overstimulates me and I ask him to back off a bit or go more gently, I never, ever want him to stop completely! That seems odd. That is the part I don't get.

Err sorry about the clarity. Yes, she has indeed had orgasm's, and hard ones. Just not sure if these are even harder or not

hmmmm, that indeed does sound odd

my first thought would be overstimulation, it can get pretty painful, but moving to another area for a while usualy helps, if she can't tell you why then there isn't too much you can do to change how it affects her

Good Luck!

I think you are being too rough and she doesn't know how to tell you.
Continue doing whatever your were doing before except do it much much softer.

that definitely sounds like her clit is being over stimulated. I had the same problem for a while until I came up with a "trick". Whenever I receive oral I'll get loverboy to lick in the same area and then I'll wriggle with my abdomen so I control the reach of his tongue. So when ever I feel a slight pain in my clit I just lower my abdomen and thus making his tongue touch another area. And when the pain is gone I'll just raise my body again and allow him to reach the clit. It works perfectly for me. Maybe your girl should try this and see if it works for her as well? :)