A question for all you people on the pill - Tilted Forum Project Discussion Community

growse · 08-20-2004, 04:48 AM

My girlfriend has a slight issue with the pill and I thought I'd ask about it here. She first went on about a year ago, and after about 3 months sex started to become very painful and sore, as if she wasn't getting wet at all, even though she was. She came off the pill and the problem stopped. About 2 months ago, I started going out with her, and she went back on the pill (different brand I think). Anyway, within days of starting this, the same problem came back, although not as bad as before. She's since come off again, and about 2 weeks after being off it, sex is still a bit sore for her. The problem then is that if she is expecting it to be sore, she doesn't get as turned on, and so it becomes even more painful.

Has anyone heard of this problem before? It's not cystitis (sp?) and the doctor has no idea what it is. Is it just likely to be a bad reaction to the pill?

Thanks for any help.

lurkette · 08-20-2004, 06:06 AM

Dryness is a known side-effect of the pill. Try using lube, and taking more time with foreplay.

She should also get tested for bacterial vaginosis and yeast, as both of those infections can cause pain during sex. The pill can make some women more prone to yeast infections.

If it goes away when she's off the pill, and she can't find a pill that doesn't do this to her, she could always try something like Depo Provera instead.

Captain Nemo · 08-20-2004, 06:53 AM

Lurkette, you nailed it. When my wife was on the pill, she was indeed prone to yeast infections and dryness. Thank you Astroglide

little_tippler · 08-20-2004, 08:09 AM

yeah, dryness is common when you're on the pill...she should try other brands, or alternatively find another contraceptive method.

Ultimately all you can do is use more lube and hope for the best. Unfortunately not all sex problems are completely solvable, but it is possible to adapt and adjust and have a happy sex life again.

growse · 08-25-2004, 04:08 AM

Thanks for your replies, I don't necessarily think it was a dryness problem (she was plenty wet enough). Anyway, the problem has now gone as she's been off the pill. The only annoying thing is having to use condoms all the time, so alternative contraceptions are being investigated.

08-20-2004, 04:48 AM	#1 (permalink)
growse Upright	A question for all you people on the pill My girlfriend has a slight issue with the pill and I thought I'd ask about it here. She first went on about a year ago, and after about 3 months sex started to become very painful and sore, as if she wasn't getting wet at all, even though she was. She came off the pill and the problem stopped. About 2 months ago, I started going out with her, and she went back on the pill (different brand I think). Anyway, within days of starting this, the same problem came back, although not as bad as before. She's since come off again, and about 2 weeks after being off it, sex is still a bit sore for her. The problem then is that if she is expecting it to be sore, she doesn't get as turned on, and so it becomes even more painful. Has anyone heard of this problem before? It's not cystitis (sp?) and the doctor has no idea what it is. Is it just likely to be a bad reaction to the pill? Thanks for any help.

08-20-2004, 06:06 AM	#2 (permalink)
lurkette My future is coming on Moderator Emeritus Location: east of the sun and west of the moon	Dryness is a known side-effect of the pill. Try using lube, and taking more time with foreplay. She should also get tested for bacterial vaginosis and yeast, as both of those infections can cause pain during sex. The pill can make some women more prone to yeast infections. If it goes away when she's off the pill, and she can't find a pill that doesn't do this to her, she could always try something like Depo Provera instead. __________________ "If ten million people believe a foolish thing, it is still a foolish thing." - Anatole France

08-20-2004, 08:09 AM	#4 (permalink)
little_tippler Leaning against the -Sun- Super Moderator Location: on the other side	yeah, dryness is common when you're on the pill...she should try other brands, or alternatively find another contraceptive method. Ultimately all you can do is use more lube and hope for the best. Unfortunately not all sex problems are completely solvable, but it is possible to adapt and adjust and have a happy sex life again. __________________ Whether we write or speak or do but look We are ever unapparent. What we are Cannot be transfused into word or book. Our soul from us is infinitely far. However much we give our thoughts the will To be our soul and gesture it abroad, Our hearts are incommunicable still. In what we show ourselves we are ignored. The abyss from soul to soul cannot be bridged By any skill of thought or trick of seeming. Unto our very selves we are abridged When we would utter to our thought our being. We are our dreams of ourselves, souls by gleams, And each to each other dreams of others' dreams. Fernando Pessoa, 1918

08-20-2004, 06:53 AM	#3 (permalink)
Captain Nemo Insane Location: In a forest of red tape (but hey, I have scissors)	Lurkette, you nailed it. When my wife was on the pill, she was indeed prone to yeast infections and dryness. Thank you Astroglide

08-25-2004, 04:08 AM	#5 (permalink)
growse Upright	Thanks for your replies, I don't necessarily think it was a dryness problem (she was plenty wet enough). Anyway, the problem has now gone as she's been off the pill. The only annoying thing is having to use condoms all the time, so alternative contraceptions are being investigated.