I suppose that's true. But a big ego is a bit different than confidence isn't it? Perhaps I should qualify it as "confidence with compassion"?

I guess it would also depend on what you're looking for from the sex. Just pure physical appeal or actually feeling involved? I think if you're going for feeling and pleasure rather than just pleasure then it depends on how you react to each other. I think my girlfriend is great in bed perhaps largely because of how we interact in and out of bed, but someone who is in it for just pure physical pleasure won't get as much out of it as I do.

This man speaks the truth! One of the couples that we've played with...he's that way. He's fallen asleep on a woman...and she's pretty fun...I think. He gets distracted, and doesn't pay attention to the woman that he's with. Very irritating for the women, for sure. I think it's funny, because he's kind of "off" anyways. I feel sorry for the woman he's just been with, so then I have to go and take care of them! :D :D :D :D :D :D :D :D :D

I tend to agree with this.

Also agree that dancing has little to do with it. I can't dance, but it's not a lack of rhythm. I don't have an imagination for that sort of thing. Musical rhythm and sexual rhythm are different anyway.
I play piano and guitar alot, it's not at all like dancing!

If I was as terrible in bed as I am at dancing my wife would be sure to tell me. She has no tact about such things, and is quite forthright.

Look for someone who isn't greedy(most important).Also someone who you can have fun with just goofing off and isn't self absorbed.

Excellent question, unfortunately it's one that I can't answer, but apparently no one else can either. Thats one of the things that seperates us from other mammals...we not only want it, we want it to be great. Did you ever see a male dog turn up his nose at a female in heat?

i would say look how they are in social environments. The girl / guy that stands out....is comfortable and doesn't mind attention is gonna be 'go-er' in the sack. The guy / girl that sits back real quiet...is gonna be reserved. Now there are always exceptions to the rule.....in fact I have an ex who was the life of the party and dead 'fuck' (she just layed there).....so....

Very well put...dontcha just love those ones that fool you, in a good way, though? Kinda like finding a diamond in the rough.

if I screwed like I dance, I would be lucky to keep a girl overnight! thankfully the bed is the only place i have rythmn. I like the suggestions about people's thoughtfullness or generosity being good indicators, and to that I would also add confidence.

Well, I've always been of the opinion that how someone laughs is a good indication of how loud they are in bed. If they have a more subdued chuckle, they aren't likely to be a screamer.

However, if they laugh out loud, they're more likely to be noisy.


I'm not saying this is a perfect theory, but I've noticed it to be true.

hmmm --

:looks down at shiney red shoes on feet:

I had no idea....