Dating boss's daughter?
 

Ok, I am curious if anyone has ever attempted or done this... If you have tell your story...

I just recently found out that my boss' 18 yr daughter likes me, well... aside from the fact that she's hot, I need to realize that my job is at stake here (I work at an engineering firm) and its something i dont want to lose...

what to do... what to do...

nonononononononHELLNO!

Work and pleasure do not mix.

As long as you do a good job for him, and you treat his daughter well, I'd say a promotion isn't too far off! :D

And when you break up your career is ruined.


Always think of the worst case seniaro... Is she worth that?

yea... well as a side note.... I have known the family for about 11 years or since i was 9.... (due to the fact that my mom has been working there during that time), so i am well liked...

BUT yea, the fact of breaking up and losing my job stays in the back of my mind...

averett - I dont know if she's worth it... no one is really worth it unless you marry them and live happily ever after....

to be continued....

any personal experiences?

Isn't it every guy's fantasy to be with his bosses daughter?

Yeah, it's cool and all... but no. Lotsa repecussions. Unless she's older, then maybe.

Trouble, dude. Didn't even have to read more than the thread title to know that. RUN!!! Unless you're head over heels in love already and willing to ruin your career for love, don't get yourself into this mess.

Don't dip your pen in company ink.

I've always wanted to say that. :thumbsup:

Unless no one sees you. ;)

Nope, never done this before and never would. I wouldn't even date a girl I worked with, thats just a really bad idea. Plus if you dated the boss's daughter and you and her broke up on bad terms then your ass is fired...fuck that.

This topic kinda remids me of the scene in the movie Old School, where the guy screws his boss' daughter and isn't aware at the time that she's his daughter and also in high school. Man, what a great movie!

Anyway, my suggestion is that if you value your job at all, you're taking a huge risk if things don't work out with the two of you. Be prepared to be looking elsewhere for a job if things don't work out.

True love outweights everything else in life.


Do not ever believe in this quote.

HELLO! Shallow Hal... yea, how old are you? I say go for it. The only thing he could do is make your life hell, not fire you...movies are SO overrated

My dad was my Brother-in-law's boss for a while...

Man was THAT weird.

stay away


unless you are looking for a new job

Stay away...if something is meant to happen (you mentioned marriage, not me), then something will

don't shit where you eat.

even more important, she's 18. 18 year old hot boss' daughter... this has all the makings of a twisted stalker movie.

i doinked a boss' daughter, but i was a teenager and she was a teenager and it wasn't exactly the kind of job that i minded losing if things went sour.

if this is your career, and your boss has influence in your field, you don't just risk your job with him. you risk him fucking you over for other gigs.

also, if you have an engineering degree that means you're old enough to know that daddies don't like grownups letching after their daughters. they especially don't like it when those grownups are on their payroll.

In high school I had three infamous dates. Either showing cajones like a lion or brains like a cabbage.

I took my head football coach's daughter to a school dance (very small high school), well she got so shit faced before the dance that we only lasted the first 20 minutes or so and I spent the evening in the car with her Hurling every 15 minutes. When I took her home I walked her to the door and hauled butt.

I took my preacher's daughter (who was also my best friend's sister) to another school dance. Pretty much the same story only she had the sense to wait until after the dance to get faced... I held on to her belt and leaned her out the window while she puked all the way home. Again getting into the house with no problem.

Brilliant luck twice.

Third time was really close, I hooked up with a girl at a party, we went out on a back country road to sit in the car and "talk". Well while I was sitting there I saw a cop car coming, her head was out of sight at this time... (do the math)... The cop pulls along side to my window, but not close enough to see who the girl was.

Good old boy that this cop was, and knowing what was up... he says. Lightning can't you find someplace else to do that (not caring that I'm getting some, just wanting me to find a more private place)...

"Yes sir", I says... the girl still going to town keeping low so as not to be seen...
You see the cop was her father!

He never knew...
I dropped her off several blocks from her house so he couldn't see my car and put two and two together. I'd have been so dead.

Big balls or no brains?....
You decide

No brains :p

Well maybe the brains were there... just in the wrong part of my anatomy. lol

Uh... big balls with a combination of no brains... most dangerous combination. :p

Anyways, back to the original post... if you want to date her, go for it. You're about 20, right? You've known the family for 11 years, right? It's really up to you to decide how her daddy would handle it if the two of you broke up. Better yet, how would he handle it if the two of you dated?

well... interesting comments... sounds like i am opening up the coffin for myself...

On a different note, let me give you a little more background, I am working at this firm while going to school (getting my engineering degree, a few more semesters to go). My mom, who is a manager, has worked with the company for over 11 years, needless to say, She has worked with the Boss and is also trusted... Now, I have been around the company since i was like 9 or 10, I used to hang around often (days off of school, or sick, etc) so i was well known by the Dad (boss). I also attended a few festivities of the Boss's Kids, like birthday parties, and bat mitzvah's...etc

So basically I am WELL known by the mother and father (boss). Now, I dont plan on jumping into anything serious IF i decide to go along with it, AND i would DEFINITLY ask the dad's (boss) permission prior to begining ANYTHING... Again, its something that i would "try" to begin as friends, and slowly move into something else... But... I understand where all the negative answers are coming from... but hey, thats the price you gotta pay sometimes... You gotta live on the edge a little too...

Besides, Im not a bad guy, and I know that the parents like me... I think the only thing that would be a problem is our age difference... I definitly AM NOT gonna do anything behind there backs though.... so i shall see where this all leads...

you guys made some funny comments though.... I like the Shallow Hal one... (it worked out finally right? AND he got to keep his job!!!) hahaha.....

I have to say, this is a situation you should stay away from. Don't even open Pandora's box. If this all goes to hell, you can recover from the fallout, but your mom will be stuck at ground zero. You're basically interning there, but your mom has a career.
There will be other girls.

You're joking right? Not only would his life become hell if things took a wrong turn.. but then the boss would fire him on the slightest error. You really don't need much to be fired when you think about it, but normally they just let it slide before it becomes a real problem. They don't have to do that though. Also.. do you want to work somewhere KNOWING you'll never get a promotion.. but instead demoted to the lowest rank? Not to mention, after all this, you can't use the job as a reference as the boss will be sure to give you most negative review. Think about that again man.. "going for it" isn't cut and dry...

you might as well date your best friend's sister!

Ever seen Armageddon? Look what happens in that film and there's your answer. But make sure you remember that you wont be saving the world or anything.

BAD NEWS!!!! BAD! BAD! BAD! No matter how good things are, unless you end up have the perfect marriage, nothing good can come of this! It took me 2 times before I learned my lesson!

Run the other direction!!!!!!!

tread lightly ................................very lightly when you least expect it............................WHAM drama

Right on. No matter how mature and old this gal is she's still going to be "daddy's little girl." Regardless of how well you fit into the family it will change when you start dating the boss's daughter. Instead of being that nice kid who came to all the kid's parties, you're going to be that slimeball jerk who's trying to boff my little girl. :)

Maybe you see it differently, but I'd avoid this chick like a leper with the plague.

If you really want to date her, and she wishes to date you, I'd say talk to her father first.. he's the one you need trust in. It also depends on the man he is. My old man wouldn't fire someone for breaking up with my sister? Why because he needs workers, and if you're a good one I doubt he'll wish to replace you. It's your chess game, where are you putting your pieces?

wow... im speechless... these are some great replies (even though 90% of them against)... yea, luckily i have another two weeks to make my decision on what to do... all i know right now, is it will be a VERY....s.....l......o.....w.... process...

i will agree that its a potentially dangerous situation... but then again, it might be something great... i dont know that yet... i am the only one that can really tell.. which is something i will need to see for myself...

this is becomming tougher than i thought..

keep the replies coming!

No way man... That's bound to be nothing but trouble.

Go for it, it could open new doors for you.

As long as you treat her like a princess, you will have no problems, right?

Life is about taking risks!

Just remember, if you dont go out with her, you might become distanced from her, and your relation with her family will diminish. If not, then you're still stuck where you are.

If you go out with her, and since you already have a good relationship with the family(which usually means she's been talking about you to them) then there is no reason why they wouldnt welcome you into their family. Then you have great potential for advancement, provided you do a good job of course.

While I've been agreeing lately with a lot of things that Cobra says, do not, DO NOT use this as an opportunity for advancement. Don't. Ever. Do. That.

Of course not. :)

I should have worded that better, sorry.
I just meant that the opportunity for advancement was an added bonus. :lol:

My cousin is an engineer, dated the daughter of his boss at his engineering firm. Daughter breaks up with him to date/marry another guy. My cousin was phased out of the company over a period of a month by reducing his work hours until he didn't have any more. Moral of story: Want you job? Stay away from boss's daughter.

Even after the extra info, i'd still say no. I really believe it has a lot of potential for blowing up in your face, and creating a mess for something so important as a job.

But then, i don't think i can count the times when i've asked for advice from friends, and they said don't do it, but i did it anyway... people are like that :P

Well, whatever your decision, all the best to you, dude :)

It's a job, you're only 21, you have you're whole life ahead of you. Have fun with the 18 year old princess. :)

Not a good idea if you have any career aspirations there. If it is just another job, go for it.

depends on how good your job is......


if you making 60k a year hell no....if your flipping burgers for 6 bucks an hour go for it

Really what isn't being said is that this is a really big opportunity to see what you’re made of.

First, just because you date this girl doesn't mean you are gonna hurt her or do her wrong... Only you know your real intentions.
(if you really can have some feelings for her this can be good, if this is just gonna be a fling it's real dangerous)

Second, the character you show here is gonna define you professionally in this company. If you treat this girl right no matter what, you will enhance your prestige with your boss and co-workers, and show some stones. It makes your way up move a lot faster.
(don't do this for your career though because it'll blow up in your face in a big way)

Third, it seems that virtually nobody has thought about what will happen if she gives you the shaft... Yes, women do that sometimes... There have been guys that couldn't handle the break up of a relationship and freaked out. Even a little freakage is gonna look way bad for you. (I mean: you can't call over and over when she doesn't want to talk to you, you can't just show up at her house, you can’t argue around her family, you can't talk to her folks ie. your boss and his wife about any fact, true or perceived, regarding you relationship, etc... If so this will certainly hurt your status with your boss and co-workers)

Basically, what I'm saying is if you do the right thing this probably won't hurt you. In fact, if you are the kind of man who can do the right thing, this will be known and valued by everyone involved. If you aren't they'll find out anyway, but you shouldn't give any bullets to shoot you with.

You might as well try the ancient approach and ask the dad if it is okay for you to ask out his daughter. He will certainly think more of you for this and he will tell you where the landmines are. But, be ready to hear the truth. If he tells you no, you gotta live with it, he’ll be twice as pissed if you go against him and do it anyway.

If everyone involved is an adult here and acts like it, you should have no worries... however, there are lots of people who can't act like adults in this world. Just be sure you know what YOU are doing.

Good luck.

I dont know. It depends on how easy going your boss is. Being the bosses daughter my dad didn't really take it to well. he acually fired the guy. so be smart about it.

I'm the boss, but I have no daughter. Sooooo, trying to put myself into that mindset. It really would depend on how I felt about the guy as an employee and as a person. I imagine if he had a strong work ethic I would feel better about it. If he wasn't sucha good employee, it would probably hasten his departure.

Are you strong enough to be her man? Is she mature enough not to play games with you and leverage her Dad? You'll be under a microscope at work. All in all I say go for it. At such a young age you don't have much to lose.

Never fish in the company pond my friend. The fact that you are actually thinking of messing with the bosses daugther will definately end up being the end of your career. Don't go there unless the job isn't important to you.

....man... this is harder than I thought :D well... I shall find out in a few days what the deal is.... I definitly agree with both sides of the party... It could go both ways, but i want to trust my instincts...

I talked to my mom about what i should do, (she is the financial manager in the company, so I dont want to fuck up her CAREER) and she said i should take the girl out, and stay friends with her, and take things VERY slow..... being that she is young (18) its something i should take my time with, and let happen naturally and NOT hastily...

so i think i may just go with that, I will say though that this girl is VERY into me... so I really do need to be careful because its not my job im worried about (im turning 22 in march and im still going to school for my engineering degree), I can always find another job, but its my mom's job that I dont want to fuck up... that would destroy me...

In conclusion, i think i will talk to the dad, when the time is right, and ask permission, and explain to him my intentions (to be friends) and take it from there... that way there is no pressure... and its only "friendly"....

so... i will keep you posted.... I know what i gotta do... whats crazy though is that this isnt even half of my problems.... I still have my ex involved in my life (i still see her, im friends with her and we are still intimate) and i have this other girl that is interested in me... so I really need to take things slow and just let things fall into place...

Plus i dont know what the future will bring... but like you said Plan9... life is short and I dont want any regrets in life... thats why i need to take chances sometimes...

Normally, i would agree with you, but the kid's mother works there too.

Is she under the "boss's" authority too?

If so, she could end up with the short end of the stick too.

There is more at play here than a horny 21 year old.

My advice would be you are 21, there are bazillions of other women out there, find one of those and avoid the problem.

Most 21 year old guys don't marry their girlfriends that they were dating when they were 21.

Let's talk about risk versus reward. Best case "Reward" is, you date her, everything works out okay, you have fun, everyone's satisifed, eventually it ends with good memories and nobody's hurt.

But what are you risking for that moderately good outcome? Worst case risks: Your secure status at a job you may well need in order to finish college. Your mom's career and possibly her retirement prospects.

So is the best-case reward worth the worst-case risks? I think not. You may hold out marriage as the ultimate best-case, but as Kirk says, that's pretty unrealistic at age 21. And in any case never, ever start a relationship with marriage in mind; skews your attitude in bad ways, danger will robinson, etc.

Sam, I will retract my earlier post. Since it is your Mom's company and her reputation you are concerned with...definitely stay away from it. There will be plenty more girls after this one. Let it go, it's not worth it. You sound like you are trying to approach it with the right perspective, but "the best layed plans..." I know it sounds logical now, but when emotions are involved logic goes out the window.

So yeah, read this and had to register. Want to hear a "worst case senario" version of this story? Cool. I'm leaving some information out but here is the basics.:thumbsup:

Last year I was into a not so valid form of making money to live off of. It was going awesome, until I no longer had a place to live. However, I was still making good (really good) money. I moved in with a friend and his family (he was living at home with parents, he is not married w/kids) and after a few months of him and I making money together, I was offered a job working for his mom selling and shipping foods to prisons. I took the job back around Novemeber and worked there happily until yesterday.
In February, a task force raided our house, the "big fish" turned on u saying we were the main supplier, and we ended up out smarting the police and keeping everything hidden well enought to remain clean...but thats is when we called it quits.


For the last few months before this all transpired, his sister had always caught my attention, but for a few reasons (including her being my bosses daughter and living in their house) I told myself never to make a move on her...which didn't matter because she made it on me eventually. So time goes by and it becomes somewhat of a serious relationship, we start seeing each other more, meaning more to each other etc, then is it a serious relationship.

After Dating three months, we were sitting in a chair watching a moive or something and her brother walked in and flipped out, we pointed out we wern't doing anything inappropriate, but he flipped regardless. I had a birthday June 1st, and on that day he asked me to move out within a week or two for more reasons than the previous night but including it as a reason. The next Saturday, was HER birthday. I'm practically family at this point, so I stay for the family dinner and watch a movie with the family, after which we go downstairs and finish Finding Nemo with her younger sisters, and then I put in a REAL Romantic movie...Friday :thumbsup: (Ice Cube and Chris Tucker). Halfway through friday the younger sisters go upstairs and brother comes down and once again freaks out asking all sorts of questions about what we were doing. Our answers didn't matter, so I stopped answering eventually...:shakehead:

Next day HER mom takes her cell phone and starts looking through the messages without telling her...she comes and sits next to me and shows a particularly graphic one :eek: to me and tells me to go pack up. I'm still not sure if I have been fired, or if that was me quitting, but I'm supposed to get my Final Hours to her by Friday.:mad: I brought up the point that what happened is a personal issue and she can't really fire me for it especially because it has never affected my work. I keep business and personal seperate, and am very good at it. She didn't listen, so I lost my job regardless. I lost my second family (well more so her brother, mother, and step-father, her other 4 siblings are happy with us being together).

Point is, some people who are in power will not use rational thinking and you will probably loose your job, so before you get toooo into your relationship, think about a carreer change or switching companies, and keep shit on the down low for a while...because no matter how secret you try to remain, if you aren't always super paranoid it's going to come back to bite you in the ass...but who wants to have a secret relationship anyways? Not me. Fuck that, I wont censor my feelings for anyone. I live my life how I choose to live it, and if someone else has a problem with it...guess what, thats their problem.

I decided to stay with her even though her parents dont want her to see me...ever...again. I lost friends and my job...i'm not loosing the one thing I was fighting for.

Hopefully her mom doesn't happen to check forums for this topic...I could see her being the type to do that... so on the off chance that she does, FUCK YOU. :thumbsup: I took better care of your daughter than you ever have, your ex-husband, or your husband, or any man she has ever been with. I make her happy and

So, to having a relationship and/or sex with your bosses daughter, CHEERS!!

:shakehead: oh this is bad.

Let me know what you guys think...besides that I'm an idiot or anything like that...I've gotten so much of that in the last few days I dont need to from you guys. Thanks. Hope you've enjoyed reading this. It has really sucked for me though.

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reading through that is makes it sound like we're 15 years old with the whole cell phone thing...definately not, im into my 20s. To whomever is considering dating their bosses daughter, I'm not kidding when I say, dont. The chances it will be anything more than a short fling with a bad ending are astronomical. I'm lucky in that I thik I'll be with this girl for quite some time. but dont just want to date or fuck your bosses daughter because she is hot. Or unless you plan on quitting and want to give your boss a big fuck you on your way out. lol

Anyways it's not a good idea unless you know her really well and are willing to loose what I have lost...which is close to everything. I said I would be leaving out details but I lost a lot and dont care to mention it.

Hope your decisions are the right ones.

Cheers! I'm gonna go have a beer and try to forget about this for a little bit.

I think the biggest problem is the age difference. You're 9 years older than his 18yo little girl. That's enough to piss a father off right there. He's also your boss which is another potential problem. He may take it as a sign of disrespect while you're dating her and he'll definitely hold a grudge if/when things don't work out. It's highly unlikely that they won't work out. 18year olds are stupid as shit and you'll learn that really quick when dating one.

Calvinmetal, I mean this in the most positive way possible:

http://img297.imageshack.us/img297/3466/mistakes.jpg

That's a hell of a "first post". Hope you stick around.

My boss' daughter is in elementary school, so no.