the couples lifestyle
 

Ok the wife and I are thinking about getting into this pretty soon. But not sure if its a good idea. wanting to know if any of you all have tried this while being married and if anything bad happened because of it. like STDs. It sounds like a lot of fun and its hard finding couples our age that are decent looking too. If any of you know of any good websites, chat rooms, whatever.

Try anycam.com. It's a chat room and webcam site that has lots of couples that are more then willing to share.

The wife and I have been into the couples scene for awhile. There are pitfalls to them. But in the long run. it's worth while. The beat adive I can give is to remember that it's only sex. Not love. She may enjoy the other person more sexwise. But she is just have sex. But you make love to her. And that's the biggest differance.

Hope that helps

thanks, but there has to be more of you out there that has tried this. I need more reasurance

Go to some swinger sites, and look around those. There, you'll find more people that aren't fakers, or picture collectors. Find a site or sites that "confirms" people. For the most part, STD's aren't a big problem. These people take other people's lives seriously, and while they may not use condoms...we don't...they do get checked on a regular basis. It's a lot of fun, we've met several couples that have become friends. Good luck...any questions from you or your spouse...PM me or my wife, raeanna74.

I can tell you that a female friend dearly regrets a mistake she made with the lifestyle. Her male partner introduced her to a couple, and they had a group encounter. Condoms were used for all intercourse, but she ended up getting genital herpes. What happened was that the lady of the other couple had herpes. The men were fingering both ladies, without washing hands, and she ended up exposed. Now she has something she can never get rid of. Although condoms do make things safer, you have to really be vigilant about ANY contact with body fluids etc. It's really easy to forget that in the excitement of the moment.

Thats what I was afraid of, I think that we are not just going to jump into bed with anyone untill we "know" them a little better. I have been on a few websites now, but there are not alot of couples in their early twenties that are decent looking that live here in Tulsa. I guess the search is half the fun.

it is soooooooo much fun as long as everyone is cool with it..

you have to have a solid relationship first