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Old 11-11-2003, 02:06 PM   #1 (permalink)
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Am I Bi ?

A few months ago, to my surprise, I began to get turned on by the men in the porn I watched. I began looking at some gay porn sites and reading some of the gay erotic stories trying to find the type of material that turned me on. I would download a few pictures I liked, masturbate to them then deleting them in a guilty fit. My interests started slowly. At first nothing hardcore, mostly pictures of men giving others head and masturbating. Soon I was downloading gay video. I surprised myself one night when I masturbated to a video with anal scenes. Something I would have found repulsive a year ago, I was drooling over now.

I have one gay friend that I have been having erotic dreams about. I've spoken to him and a few other friends about my new found interest. Interestingly a few of them have indicated that they would not be surprised if I decided to experiment with men. I'm pretty much a guy guy. Beer drinking, violent sports watching, badly dressed mess.

I guess what I'm looking for is input from any straight guys who have fooled around with other men or become officially bi. I have no idea what to do about this. Is this just an erotic fantasy or do I really want to have sex with another man. I can picture myself doing certain acts ( I'd be more descriptive but I'm not sure how moderated this forum is as this is my first post here.. hello all btw ). I can't picture myself going to a gay club so were do I meet someone like me to have fun with. Worse of all I would be kinda picky about what and who I wanted to do this with, first time and all.

As an aside I'm am still very much interested in women.

Anyways I'm rambling and I'm confused about what to do and how I feel but it seems to feel good.

Thanks for any input.

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Old 11-11-2003, 03:21 PM   #2 (permalink)
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As a teenager I had some, well, homosexual encounters. There were no 'feelings' involved, though, it was just about lust and experimentation. I do still on occasion fantasize about experimenting further, now that I am more intune with my sexuality. But I do not find it to be something I am compelled to do. And as I am married now, it's kind of like that train has gone even if I were interested in getting onboard. Which I'm not..

I think a lot of heterosexual males have homoerotic fantasies at one point or another in their lives. It's perfectly 'normal' and I would not worry about it too much. Maybe you ARE bi, maybe you're not. This may be something that will pass, or you may just have to experiment. If you're single and all, I say go for it. You never know.
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Old 11-11-2003, 03:25 PM   #3 (permalink)
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You have to answer that question for yourself.

Are you Bi?

Nothing that we can perceive about you will define your sexuality, you have to decide on it on your own.
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Old 11-11-2003, 04:06 PM   #4 (permalink)
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Does it really matter if you are....to you I mean? If not whata ya got to lose.
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Old 11-11-2003, 04:36 PM   #5 (permalink)
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Being labelled "Bi" isn't a concern. Do what/ who you do if you enjoy it and call it a day.

Tell you what, let me figure out what it is I want to ask and I'll re-post later. I'm just confused right now. I'm not sure if this is something I want to seek out or wait for it to happen ? If it was to happen, how far would I want it to go ? Blah blah.

Sorry for being wishy washy. I'm at a very weird point in my life and this is making my head spin.

That said I wouldn't mind chatting with a bi/ gay guy. I have so many stupid questions.

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Old 11-11-2003, 05:00 PM   #6 (permalink)
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A few months ago, to my surprise, I began to get turned on by the men in the porn I watched. I began looking at some gay porn sites and reading some of the gay erotic stories trying to find the type of material that turned me on. I would download a few pictures I liked, masturbate to them then deleting them in a guilty fit. My interests started slowly. At first nothing hardcore, mostly pictures of men giving others head and masturbating. Soon I was downloading gay video. I surprised myself one night when I masturbated to a video with anal scenes. Something I would have found repulsive a year ago, I was drooling over now.

I have one gay friend that I have been having erotic dreams about. I've spoken to him and a few other friends about my new found interest. Interestingly a few of them have indicated that they would not be surprised if I decided to experiment with men. I'm pretty much a guy guy. Beer drinking, violent sports watching, badly dressed mess.

I guess what I'm looking for is input from any straight guys who have fooled around with other men or become officially bi. I have no idea what to do about this. Is this just an erotic fantasy or do I really want to have sex with another man. I can picture myself doing certain acts ( I'd be more descriptive but I'm not sure how moderated this forum is as this is my first post here.. hello all btw ). I can't picture myself going to a gay club so were do I meet someone like me to have fun with. Worse of all I would be kinda picky about what and who I wanted to do this with, first time and all.

As an aside I'm am still very much interested in women.

Anyways I'm rambling and I'm confused about what to do and how I feel but it seems to feel good.

Thanks for any input.

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Old 11-11-2003, 05:26 PM   #7 (permalink)
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I think you are.

Give it a shot. You have nothing to lose but time, and everything to gain.

Oh, and to answer your question, I'm a straight guy who has never had a homosexual experience. I've just never had the urge. But I've THOUGHT about it, in the abstract sense. "Hmmm...am I straight because society tells me to be straight, or do I actually have repressed feelings for men? *think think think* Nope. I like pussy, and that's pretty much it."
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Old 11-11-2003, 05:36 PM   #8 (permalink)
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How do you define bi? Someone with an active sexual life with both sexes; or someone who occassionally gets/gives a little from their own gender? I'm the latter; don't really consider myself bi, as I'm overwhelmingly hetero; but I do enjoy a little manplay. Its more of an experimentation. Just enjoy it.

BTW, you'll find that other men give the best head.
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Old 11-11-2003, 07:40 PM   #9 (permalink)
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I wouldn't purport to know, but it sounds like you're at the very least curious. If this is something you want to do then don't feel ashamed about it. trying to suppress your feelings is just going to depress you.
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Old 11-12-2003, 03:04 AM   #10 (permalink)
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"Bi" is a word. How you choose to live your life cannot be left up to a word. Do what you want to do. Do you have to label your love? What's the point? Stop asking others, determine your own fate.

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Old 11-12-2003, 06:23 AM   #11 (permalink)
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Does it really matter if you are....to you I mean? If not whata ya got to lose.
I was gonna say the same thing. I'd also add, so what? If you are, you've instantly doubled your date pool. Don't sweat it.
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Old 11-12-2003, 08:12 AM   #12 (permalink)
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This is something you'll have to figure out on your own, nothing we tell you will define if you are bi, it's yourself you'll have to ask
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Old 11-12-2003, 09:30 AM   #13 (permalink)
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Don't worry about definitions they only fuck your head up. Just follow your instincts and enjoy it. If its not for you you will know

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Old 11-13-2003, 11:10 AM   #14 (permalink)
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( I'd be more descriptive but I'm not sure how moderated this forum is as this is my first post here.. hello all btw ).
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Old 11-13-2003, 12:09 PM   #15 (permalink)
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You're Human, at least I'd hope you are - what with the ability to type and all, so are you bi?

Maybe No.

Perhaps Yes.

I don't get putting sexuality into boxes.

6 BILLION people.

3 boxes.

Nah, I don't reckon. You're you, live with it and do what feels good at the time.
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Old 11-14-2003, 05:03 PM   #16 (permalink)
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Don't worry about a label.

Goes with what feels right. It's all about you and what interests you. Sounds like lustfull experimentation. Life is short, no regrets. It all can be your own secret or everyone can know.
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Old 11-14-2003, 10:41 PM   #17 (permalink)
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i was a woman in my last carnation. atleast, i think i was. hmmmmm....waffles!
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Old 11-19-2003, 02:58 AM   #18 (permalink)
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I tell people that I'm bi, just so they know I'm a switch hitter at heart (still a virgin), but I don't like sexual labels. It's convenient for humans to stuff people in preordered pigeon holes, but behavioral (certainly sexual) categories are unnatural by nature. The closest thing we have is the Klein scale of sexuality. This was developed in the 1950s, of all times:

0 - exclusively straight
1 - mostly straight
2 - straight, but strongly bisexual
3 - bisexual
4 - gay, but strongly bisexual
5 - mostly gay
6 - exclusively gay

This scale can be applied to physical attraction, romantic interest, fantasy, behavior, ideal behavior, and other subcategories of sexuality. Believe it or not, married men who have great sex with their wives go to adult bookstores and glory holes to get their dicks sucked by people who know what it feels likes, and just because a woman calls herself a lesbian, it doesn't mean that she doesn't have sex with men. Gays and lesbians are infamous for living together and having sex, but persuing love inside their genders.

I've been attracted to both sexes since I was 10, but I didn't come out to myself until my senior year of high school, and I didn't come out to my friends until my freshman year of college. I still have to work on the family, though.

I went through the same porn cycle that was talked about earlier. I started off watching vids of guys jerking off, then graduated to oral, then to anal. I would get the urge to watch gay pron, download it, jerk off, then delete the files out of shame/disgust. Three days later I got horny again, downloaded THE SAME videos from THE SAME place, jerk of, and deleted out of shame.

It took a while to be completely ok with it, and being out to your friends is a part of it. If you can tell people that you are attracted to both sexes, then you are on your way to being past the shame. America is a very macho culture that doesn't want to deal with the ambiguity of being a sexual being.

Here's some advice for you: you don't have to go to gay guys to get some action. You can get straight guys to do just about anything if they are horny enough. Start out watching pron with one of your friends. Then after a while, whip your dick out, start yanking, and PRETEND THAT IT IS ABSOLUTELY NORMAL. He will be uncomfortable for a few minutes, then he will become more comfortable, then he will pull his out. Then out of no where, you move your hand over and start wanking him. Again, his immediate reaction will be "wtf?", but once he finds out how much better someone else's hand feels, then he get into it and return the favor.

If you ask him if you can jerk off togther, HE WILL SAY NO. If you give guys time to think about it, they WILL reject you. But if you let him know what it feels like before he has time to think about it, he will oblige.

Gay guys will try to seek emotional connection whether you want it or not. Straight guys will keep it on the dl, because they don't want their straight status compromised.

If you want some gauranteed action, go to adult bookstores and theaters.

Don't worry about labels. The reason you have sexual contact is because it feels good, not because it is apart of your sexual identity.

I will be making a t-shirt soon that says, "[front]bisexual chocolate, [back]taste the future". With every year that passes, sexuality becomes more and more vague and acceptable, so "functional" bisexuality should become the wave of the future. (/pipedream)

Good luck.
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Old 11-19-2003, 04:49 AM   #19 (permalink)
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I'm a woman so may not have much to say here but...I am bi and I don't think I could have ever been sure of it until I actually played with another woman. My first experience was awesome and I was hooked. Now I tell certain people that I am true Bisexual because I enjoy and can get off easily with both genders. My suggestion is don't worry about wondering if you are or not until you get a chance to try it.

Are none of your gay friends open to getting together with you and letting you test the waters? Also hubby and I have found that we've met a number of great couples through the internet through swinger sites. Yahoo has a few good swinger groups too. There are quite a few guys who are swingers who are bi. It's a thought - you could get with a couple and then if you realized that you enjoyed the fantasy more than the reality you can just finish with the woman and it wouldn't be as awkward.
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Old 11-19-2003, 12:55 PM   #20 (permalink)
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Go get yourself a g/f dude. Your not gay, you're mind is just all screwy from the endless possibilites of the computer. Not that theres anything wrong with that you can do what you want on the computer, but if you're still intrested in girls go that route its the best believe me.
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Old 11-19-2003, 01:51 PM   #21 (permalink)
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note: The swinger community is all about bi fems, but bi guys are still taboo even in such an irreverent community.

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Also hubby and I have found that we've met a number of great couples through the internet through swinger sites. Yahoo has a few good swinger groups too. There are quite a few guys who are swingers who are bi. It's a thought - you could get with a couple and then if you realized that you enjoyed the fantasy more than the reality you can just finish with the woman and it wouldn't be as awkward.
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Old 11-19-2003, 01:59 PM   #22 (permalink)
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You are an individual: you are you. Applying a socially constructed label doesn't change who you are. Seriously, do what feels good. Some dudes like women, some dudes like men, some dudes like women and men. Nothing wrong with that.

Good luck with everything.
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Old 11-19-2003, 08:53 PM   #23 (permalink)
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