Adicted? To masturbation?
 

I like to think of myself as a normal guy. I have a good job, a car, a house, and a girlfriend who loves me. It's odd to admit this, however, I am addicted to masterbation. It's wierd to think about it as an addiction, but it's having an effect on my life.

OK, addmitiably I am able to lead a mostly normal life, unlike sufferers of other forms of addiction. But here is what I go through on a daily basis:

About half way through work every day, all I can think about is getting home to rub one out. It drives me nuts through the rest of the work day, and I am noticiably less productive. When I get home, if for some reason I can't (room mate, friend over, etc), I'm internally pissed off; it's like some preasure is building that has to be let out, else my evening goes to shit. My girlfriend works nights so that doesn't help, plus it's not even the desire for sex, and having sex on a regular basis doesn't help. It's something else. I've tried pure will power, but I crack in a couple of days. I've deleted all the pr0n off my machine several times, but it comes back again after only a few days.

As a foot note, I haven't had problems with any other form of addiction. I don't smoke, I drink only in moderation, didn't get addicted to everquest or other online games (although my room mates have).

Anyway, are there others that go through anything similar. If so please share if you are so inclined. I'd like this to be an opening for discussion. Advise and comments are welcome and invited. Thanks in advance.

PS. I know I'm fucked up, but that's ok. I'm not looking to get bashed on, but feel free if you like.

I know where your coming from. I'm thinking it could be one of two things (or both) 1) perhaps you are addicted to the habit of masterbation 2) or maybe your addicted to the endorphine rush. Saying your addicted to it might even be a little harsh on yourself, just take it one day at a time. I used to be a stoner and I had a really hard time stopping that because of the high and the habit (the motion of smoking) sadly as a substitute I find myself masterbating more. Fuck, maybe I'm not the one to be giving you advice :p .

Re: Adicted? To masterbation?
 

damn porn. cant kill it. it just comes back from the dead.

anyways...i'm not in your shoes...i'm more of a compulsive masterbater. but i do know that sometimes if i have nothing better to do i can waste almost a whole day strokin it. maybe you could try thinkin of something else to do instead of masterbation. maybe running or something? or every time you feel like you have to masterbate, drop and do 20 pushups or something. maybe that will get energy out of your system and bring you some endorphines.
but i'm just talking out of my ass.

Thats not a half bad idea Dark, I might have to try that myself.

heh uh...

Just beware to not favor it instead of normal sex. Otherwise, just stroke away. Just might be a phase.

nothing to say

Do you rub one out before you go to work? Maybe if you got it out of the way early?

On the other hand, we have 5 minute smoke breaks for smokers, why not a 5 minute break for this?

But do you have to do it in the same area as the smokers? LOL I would love to see someone tell there boss they are going for a jerk break.

WHATS UP MY STRKING BROTHERS!!!!
 

IV GOT THE SAME PROBLEM .....
IV GOT A AMAIZING GIRLFRIEND(WIFE) AND I BAT ABOUT 5-6 TIMES A DAY...
ESPECIALLY WHEN IV GOT A DAY OF WORK......BUT 7 DAYS A WEEK FOR SURE.....HOW FUCKED UP IS THAT!!!!
THE OTHER DAY I COULDNT EVEN COME WHILST HAVING SEX WITH MY GIRL.....IN MY FAVOURITE POSITION!!!!!!!
I HAVE RECENTLY QUIT SMOKING CHRONIC.......THREE DAYS AND AM FEELING REALLY TIRED ALSO....
IV GOT A GREAT JOB THAT MOST MOST PEOPLE WOULD DIE FOR AND A FEELING QUITE DOWN ALL THE TIME.
JUST LETTING EVERYONE KNOW THAT YOU ARE NOT ALONE THERE.....
THE SENSATION IN MY SHLONG IS DETERIORATING SLOWLY.....I CAN FEEL IT

ALSO IM ADDICTED TO PORN AT THE MOMENT....IS THAT SAD OR WHAT...
WHO WOULD HAVE EVA THOUGHT....SITTING IN FRONT OF THE MAC IS DOING MY HEAD IN......AND MY SHLONG
AS I READ WHAT IV JUST WRITTEN, ITS LIKE IM READING SOME PERVERTS STORY,,,,CANT BELIEVE ITS ME......O WELL, COULD BE WORSE NO.....WHAT DO YOU THINK????????

[SIZE="7"][SIZE="7"]TIME TO SLOW DOWN AND STOP SPEEDING:grumpy:

seems like this may be more habit than addiction. The quickest way to break a habit is to find something else to replace it with. For instance when you feel the urge to jack off, immediatly find something else to do for that moment. It can be anything (as long as it isnt sexually oriented) and no matter what happens, do the same thing each time you feel the urge coming on. It will take some time, but eventually the habit should be replaced. Hope this helps.

OP, lest this worry you too much, consider that not getting off enough might harm you. An "addiction to masturbation" might save your life!

Believe it or not, just like any other activity, there is a known scientific condition for people who are adicted to masterbation. In all seriousness, I would contact a professional, because you have admited that this is causing problems in your every day life. Just like AA for alcoholics, there are chapters of MA for masturbators. I don't have the acess right now to look it up, but you can easily do a web search to find the help you want.

On an asside, I KNOW I am addicted to masturbation, just hasn't caused me any trouble in my daily life to warrant an intervention...lol.

It takes 3-4 days to create a habit, and 7 to break that habit. There is absolutely nothing wrong with watching porn or rubbing one out. Masturbation and fantasy are healthy factors in a great sex life. You shouldn't feel guilty about wanting to pleasure yourself. You know how to get your rocks off better than anyone else. So go ahead rub one out but perhaps instead of just doing it to release steam, talk to your girl about what you were fantasizing about while your were jerking the chain. You might find that she has very similar fantasies and it becomes a firestarter to other things in the bedroom.

Since you say it's not a desire to have sex, I think the problem lies in boredom. Taking up something like pushups is a great idea and does 2 things. It releases your boredom and it gets you into healthier shape. What could be bad about that??

Anyway, don't feel guilty or embarrased about masturbating; you're not addicted, you just have a habit and one that is certainly better than most bad habits out there. If you do feel like it's drowning your sex life then it's a problem.. if you feel that way then go back to my first suggestion. Masturbation and fantasy are alot more fun when 2 are involved :thumbsup:

While I agree with you about it not being a bad thing, as he had admitted, it is causing trouble at work. If it is causing problems at work, then there IS an issue to deal with.

You are correct. There is an issue to deal with, but I think it's all mental. I think he's using masturbation as a stress reliever.. which can be a good thing; but perhaps he should try something else when that desire arises. Find a new website, listen to some music, just relax and take a break and get back to work. You obviously (the OP) know when you start to feel this habit rearing it's head so you should be able to head it off. I'm not sure what type of work you do but there has to be a way to do something active during a break rather then think about how bad you want to blow a load. I know people who ride a couple of miles on their bike during a lunch break just to clear their head and relax. If something like that works for you then you should try it. If it is an actual addiction then perhaps the MA meetings would benefit you. :shrug:

Just an FYI -- the OP is about 3.5 years old... but good advice nonetheless. :)

fuckin a! I didn't even look at the OP date..

oh well at least the advice is here if someone else is needing it

Thanks Guccilvr for reviving this thread.

This is something that has actually been on my mind. There was somebody on TV that was talking about self-medicating with alcohol and this made me think hey, maybe I am doing that with masturbation.

When you say that it takes 3-4 days to create a habit and then 7 to break the habit this is something that I see applies to my past... masturbation history, for lack of a better term.

For example, after masturbating daily for like 5 days, it occurs to me that I need to chill out. It is apparent to me that my sex drive is falling and my feelings are starting to feel more bogged down with depression, so I quit masturbating and I'm all good for like the next week and going out and talking to girls is easier and everything feels good so my thoughts are "hey, it is time for me to have a wank." Then the cycle happens all over again.

After writting this, it is apparent to me I should get laid.

Hello to all--This is my first post!
 

I have experienced some of the same feelings as well concerning masturbation as of late, but with a few twists and turns compared to examples already posted here having to do with "addiction" to porn and chronic masturbation.

Here's my deal:

I recently split up with my girlfriend of 2 1/2 years (my decision). Over that period of time, I developed an internet porn habit that got to the point that i would look forward to looking at my favorite porn stars and and pleasing myself, more than I would look forward to having sex with her. Please note, that during all of this, I never had any problems performing with her, and we still had sex on a regular basis. I never had a problem getting turned on. When we parted, I met a gorgeous girl that should have made my penis stand up straight and tall, but I guess you could say that I "choked"---performance anxiety that I have never felt in the 29 years of my life. Eventually, it did work, but not to its full potential, and it was so embarrassing that the next time I was with her, that's all I could think about (my dick not working) and the dominoes started falling over. Thankfully, she was very cool about it, but I still get fear inside me whenever i know she will be around. It just doesn't make sense, and is making me afraid that i will permanantly be like this, even though I was fine a month ago with my girlfriend.

What the hell is wrong with me? Has porn totally ruined my sex drive, and melted my brain?? I am pretty sure that this is due to chronic masturbation....is it because that i was just used to my girlfriend, that i functioned properly around her? Does anyone else have an opinion, or have had anything similar happen to them in the bedroom?

thanks.

See its normal for a male to have an addiction to masterbation, i dont even call it an addiction i call it a habit, for some reason i get bored of every girl i date, like i dont know what it is but everytime i get in there pants, ill have fun for like the first 2 weeks, then i dont even want to date her anymore.......EVERY GUY HAS TO MASTERBATE ITS A NORMAL THING.....and i got the perfect site for you http://www.Xnxx.com this site helps me for my cravings.....its hard to find a girl thats actully good in bed....like every girl i date is just boring in bed....i like freaky girls that do crazy shit, but its hard to find them, if you got one KEEP IT, you will love her..

Better than smoking... Better than $12 tranny hookers... better than feces artwork...

I think your addiction is fine. Could be worse. You could be addicted to masturbating horses.

(heh!) So...1278 ejaculations later...:thumbsup:

Master---bater seeks help
 

Hello Matt, let me tell you their are other out there with the same feelings you have. I love to masterbate at least once or twice a day, I am married and get to have as much sex as I want. I have a very lovely wife, sexy and know how to take care of a man in bed, but yet I find myself wanted to masterbate more then have sex, with anyone. I sometime would wonder if I was alone in the feeling, but I guess I am not alone. The truth is I love porn and love to see hot sexy women get fucked and suck some good dick. But I love my wife even more, still I find myself wanted to masterbate, I sometime rather masterbate then have sex with my wife, but I love to masterbate even more to images and videos of my wife. I must be fucken nutts! Nevertheless I too sometime get in a bad mood if I cant pleasure myself, or if the kids are coming in my room when I'm in the middle of a hand party. I have spent up to 12 hours spanking my monkey. I have to say I have lost lots of sleep over masterbating, but I cant seem to stop.

Open to any wisdom.

c'om on guyz , its a really searious problem .... masturbation is like a daily routine and is very addictive specially if u havent got laid in 2 years ...lol

...normal...
 

Sheesh! [wipes brow]... I'm starting to feel normal after all!:paranoid:

I have a problem with it too. When my girl of 2 and a half years and I broke-up, I started doing A LOT of things that weren't very good for me (smoking pot, extacy, popping pills, acid, etc.) Along with those things I developed a love for wacking it. Compared to the other stupid shit I was doing, it was the lesser of a lot of other evils. Almost ten years later, I've stopped doing everything but the compulsive masturbation. I still drink a lot and smoke cigarettes too. Sometimes, it feels like I would rather rub one out than have sex with the girlfriend, because I know that every time I rub one out, I'm going to cum. It has affected my sex drive and my performance. I'm going to delete all of the porn on my computer today, and see how long i can go without. Maybe someone should start a forum on the TFP, like for support. It could be like a challenge or something, or maybe just a place to go to see how everyone else is doing with their progress in breaking the habbit.

For people who can get sex on a regular basis masturbation to porn on the internet can be exciting and can be more orgasmic than normal sex mostly do to zero emotional content involved. You don’t have to worry about your partner’s feelings or your sexual ability. This is normal and has been around since porn was first invented. If you are having trouble with having a “normal” sex life then take your sex life out of the bedroom or if this is not a option then try something new like maybe playacting, new positions or try tying yourself or your partner up. The best advice I can give you is try something new. If you are still having problems then you may need counseling.

For those who don’t have a partner or a regular partner there is no such thing as too much masturbation. The only things you should watch out for is friction burns and if it is causing problems with your normal life routine. For example masterbating in an inappropriate place like in public. Masturbation at work is normal (I forgot what the percentage of people who masturbated at work was and it was high for men and moderate for woman). When I say in public I mean in front of people who do not want to see you masturbate or in front of inappropriate members of our society.

I think that masturbation is very addictive, and I know for a fact that if I start masturbating then it becomes practically impossible for me to go to sleep without jerking off to ejaculate the tension away.

I've been completely celibate for 35 days and 34 nights now, and I will say that the first 20 days were total hell for me. In fact, I think I'm still going through withdrawal right now because I find myself waking up with a raging erection and an almost irresistible urge to masturbate and ejaculate.

wonky wacker
 

I have this same problem. I have been with a gf I love for many years now and sex is still good, in fact we added anal to the reportoire a couple months ago. My problem is I'm still hooked to masterbating. During the weekdays I usually stay up till about 3 - 4 am looking for and dl'ing to find the perfect video to jerk to. My job is long hours, 12 hour days.

So in addition to the problems about sensitivity and losing excitement about sex with my gf that many have mentioned, I get teensy amounts of sleep. Prolly average about 4.5 hours a nite between the work and porn. At work I feel drained all the time which sucks because its a dream job, but has a high degree of stress to it. Don't do drugs or anything except for a couple beers a month. Its definately affecting, but hell this is been going on for years now. Sometimes I wonder if it will all blow up.

wow i just signed up and man it took time and energy, anyway
i to masturbate and its, i feel, a real problem. always feel dirty. but i did stop for tow weeks recently and there has bean a time were it exceeded a month but that was mostly do to the fact that i was never alone witch helps but is not a permanent solution the most effective way to stop, is to stop your self from fanticiesing about it and to fill in border with any other activity, but not drugs
go for sports or outing, something that involves other people and situations where your not going to masturbate sadly i can only tell you whats effective
not what will stop the erge most likely the erge will never go away

side note its bin sead that masturbation is the hardiest habit or addiction to brake, but i think drinking water is a harder habit to brake, so it may not be a bad habit but if you want to stop, thats your desire.don't let anything get in the way!!!

Masturbation is only a "problem" if it is interfering with your life in other ways; ie. you skip school or a job to stay home and masturbate; or it is interfering with relationships. It can also be a problem if the guilt (or dirtiness) that you feel leads you into depression.

However, I would address the feelings of guilt before I would quit masturbating. In other words, the guilty feeling is the problem not the act of masturbation.

By the way, I understand your analogy, but drinking water is NOT a habit--it is necessary to sustain life.

At least you have a girlfriend. If it isn't affecting your social life to the extent that you can't meet girls, you have one up on a guy that doesn't look at porn (me), but who also can't get women.

maybe you should start looking at porn then the vimmens* will come next.


*women.

oh and my opinion is masturbation is definitely exercise. feelgood exercise.

and i´m not sure that anyone has bought up the point "the less you do it, the less you want to." i know i´ve stopped for months and after only a few days the urge disappears altogether. then i just get bored and have time to kill. beats getting fat on pizza watching tv :)

I masturbate about 4 times a day while at work, I really do not find it a problem, I am happily married and have a normal home life.

I must say though the passangers on the bus I drive are not very happy....:thumbsup:

Whats the big deal. I get laid at least once a day and still beat of 2 to 6 more times. I am just always horny. Doesn't effect my work or love life. Its just the way I am so I see no problem with it nor am I ashamed of it. My girlfriend has come home and will see me on the couch or bed doing it. She knows how horny I get and it thankful she doesn't always have to satisfy me. I started at & and will do it till I die. And beside, its good for your prostate.

This thread is awesome!

I concur ^

I dont have a girlfriend at the moment but im a horny guy and have needs and even if i did have a g/f i would still be wacking off like a maniac lol. I would say i fap 5-15 times a day. It doesnt get in the way of work/school/family/friends/hobbies/etc so i dont consider it an issue. Masturbation is normal and it feels good/relieves tension...now when it gets in the way of importanting things and events then it can be an addiction. I can control myself...there is a time and a place for everything.

To the OP, just try harder! I believe you can do it.

Well, it's been seven years... I certainly hope the OP straightened his shit out.

trust me ur ok......ish. what i mean is guys are horny so r girls they just dont show it like we do (lucky them). most guys can control it others cant the ones that cant could be called addicted like me but when i say i cant control it i mean it i have to do it once a day so the next day i dont have a little friend with me ALL DAY. im 18 and bein doin it since i was 11 i have done it once 7 times in one day only cause it would not go down sleeping, cold showers nothing worked so i went to town but thats not the worst time. once for 3 weeks before summer school i did it 2 to 4 times a day in those 3 weeks i did it 45 times. but im not addicted cause i truthfully think it has a mind of its own cause even when im not turned on it gets up. fact im not gay hate them (i know its wrong but.,....) when it goes against nature yea. reason for fact ive gotten hard in a classroom full of ............ FUCKING DUDES for no reason that proves that it has a mind of its own. the reason we get turned on is not cause of r penis but r mind ( ooooh ahhhhhh) trippy. any smell, touch, sound, or sight that gets u goin is what does it so getin that hard on in the middle of the day is fine just blame the 23 year old that dresses like a high class hooker that shows up in ur work place that loves to ALWAYS seem to walk by when ur mind is already distracted or any thought of ur girl. so even thought u think that its ur fault for wantin to go home and rub one out dont its not ur fault its ur mind(or u penises mind after all its EVIL).:thumbsup:

Hi Im new. This thread is fantastic! This is the stuff you cant tell your best girlfriend. Yes Im a woman and Im a serial masturbator. Sometimes I get off two or three times a day. I have done it at work, in the ladies room, standing up. What a visual, huh? Im not proud of it. I feel like a freak, but in a good way. Ive pulled over while driving, discreetly..just to get off. Ive done it while driving. Ive had marathon weekends where Ive cum 7 or 8 times in one day. I sometimes go two or three weeks surfing porn...rubbing and cumming. Then I chill out on it. I feel like a creepy perv. I feel like I should be doing something constructive or I should clean something in my house. But then , I think...we are given this amazing pleasure ability, that we can give to ourselves. So...why not? I love guys, I love cock. I also love looking at naked hot chicks. Give me one honest woman that can truly say that the sight of a georgeous female body isnt slightly arousing. If she says NO, shes lying. I love my bf, I love giving him glorious head..and he loves that I get off so easy and sooooo often. Its a muscle people, you gotta excercise it.