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Amano · 08-31-2003, 07:28 AM

I went to this party last night, and needless to say, I got pretty drunk, and so did this other girl. In our drunken states, we hit it off pretty well... talking, laughing, some dancing. I asked her out (she said yes), and I also got her number. We hooked up later after talking for quite a bit. Nothing too heavy, just making out, nothing more than that (we didnt spend the night)

So now I'm here, the morning after, with her phone number. What I remember of her, I like, and I want to call her. Do you think it's a bad idea? Can a relationship happen after something like that?

ratbastid · 08-31-2003, 07:37 AM

Absolutely. But you'll probably have to start knowing that she'll be as uncomfortable about it as you are. You probably can't just barge into asking her for a date.

Averett · 08-31-2003, 07:38 AM

Jesus Chris, CALL HER MAN!

I apparently had that same situation last weekend. Though I wasnt drunk, and neither was he. Anyway, numbers were exchanged but funnily enough mine wasn't called!

You say you like her and want to call her. So where exactly is the bad idea? Why couldn't something happen???

Give her a call... Today! Tell her you had a good time, and that youd like to have a chance to get to know her better, under non drunken circumstances.

Please please call her.. she's probably hoping that you do. Good luck

Prince · 08-31-2003, 09:45 AM

Stop wasting time and call her. CALL HER.

lurkette · 08-31-2003, 09:50 AM

I see no reason why not. You might want to acknowledge that you both might be a little sheepish and uncomfortable because you were drunk at the time, but hell, if you hit it off why waste an opportunity? See if you like each other as well when you're sober.

RoadRage · 08-31-2003, 10:05 AM

You already have a big foot in the door. You'd be foolish to not at least explore. Quit reading this and call her already.

Amano · 08-31-2003, 10:14 AM

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Originally posted by Averett

Give her a call... Today! Tell her you had a good time, and that youd like to have a chance to get to know her better, under non drunken circumstances.

Today even? You don't think I should wait a day or two?

Averett · 08-31-2003, 10:19 AM

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Originally posted by Amano
Today even? You don't think I should wait a day or two?

You're lucky enough to get a womans perspective here

If she gets annoyed that you're calling her today, and not waiting the lame 2-3 days, then don't bother with her. She's obviously an idiot.

But I'm guessing she is like most women. Secretly hoping that the guy they hooked up with the night before will call, and call soon. You've got nothing to lose, and a lot to gain. Call her up, have a chat. See where it goes.

Seriously. Call her. Today.

tikki · 08-31-2003, 10:19 AM

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Originally posted by Amano
Today even? You don't think I should wait a day or two?

Call early in the evening.

rogue49 · 08-31-2003, 11:55 AM

ANYTHING is possible.

I have NEVER been able to predict how two people will do together.

All you can do is try.

Aaron0000 · 09-01-2003, 06:39 PM

Good move, by only making out with her. Sometimes if you go too far the first night you meet a girl, she may feel slutty and think that now whenever you call her you just want to hook up. But, I think this is the best way a relationship can start, because this way you both know you are attracted to one another and are comfortable enough with eachother to already have hooked up. Of course, you better hope she wasnt tooo tooo drunk, or she may not remember you, or may not like you when shes NOT drunk. Either way, give her a call.
Good Luck

Captain Canada · 09-01-2003, 07:12 PM

Well... I met a previous girlfriend that way. Needless to say, it didnt work out very well. She ended up telling me that I need to not get with people you hook up with, and that she was pretty much cheating on me the whole time.....so I dont really talk to her anymore. But Im sure they can work out sometimes.

Plan9Senior · 09-01-2003, 07:48 PM

WARNING!!!! FOR THE LOVE OF GOD DISREGARD THE ADVICE OF PEOPLE SAYING TO CALL TODAY!!!!

Please don't call the next day. Call her Wednesday and ask her to hang out Friday. Despite what anybody tells you, some games are necessary in keeping her interested and to make sure she doesn't think you are some pushover or a desperate guy. Trust me on this one

Amano · 09-01-2003, 09:02 PM

well i called, and a message and a returned call afterwards, I have a date for next weekend! Thanks guys for pushing me to call

plan9, that was my gut feeling, but Averett's post convinced me to go against that... oh well... what's done is done

Plan9Senior · 09-01-2003, 09:10 PM

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Originally posted by Amano
well i called, and a message and a returned call afterwards, I have a date for next weekend! Thanks guys for pushing me to call

plan9, that was my gut feeling, but Averett's post convinced me to go against that... oh well... what's done is done

Congrats anyhow

. Where are you going to take her?

wry1 · 09-01-2003, 10:04 PM

Averett is right.

Call her, man!!!!

I had a similar run-in about two weeks ago, and called her the very next day....hey, I promised her I would, and drunk or no: if I remember the promise, I make good on the promise.

If memory serves me right (and it does) I wound up going over to her place the next night for a relaxing evening of watching DVDs. Nothing too heavy, but we'll see where things go (you might already know this if you follow my journal entries - start with #36).

Either way, good luck to you!

punx1325 · 09-01-2003, 11:04 PM

Call her! If you hit it off, its worth a shot....

MrFlux · 09-01-2003, 11:33 PM

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Originally posted by punx1325
Call her! If you hit it off, its worth a shot....

Read the thread, he did call her.

Averett · 09-02-2003, 04:59 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by Amano
well i called, and a message and a returned call afterwards, I have a date for next weekend! Thanks guys for pushing me to call

plan9, that was my gut feeling, but Averett's post convinced me to go against that... oh well... what's done is done

Yay! I'm glad you called her and it worked out so far.

See guys, Don't play stupid games! If you like the girl, why wait to call? If you wait, you just might piss her off and make her not want to see you again. You never know

bundy · 09-02-2003, 05:28 AM

woohoo!!

go drunken hook-ups!!

good luck amano, and i´m pleased you called her... i know lots of guys who chicken out of following up drunken adventures.

noahfor · 09-02-2003, 09:54 PM

i did this, and now i have a really strong relationship, i mean it took a while after the druken hook up to go out but whatever

Sleepyjack · 09-04-2003, 05:36 AM

i second the praises for drunken hookups

Amano is the personification of this

Boardslut · 09-04-2003, 06:12 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by Averett
If she gets annoyed that you're calling her today, and not waiting the lame 2-3 days, then don't bother with her. She's obviously an idiot.

second that ... always use following mindset: YOU are the prize, if she decides to walk away from you, that's too bad for her, not for you

BE the alpha male

Sparhawk · 09-04-2003, 09:21 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by Boardslut
second that ... always use following mindset: YOU are the prize, if she decides to walk away from you, that's too bad for her, not for you

BE the alpha male

My philosophy exactly.

08-31-2003, 07:28 AM	#1 (permalink)
Amano Insane	relationship possible after a drunken hookup? I went to this party last night, and needless to say, I got pretty drunk, and so did this other girl. In our drunken states, we hit it off pretty well... talking, laughing, some dancing. I asked her out (she said yes), and I also got her number. We hooked up later after talking for quite a bit. Nothing too heavy, just making out, nothing more than that (we didnt spend the night) So now I'm here, the morning after, with her phone number. What I remember of her, I like, and I want to call her. Do you think it's a bad idea? Can a relationship happen after something like that?

08-31-2003, 07:38 AM	#3 (permalink)
Averett Is In Love Location: I'm workin' on it	Jesus Chris, CALL HER MAN! I apparently had that same situation last weekend. Though I wasnt drunk, and neither was he. Anyway, numbers were exchanged but funnily enough mine wasn't called! You say you like her and want to call her. So where exactly is the bad idea? Why couldn't something happen??? Give her a call... Today! Tell her you had a good time, and that youd like to have a chance to get to know her better, under non drunken circumstances. Please please call her.. she's probably hoping that you do. Good luck __________________ Absence is to love what wind is to fire. It extinguishes the small, it enkindles the great.

08-31-2003, 09:45 AM	#4 (permalink)
Prince /nɑndəsˈkrɪpt/ Location: LV-426	Stop wasting time and call her. CALL HER. __________________ Who is John Galt?

08-31-2003, 09:50 AM	#5 (permalink)
lurkette My future is coming on Moderator Emeritus Location: east of the sun and west of the moon	I see no reason why not. You might want to acknowledge that you both might be a little sheepish and uncomfortable because you were drunk at the time, but hell, if you hit it off why waste an opportunity? See if you like each other as well when you're sober. __________________ "If ten million people believe a foolish thing, it is still a foolish thing." - Anatole France

08-31-2003, 10:05 AM	#6 (permalink)
RoadRage Stay off the sidewalk! Location: Oklahoma City, OK	You already have a big foot in the door. You'd be foolish to not at least explore. Quit reading this and call her already. __________________ Join TFP Team SETI 43K workunits complete, 34 members, more of each needed.

08-31-2003, 07:37 AM	#2 (permalink)
ratbastid Darth Papa Location: Yonder	Absolutely. But you'll probably have to start knowing that she'll be as uncomfortable about it as you are. You probably can't just barge into asking her for a date.

08-31-2003, 11:55 AM	#10 (permalink)
rogue49 Loser	ANYTHING is possible. I have NEVER been able to predict how two people will do together. All you can do is try.

09-01-2003, 06:39 PM	#11 (permalink)
Aaron0000 Crazy Location: CA	Good move, by only making out with her. Sometimes if you go too far the first night you meet a girl, she may feel slutty and think that now whenever you call her you just want to hook up. But, I think this is the best way a relationship can start, because this way you both know you are attracted to one another and are comfortable enough with eachother to already have hooked up. Of course, you better hope she wasnt tooo tooo drunk, or she may not remember you, or may not like you when shes NOT drunk. Either way, give her a call. Good Luck

09-01-2003, 07:12 PM	#12 (permalink)
Captain Canada Addict Location: University of North Carolina at Greensboro	Well... I met a previous girlfriend that way. Needless to say, it didnt work out very well. She ended up telling me that I need to not get with people you hook up with, and that she was pretty much cheating on me the whole time.....so I dont really talk to her anymore. But Im sure they can work out sometimes.

09-01-2003, 07:48 PM	#13 (permalink)
Plan9Senior Banned Location: Orange County, California	WARNING!!!! FOR THE LOVE OF GOD DISREGARD THE ADVICE OF PEOPLE SAYING TO CALL TODAY!!!! Please don't call the next day. Call her Wednesday and ask her to hang out Friday. Despite what anybody tells you, some games are necessary in keeping her interested and to make sure she doesn't think you are some pushover or a desperate guy. Trust me on this one

09-01-2003, 09:02 PM	#14 (permalink)
Amano Insane	well i called, and a message and a returned call afterwards, I have a date for next weekend! Thanks guys for pushing me to call plan9, that was my gut feeling, but Averett's post convinced me to go against that... oh well... what's done is done

09-01-2003, 10:04 PM	#16 (permalink)
wry1 Loser Location: Far too far from my Angel....	Averett is right. Call her, man!!!! I had a similar run-in about two weeks ago, and called her the very next day....hey, I promised her I would, and drunk or no: if I remember the promise, I make good on the promise. If memory serves me right (and it does) I wound up going over to her place the next night for a relaxing evening of watching DVDs. Nothing too heavy, but we'll see where things go (you might already know this if you follow my journal entries - start with #36). Either way, good luck to you!

09-01-2003, 11:04 PM	#17 (permalink)
punx1325 Junkie Location: San Diego	Call her! If you hit it off, its worth a shot.... __________________ If something seems too good to be true, then it probably is....

09-02-2003, 05:28 AM	#20 (permalink)
bundy . Location: Tokyo	woohoo!! go drunken hook-ups!! good luck amano, and i´m pleased you called her... i know lots of guys who chicken out of following up drunken adventures. __________________ Ohayo!!!

09-02-2003, 09:54 PM	#21 (permalink)
noahfor Addict	i did this, and now i have a really strong relationship, i mean it took a while after the druken hook up to go out but whatever

09-04-2003, 05:36 AM	#22 (permalink)
Sleepyjack Fast'n'Bulbous Location: Australia, Perth	i second the praises for drunken hookups Amano is the personification of this