getting some strange
 

ok, here is the deal: I've been married for close to three years now. before that we were together for about three years. so, it going on 6 years with the same woman. now, I love her very much. I'd never want to hurt her. But damn, have I been getting a serious craving lately for some strange. every decent looking woman I see or meet gets me worked up like an 18 year old on spring break in Daytona. starting to get on my damned nerves.

how do you guys handle it?

go home and think about them while you beat off??

or go home to your wife full of this hornyness and have some fun with her... someone here said something like " doesnt matter where you get your hunger as long as you eat at home..."

i dunno...

I would tend to agree. You know, I've been with the same woman for two and a half years, which has certainly been interesting. What's really terrific is that she's so open. We both started feeling rather bored about a year in, but rather than mess around or bring a third person into it (which we'll do eventually, we just haven't found the right third yet), we've started watching some of the really interesting porn. It occured to us that sameness can get boring after a while, so we started changing things here and there. Once in a while I'd come home and she'd be wearing her hair different, be wearing a different perfume and new clothes. I'd do the same, and we felt like we were doing it with completely different people, yet we were still being faithful to each-other! When all else fails, try a completely new position and close your eyes. Your partner can be anyone you want them to be in the dark, if necessary. Just so this doesn't become too regular of a habit.

It can also help to park in an old spot on a hill where you maybe got your first kicks as a teenage and play around in the car. Once in a great while we'll do this and we feel just like kids again. It can certainly help put some of the mystery and fun into it, especially if you're both into the charade and pretend to be first-timers (really great if she acts shy).

Just play around and try not to get bored. Newness is almost as important to sex as the equipment!

My girl recently dyed her hair (Saturday) to a darker color. It went from light brown with highlights to dark dark brown. When I was doing her from behind, it felt like I was doing a totally different person because of her hair.
It sounds like you just need to spice up your sex life some. Play dress up, wigs, so forth and so on.
Just DO NOT CHEAT!!!

Want to end the relationship fast? - cheat. Too many wierdos out there and you'll always get f**ked (one way or the other)

Is the sexlife getting dull? dyou do (mostly) vanilla sex?

I agree. If you can develop a, ehm, style, of sex that's very personal, you get to a place that you can share something with your SO that no one else could give you.
Think kinky!

For me, bondage and domination are two things that turn me on to no end. And because it's not something you might do with someone you just picked up in a bar, other girls become somewhat less interesting.
Ofcourse that may not be your cup of tea, but there's sooooo many kinks to experiment with :D

Just beat it...... beat it.
It works for me and I have been in long term relationships.

zfleebin: the problem with that, however, is that I have been beating it all my life, therefore, that too has become tiresome. hence the nearly overwhelming desire for some strange.

maybe I'll try buying the wife a blonde wig.

Don't do it. Once a cheater, always a cheater. If you tell your next wife why you broke up, you are a labeled man. Look at the menu all you want, just don't sample...

two reasons not to cheat? #1 - that Glenn Close movie, and #2 - guilt

All you have to do is remember what you have waiting at home for ya... easy as that. Why break something that works?

I would suggest trying to spice up your sex life before looking for outside help.

Once you go down this road, you can't go back.

Also, trust is hard to come by and easy to lose.

What you have at home is real. What you see on the street is fantasy. Bring the fantasies home with you and enjoy them with the "real thing."

Also, talk with your wife. She may be wanting new too! Be creative together. This could open a whole new chapter in your relationship. Have fun!

i beat it like twice a day, i cant go out with a loaded gun.

even though my man is a different person from what he was 5 years ago... the thought will never go away. it sucks ass.


and i'm sorry to hear that you feel that way already 6 years into the relationship, but do talk to her and let her know whats up (or not up---):)

i went for the strange, and got away with it. i don't feel guilty. but i'm glad it's over, and it didn't help at all.

convince her to bring a friend over man. it may take days, weeks, months of gradually turning your joke into a reality, but do not fret: perservere. take her to strip clubs, do what you must but make the dream a reality. that is all.

If I were you, I'd forget about looking around for a reason to cheat, and instead, start obssessing over the question "Shit - what if she's thinking the same thing?"

<i>Everybody's</i> grass seems greener at times - even through her eyes.

If it's getting boring for you, it's probably getting boring for her, too.

You're a team - work through it together so you both end up the better for it.

I'd just like to point out that she might let you put her in a wig and a different outfit, but don't ask her to wear a name tag with some other chick's name on it. Girls get really touchy about that.

As for wankin it, put a rubber band around your wrist until it goes to sleep. then whack off. Its like getting a hand job from a stranger.

OK, seriously, I feel your pain. I've been with the same woman for eleven years or so. During those years, I've fucked about a million different women...IN MY HEAD.

Never strayed. Beat off a lot, but never strayed.

Do this. - Think about one of those girls you want to fuck. Think about her all day. Think about how great it would be. At the end of the day, think of her and beat off. Do it good. Do it long. Try to convince yourself that you are fucking her.

Then once its over, and your brain has moved out of your dick, think about how shitty you'd feel if you really HAD just fucked her. Remember that feeling.

Next time you are having a nice, quiet moment with the woman who loves you, reflect on that shitty feeling. Think how aweful it would feel inside if you really HAD cheated. Now take it one step futher. In your head, think how this nice quiet moment with your wife would be if she KNEW you cheated. The comfortable silence would not exist. The silence would be full of unspoken spite and guilt. You would never really know when your wife was just quiet, or when she was quietly hating you.