Ladies, Tell us. does size matter?
 

I've noticed that guys have all kinds of different equipment and I certainly have my own favorite type. eg. length, girth etc. I find that long and fairly slim makes a variety of activities a lot easier. What have y'all to say about this?

Yes.

size and definitely girth matters. girth more than size. "are you bigger than my wrists? then fuck me!" :D j/k... or am i?

Yes. Size matters. Too large is a deal-breaker for this girl.

Girth is definitely just as important for me as length. But I cannot honeslty answer this question since I have only ever been with im2smrt4u.

But I can say his works just fine for me! :thumbsup:

+1.

+1 for me too (more so with length than girth)

Look, if to guys, our body size/breast size/lip size matters to any certain degree (whether they like 'em small or large), then of course dick size matters. None of us want to fuck a telephone pole, nor do we want to fuck a hypodermic needle.

Luckily, I'm thinking 99.9% of men out there have a penis somewhere in between those extremes. And what they may NOT have in penis, they can make up for with cunning linguistics and manual dexterity, yeah?

Bigger is not always better.

Size does matter....not as much as most men seem to believe, but yes, size matters. It's not a deal-breaker for me except in cases of extremes. (i.e., if I can't get my hands around it, or if I can't find it without leaning down and squinting)

And as Dexter Morgan said, most size issues can quickly be overcome by other types of bedroom prowess. I'll also add, it doesn't matter how big your package is if you don't know how to use it....

hmm am i weird because i like above average... ??

I'm bigger than your wrist :p

you're not weird, your body can obviously handle it better than some of us. I can handle "above average" since if I remember right "average" is about 5.5 to 6 inches when erect, I just cant handle more than about 8 without out pain I really dont want to deal with. I'm very happy with with 7.5 in length I get on a regular basis lol

Pretty much.

My guy is on the above average side of things in length and girth, and there are certain positions we just can't do because he'll go too deep and it will hurt too much.

Definitely, size is important. My ex was too big for me and I got to the stage when I dreaded sex - I knew it would hurt so much. Short and wide is far better than long and thin.

What happened to the sticky for/about about penis size, & also shaving? Does it disappear after you reach a certain post count, or was it removed? It included some very interesting reading.

I'll throw in my .02 from my perspective as a decidedly "average" guy. My wife admits to being curious to try a large cock, in fact her favorite erotica for masturbation involves a woman using the woman on top position to experience a 10" dick for the first time.

I/We put a lot of effort into foreplay, just about everything that you can think of: Kissing, touching, stroking, sucking, nibbling, biting, fingering, cunnilingus, whispering, talking dirty, silence, spanking, pinching, etc. The type of foreplay is tailored to what we have planned, or where the mood takes us. It's not unusual for us to spend more time on foreplay than actual intercourse, & my wife usually orgasms at least a couple of times before we have intercouse. My theory is by the time we get to intercourse I want her as horny & as wet as possible. I make my wife's orgasms paramount, rarely do I want our lovemaking to be just about me.

We use positions that allow maximum penetration, her on top with a pillow under my ass, doggy, her on her back with a pillow under her ass, her on the desk, etc. There are positions that don't work because my dick doesn't reach, or maintaining penetration is nearly impossible.

In brief, my wife & I work together to make the best use of what I have to offer.

Mrs. Normalguy is a lucky woman!

The problem for me isn't size, it's that being around 50th percentile in penis length but 99.9999th percentile in height makes it look small. I'm thick enough that a Magnum will stay put but not thick enough that it's a necessity, and not enough that it look out of proportion to length.


And where did the penis size thread go? If this thread gets stupid I have no recourse other than to lock it :(

Speaking from experience it helps a great deal to get rid of the beer belly. Not only does it fix the optical illusion thing, but it actually can increase length.

On the contrary, I'm lucky to be married to Mrs. Normalguy.

Something puzzles me about toys & penis size. Even after a hard, deep pounding with a large toy that causes several intense orgasms, my wife is still happy to have my dick inside of her, & her orgasms don't wane. I know that the clitoris & the first few inches of the vagina are where the stimulation occurs, but I'm not clear on how she could be happy with my penis after experiencing satisfaction with a large toy. My wife says that no toy takes the place of the real thing, & there's more to it than what's inside her pussy.

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Alternative thread title: Different strokes for different folks.

Alternative thread title: Concealed carry, the dangle version.

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I figure just as long as you don't get inadequacy-related complaints... you're straight.

Story time:

We had this one guy in the barracks at Bragg that one of the local "party girls" referred to as "three thumbs." Too funny. She described her experience with CPL Stubby to one of my buddies with refreshing candor... much like an advertisement for some kind of over-the-counter pharmaceutical, "Well, I have to admit: it just left me unsatisfied."
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Yeah, I've always wondered the same thing. After the Mac truck has crammed through the tunnel... how does the Ford Mustang even get noticed?

Somehow it works.

I, from what I've been told in the past, am "big." I honestly never thought much about it, figuring it was my GF's just playing to my ego.

Recently, I ran into a friend of a girl I dated for a couple weeks. In short we went on 3 dates, hooked up, and she kind of dropped me after. I always figured I had offended her, or she went back with her ex, or something of the sort. This friend told me it was because I was too big, and I hurt her doggy style.

Honestly. I'm not sure if I should be proud or sad.

If so then count me too!

I've always dated above average size guys, except one, and I have to say that I was kind of unsatisfied with the guy that was of average size. I think that may have been because I was used to the giant I had been seeing before him though. I think because I am used to bigger men, I tend to be most satisfied with the same but I don't rule anything out. Ultimately it's never been a deal breaker for me.

It says something about me that this is more of a motivation to lose weight than my health. If I jam the ruler against my pubic bone, I'm above average.

Me too, I just use the metric system! Sounds waaaay better in centimeters!

You have your priorities in order, from a Darwinian perspective.

A friend of ours had the opposite experience. She described her ex-husband as having a "damned horse dick," & they had problems because she could only take so much, but he liked to go all out.

Of the size problems I think being big could easily be worse than being small. I've heard more valid complaints from men about being too big.

I prefer slightly above average as well.

However my husband is average and I knew that before we were married :)

Willravel madlibs: the craze that's sweeping the nation!

The Crompmonster has it. Satisfying your woman has nothing to do with penis size. You don't need a twelve inch dick, and having one does not automatically make you a stud.

My oft-advertised policy: Keep 'em coming so you can keep 'em coming.

I can understand that having to refrain from 'giving it everything that you have' could be frustrating; burying it to the hilt feels great, and not being able to do so could be problematic. I would also think that being too big would be a real problem for anal intercourse.

I'll be honest...even though I've lived with my cock for 48 years, and my wife & I have been mongamous for 25 years with no real problems, I wouldn't mind being able to give my wife a couple of more inches. It's just a thought, certainly not an obsession with either of us.

This has mentioned before, probably ad naseum, but I think that the proliferation of porn causes unrealistic expectations in people whose only exposure to sex is porn. In pro porn, and even in amateur porn (when you can actually find true amateur porn), the guys are almost always well endowed, & the women are able to handle them, even anally, with no problems. If I were teaching a sex education course I would emphasize that porn sex is not reality sex, the men in porn are hired for their cock size, and the women are hired their ability to take a huge dick. Rant over.

Martian... I swear you're my brother from another mother.

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That age old human problem of craving variety in our lives. Monogamy goes against our inner animal, the animal that craves change and difference and excitement. As animals, we want regularity in our bowel movements, not our sex lives... so we change the things we can in relationships to keep ourselves from getting bored with the same old in-'n-out slosh-'n-squirt mechanical act.

Oh, the things we do! Different frilly body wrappings (lingerie), gnarly poke positions (crouching honeypot, snapping lotus), dirty talk ("Oh, fuck me, Senator McCain!"), bondage, peeing on a handcuffed donkey, etc.

We'd change more things like wang size, etc. if it was an option. We're curious, bored, and very vain.

I'd bet my stripes that 99% of the men on this planet would be okay if they woke up sporting another inch on their reproductive gut-stabber.

And that other 1%? Centaurs.

Crompsie, I swear to you you'd make a great poet...if you consider some of the modes of writing that takes place these days, at least in Canada. The libidinal writing is what I'm referring to.

I'm serious.

I have nothing else to add.

Well, except that I'm of the opinion that women who say size matters probably wouldn't complain otherwise if the man knew what he was doing.

I dunno; I could be wrong. It's hard to say because no one's ever complained about me.

although she has an orgasm with a toy, that toy doesnt have the soft skin and voice of the person she loves. also one of the most pleasnt things for women is listening to their parners heartbeat. you might not notice but she prob trys really hard to get her head on your chest... boy over toy all the time.
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um im about 7.5-8 long and fairly thick bu thats not what i wana talk about... i was wondering if you guys could help me... my balls/ shaft tend to be a bit clamy and kinda smells... it has not always been this way... infact this is a kinda new thing and i have no idea what caused it... any ideas? iv tryed washing it with many shampoos and i try baby powder but nothing seems to help...

Not weird at all. I don't think there is such a thing as "too big."

My ideal size would be from 7.5 - 9 inches. Which is great, because my guy fits in that category.

I've never turned down a guy because we started going at it and he was too small though.

This thread remind me why I love you guys. Thanks for the laughs
Ban original scent roll-on between the sack and legs does it for me. Even every few days prevents ball funk. You also should try trimming or shaving down there. Check the shaving thread in Tilted Life and find my link for a free Schick Quattro trimmer (I haven't figured out how to select or copy and paste when posting from my iPod yet.)

THREADJACK'D

Whoa... wait a sec. So you're suggesting I join the ranks of the emotionally disturbed, vulgarity-spewing human equivalent of a toilet brush: crude and abused implements for scrubbing the exterior layer of grunge in order to examine the pure, cold, white porcelain soul... of Canada.

Hell, I'm on it.

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When you say "modes of writing" I read it as "mediocre literary vomit." And I understand.

What was it that old Native American saying? Oh, yeah...

"The [garbage] doesn't belong to us, we belong to the [garbage]."

He said poet, not emo kid :p

having a big dick is kinda overrated. Mine is above average, but it didn't help me get laid in college

Age division?

I noticed something interesting at a former job. One of the guys (in his early 30s) in the office frequently dropped comments about his endowment, for example, "When I was playing football I didn't mind wearing a jock strap, but I had a hard finding one that fit, ha, ha, ha." The girls (I use girls intentionally) were ga-ga over this guy, while the older (I don't mean old) ladies would give him 'Why-don't-you-grow-up?' looks.

To make matters worse, he'd go into greater detail when it was just us guys.

I always thought it was strange, perhaps even sad, that a guy his age would feel the need to brag about his dick.

+1 Very true. I "added" at least 3/4" when I dropped 35 lbs.

I dunno if size does matter to me in complete honesty.

I have been with guys on the larger side that have left me numb and those less then average that have had me coming like a freight train.

I think to me it is more about personality and the connection between myself and the other individual in question then size as to where I base my pleasure during sex.

Thank you for a great analogy, & giving a lot guys a confidence boost :icare:.

BTW your avatar is great!

So then what is too small? I know I'm below average in length and average in girth and my wife doesn't complain. But I'm just wondering when is below average too small?

The SO added the analogy "Going off like a car alarm" today - apparently it's from some comedian

I dunno Jim - I doubt anyone can really say that as it would depend on the size and preferences of the woman / man you were with at the time.

hehe one of my faves is "going off like a frog in a sock" :)

I have no idea, but if the percentages in that poll (nice find, RetroGunslinger!) are trully accurate, I would be in trouble in the 'open market.'

I go with the thought that my wife loves me, enjoys making love with me, & isn't doing any comparrison shopping.

A factor that goes often unnoticed and unspoken is not the dick size but its shape...My friend and I both had sex with the same woman and even though my dick is almost an inch longer than he is and we lasted about same amount of time (According to her) she said she enjoyed him more because of the shape of his head...she said it was simply more pleasing in her vagina. So while size may very well be a factor it isnt the one and only factor...A lot of its up to the woman as well im sure every woman has a different dick shape and size that pleases her the most...

Anyway just thought I would bring up the topic of shape alongside size...I'm interested to hear some other peoples opinions on this.

I have a fairly pronounced corona (I think that's the correct name), & my wife likes how it "pops" in and out. She sometimes uses her teeth during oral foreplay to further enlarge it.

According to this website (Is your penis too small? :: Get Penis Perfection :: Mens Health), the average penis length is 5.03 inches. I was surprised! But all in all it probably has more to do with other things besides size, like almost everyone else has said. Even if you prefer large breasts, a girl with 38 DD can still be a bad bang.

A small PENIS should come with a WARNING label! - Love + Sex on Shine

This article is a little harsh, but probably accurate for many people.

I don't worry about my size because I have nothing to worry about. It's big enough, but not too big that it wouldn't go in all the way.

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The girl's attitude was somewhat harsh, but it could be that she really does need a cock of at least a certain size in order to enjoy sex. What I really enjoyed reading were the responses that others posted, most folks gave her hell.

from the looks of this thread, either 90% of men consider themselves to be above average (or at least they (falsely?) advertise it as so), or there's a lot of big-dick men here on TFP

Studies have shown that TFP does have a disproportionate amount of "hot girls" and "guys with huge dicks."

Or maybe that's hot guys and girls with huge dicks.

Er, something.

Yeah cromps, let's make TFP for the elite, pegeon hole folk, only the chicks hung like horses or guys who have tentacles or breasts can join!!

size mattering depends completely on the couple i think. I totally would not be able to relax if i guy was so big i was worried about getting hurt

Yes, only because I wouldn't want it to be so small it is always coming out. I don't need a big one to be satisfied.

Having the right shape is nice too. I find that some fit better than others and hit just the right spots.

I believe I'm average in the length department but above average in the girth department. I've never had any complaints but in my teens and early 20's I was always worried I was not long enough! It took me quite a few years to realise it really doesn't matter all that much.

I think size does matter to some degree. If it's too small in either size or girth or if the guy is overweight, it comes out often during sex. Plus you want to "know" it's in there. If you can't feel it then what good is it, but at the same time, if the guy makes up for it in other ways, then it's not a problem. Did I just disagree with myself????

hey, i don't take a tape measure with but sure if its normal intercourse yeah a larger one is better for me but for anal which i quite often prefer a small penis is probaly better as it dosent rip me if i'm not aroused enough, so really i'm not too fussy

speak the truth sister i couldnt have said it better myself

I think it all depends on how you use it. Every guy I've been with has been around the same size. Sometimes it slips out and the whole thing just becomes annoying. It's more about length than width in my opinion. I know a lot of people say women can only feel the first three inches, I'm not exactly sure if that's true. But it's the thought of how much is in me that gets me off.

Nice.

That's how real sex goes sometimes. A simple solution: Take a second, get resituated, and continue.

It probably does matter. Curiously though, the best, sexiest and most inventive lover I've had, had a much smaller-than-average penis. And he had the proportional problem as well, in that he was a tall and heavily built man. I've heard other women say that men with smaller dicks tend to be kinkier - and I'm told small penises are more sensitive. Big dicks have visual impact, but a man is more than a penis, thank God.

:lol: This is such a lie..................... girl, men ARE their penises. It's what defines them. We just hide behind our "sensitivity" ... and ... "smartness" ... and ... "thoughtfulness" but really, we are all made and designed around our penises, not any other way!!!

I'm a cynical bastard and I wouldn't go that far.

Quite honestly, preferred size depends on what I am doing with it at the time. But I generally like the one I married.

Speak for yourself!

was this post supposed to be somekind of insult or somehting

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wow at the comments here so if you ladies are with a guy that isn't big, above average..whatever you are not going to accept him for who he is because he isn't "perfect"?

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but would you be in a relationship with a guy that isn't your ideal size

Actually I don't think it was meant to be insulting it was meant as a direct response to the number of women who earlier on in this exact same thread said they preferred smaller penii

As to whether I would date a guy that wasn't my preferred size - well I would probably never date a partularly large guy in the penis department to be honest - I enjoy sex and the idea that sex for the rest of our relationship would either be painful for me or frustrating for him because he would never be able to enter me fully and pound away the way I like .

I really don't think that you read much of this thread as every woman on here has said that yes she has a preferred size type but that she would never hold it against the man in question if he didn't fit that. That would be the same as me asking you if you would hold it against a woman because her breasts were smaller or larger then what you preferred.

I don't think there's anything wrong with ending a relationship because the two of you are sexually incompatible and sometimes penhis size can make two people incompatible

Sorry if that sounds harsh but it's just one of those things that happens in life.

Blar, I don't mean to be an ass, but it sounds as though you used "selective reading" when you read this thread.

Very few of the women who have responded said that a guy must have an above-average size penis in order for them to enjoy sex.

Most of the women have indicated that good technique & skill, and/or an emotional connection of some kind, are more important than penis size.

I just felt the question was odd as if the person expected everyone to have to like the same thing as her

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yes i know and my question was address to those very few women

sorry I asked screwed up in the way I asked the question

As I was reading along in this thread to see what I may want to add to this conversation it hit me. None of the other lady's in this thread mentioned anything about how it works together. I know the question was does size matter but the size and build of the girl equates into how the size of the penis works with her vagina.

Taking myself for example since that's all I can do, I've experienced having a guy that is average length but was way to girthy for me, it just hurt the whole time, so not fun. I've had extremes.

At the end of the day it's all about how you fit together, the size and shapes of both the penis and vagina, because after all it is the shape of the vagina that lets you know if you like the shape and size of the penis.

Well said ... :thumbsup:

Dang!!!

As someone who is constantly hitting the wife's cervix, and seeing the pain it causes, I know that length is overrated. Especially as the average vagina is only about 6-7 inches deep.

That's not really a valid comparison. Breasts are sexual, but they're not directly involved in intercourse, so size is more of a visual thing than a stimulation to orgasm thing for a woman's partner unless he's titfucking her. And you can still titfuck A cups

I concur. The old "apples to [sausages]" comparison. Breasts are oversexualized liquid food dispensers, visually pleasing but completely unnecessary. They're great and all, but let's be serious: it's like saying guys with big biceps are better in bed and that isn't the case. Hah, just look at me.

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I do, however, disagree with your A-cup finding, MSD. I have extensive personal knowledge acquired from scientific tests regarding this.

I more meant MSD that very few men will break up with a woman because her breasts are too large or too small - the same way that very few women would break up with a man because of the same issues in regards to his penis.

It's one of those things you can't change (well not without surgery) about yourself or your partner so why stress out over it.

people stress over it because others make a big deal out of it for exmaple just read the posts here about it

for example no ones care about the size of their tongue because you will not see someone say it's length and girth are important and if it's thinker then a wrist call me etc etc

people worry because others worry

As a proud owner of A-cups it's not possible in my experience that you can titfuck them. But cumming on them is possible, no fucking.

Regarding breast size, I always maintained that much more than a handful is a waste, but I mean a handful each.

The only way to solve this is a proper scientific study. We'll have to control and record variables carefully because if we double-blind it, someone's going to misjudge their position and someone else is going to end up with a dick up their nose.

Size does matter for me. The penis needs to fit in the vagina for it to work. It can't be too big or too small for the vagina. Some girls have short canals.. and those girls should go with guys who have shorter penises. Some girls have longer canals and should go with guys who have longer penises. Most women are average in length (in their vaginal canals) as most men are (penis length), so it usually isn't such a huge deal.

And no one wants something in the eye. That's so not a nice thing.

Well, to resurrect an old topic.

I've had big ones that equaled mediocre sex and average ones that were great. I prefer girth over length, but a little bit of extra on both is preferred. That said, I had a friend with 9" + girth. The cock itself was fun. But the man left a lot to be desired as a lover. He was also older and needed a lot of stimulation to get anywhere. Too much work. I've also had some guys who managed to pound me and hurt, even with smaller sizes. I think some of them are proud of that ability. :-/

I had one that was 5.5" or so. He was much younger than me and very insecure about his size. I reassured him that he was actually average and that, in fact, he was one of the better lovers I've ever had...including older and presumably more experienced guys. This one was a true giver. He loved getting me off and that made it a lot of fun. And something about the way he worked the angles made full use of what he had. He was grateful for the positive feedback.

My personal ideal is about 8" and fairly large girth. Too much longer and giving BJs is impaired. But the best cock is the one that is there and ready to go when you want it. ;-)

Now Im no kid but as I am new here it will take me a while to be able to handle females talking like this. It is very distracting. That aside I appreciate the insighthttp://www.hostimagehere.info/imgs/P/R.gif alt="."

That is exactly the reason why this board is the best. It's not just the women, but everyone.


oh yeah...please donate. mine's on its way...

well at least you seem to appreciate guys of a large variety or sizes or is it just average 5-6" and up I dunno

but I still can't believe guys talk their partners about their size.....I don't see the point it's not like a girl is goign to say "you are not my preferred size" just like how a guy isn't going to say something bad about his partners body

Thing is .... when you're not compatible in the bedroom section, it makes sex a chore!!! I would just rather have her be able to take me completely instead of using a whole bottle of lube for one session!

I've been watching, and I really need to know, why are you going after the women here for being honest? I mean, what's the point of having people answer an honest question if the only point is to answer a certain way or be attacked?

Would you prefer that they lie to you? Would that make you feel better? Seriously, if it's going to offend you when people give their honest opinion on something like this, then maybe you shouldn't read this kind of thread.

It matters to me. I've been very happy with my guy's for 4+ years. :D

lol I am attacking any women for being honest...infact I didn't even attack anyone if it seems so that isn't my intent. I sure I replied to some posts but that's what m,essgae boards are for

Well, smallest I ever had was about 5". I have been largely spoiled in this regard.

Most of the guys I've been with have not talked to me about their size...unless they were bragging or after the fact in discussions described above. I've talked with my partners openly about a lot of things. I'm not sure why this surprises you.

In the case of the guy above, we were friends who had been intimate. He expressed some insecurity and I told him the truth. He was great.

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