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little_tippler · 08-17-2008, 04:01 AM

I read an article recently that spoke of a study that affirmed, once again, that when you're drunk, people seem more attractive to you.

Fair enough. Inhibitions go down, you're more receptive, and...people look hotter?

It's a funny idea. I'm not sure how they think they proved this exactly. All they did was have two groups, one drunk one not, and then have the people look at photos of others and say how attractive the photographed people were to them. The dunk group found people a lot hotter than the sober people. Not sure this is actual proof.

But somehow it sounds right, to a degree. I know I feel more open to getting it on, or more...raunchy, when I'm a little tipsy, depending on the moment.

But finding people more...attractive? I'd have to test this to say.

On the flip side, how do you feel when you see someone who is drunk, but you are not? Suddenly, that drunk person seems less "attractive" to me. Mainly when they have no control over themselves and do stupid things.

I have been drunk plenty...but I am pretty much in control the entire time. I can't explain it, but I have a strong sense of myself, even when I'm drunk. Also, when I am around drunk people, I can have as much fun as when I'm not drunk. Usually people are surprised when I say I didn't have any drinks.

I think a big part of getting drunk is that it somehow allows people to let their guard down, even if they're not really that drunk. That's why I don't like it when people get stupid - I assume they are just being stupid naturally, as opposed to being stupid because of being drunk. I hate people who use it as an excuse to be stupid.

Ever watched the movie "50 First Dates"? In it, Adam Sandler's character takes girls out and buys them drinks which in reality are not alcoholic (but the girls think they are). At one point he confesses this to a girl he's out with and says he does it so girls will let their inhibitions fall away but still have the energy to have vigorous, guilt-free sex with him...

Drunk can be fun, but if you let yourself get stupid just to be "the life of the party", the joke is clearly on you.

It's interesting how by being drunk, we might find someone else more attractive, but they in turn, if not drunk, may find you less attractive because you're drunk. I don't hold being drunk against anyone...being drunk is fun. It's the attitude that matters overall I think. I'm not sure why I think this is worth discussing...even though my username is little_tippler, I don't actually tipple much!

Maybe you can psycho-analise me!

Charlatan · 08-17-2008, 04:31 AM

For me, getting drunk can get me horny. Once I am horny and drunk, there is a better chance that my standards will drop. It's all about getting laid. It's not something I am especially proud of but what's a guy to do? I was out the other night and found myself getting into this mode but found myself more bemused by it all than anything else.

Halx · 08-17-2008, 04:57 AM

I start with the fact that I'm a complete horndog. Then I consider my "barrier" that is called self-awareness. This barrier is what prevents me, when sober, from acting on my horndog tendencies. This means that I have higher standards, I am unwilling to compromise myself, and I protect myself from looking stupid. The more I drink, the thinner this barrier becomes. Thus, I am more likely to seek to fulfill my horndog tendencies with more people than just the ones who appear completely receptive to them. That's about as simple as it gets for me.

lotsofmagnets · 08-17-2008, 06:17 AM

an interesting topic but i´m not sure what the question is.

little_tippler · 08-17-2008, 11:36 AM

hmm...okay, I know I ramble!

Well it's not only one question exactly. Threads are not "a question" per se. They are discussion topics. I don't want anyone to answer one specific question. I want to know what they think on the topic presented, if they are interested in participating.

The topic here I suppose can be - what do you see when you're drunk, or what happens to you when you are; and what do you see when you see others drunk? How do you feel about drunkeness or drunk people? Do you think some people act stupid when they're drunk because they can? Do you think it makes sense to assume that because people seem more shaggable to you when you're drunk, that automatically makes them "more attractive"?

There are several other questions you could pick out of there, just make the topic your own. Hope that helped?

thespian86 · 08-17-2008, 11:51 AM

I don't think it makes people seem more attractive, so much as I am a little more honest about my needs and wants

Instead of saying "meh, that could turn out bad" my id comes out a bit more. If I want it, I go for it. That kind of thing.

jewels · 08-17-2008, 11:54 AM

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Originally Posted by little_tippler

But somehow it sounds right, to a degree. I know I feel more open to getting it on, or more...raunchy, when I'm a little tipsy, depending on the moment.

But finding people more...attractive? I'd have to test this to say.

(Way) back in my drinking days, I was far less discriminating than I am now and found many men attractive enough to take home with me. Admittedly, my drunkenness made it okay for me to do this. I had an excuse if I needed one.

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Originally Posted by little_tippler

I think a big part of getting drunk is that it somehow allows people to let their guard down, even if they're not really that drunk. That's why I don't like it when people get stupid - I assume they are just being stupid naturally, as opposed to being stupid because of being drunk. I hate people who use it as an excuse to be stupid.

Ditto. Probably why I no longer drink to get drunk. Well ... maybe once in a while.

I guess now that I'm older, I prefer to be in control.

Cynthetiq · 08-18-2008, 07:48 AM

My drinking days lead to my celebate days. I never let my guard down in fact that was part of the game for me: to see how much I could drink and still be in control.

attractive, sure, but I was too self aware to act on any impulses.

speshul-k · 08-18-2008, 09:04 AM

My standards seem to go up the more I get drunk... how does that one work?!

MSD · 08-18-2008, 09:33 AM

The only really significant effect on my personality when I'm drunk is that I don't think before I say something. I still feel as self-conscious and inhibited. I really don't think we'll do anything drunk that we don't want to sober, it just gives us an excuse.

inBOIL · 08-20-2008, 11:52 PM

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Originally Posted by little_tippler

Maybe you can psycho-analise me!

This typo amuses me greatly.

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I have been drunk plenty...but I am pretty much in control the entire time.

Are you sure you're in control, or do you just have the illusion of being in control? Many people have gotten drunk and then been certain that they could drive ok, or kick someone's ass... your self-perception is just as suceptible to alcohol's effects as any of your other faculties.

As far as my experiences, I find that alcohol increases the effort required to control myself. It has never made anyone seem more attractive to me, although I have never been crazy drunk; maybe this would change things.

little_tippler · 08-22-2008, 01:49 AM

I'm glad you like my typo

Well, about the control bit...all I can say is, ask my friends. I never drink and drive. I have never got into a fight after drinking. In fact I have never had a bad night of drinking, or thrown up because of it, or had memory loss. Even when I've had several drinks, at the end of the night I am the friend looking out for everyone and making sure everyone gets home alright.

@ speshul-k:

yeah, that is strange! Your standards go up how, exactly? Interesting!

Esoteric · 08-22-2008, 05:29 AM

When I get drunk I get horny, but I don't go and try to fuck any woman in sight. I don't drink much hard liquor anymore though. I had a rough spot in my life about a year ago and 151 + Coke was my coping mechanism for awhile. I'd binge drink nearly every night, heh.

Cernunnos · 08-22-2008, 02:04 PM

The only alcohol that I will ever consume is a single glass of wine or a few beers. I try to ensure that I am never more than buzzed, particularly around other people, whether they're friends and family or complete strangers. I've found that I won't think as clearly or speak as eloquently, and it's unpleasant to know that alcohol is the cause of it.

With that being said, I have been tipsy before, but I failed to notice any lowering of the inhibitions or a greater attractiveness of those around me. I believe that I mask (and perhaps compensate for) the alcohol's effects by purposely acting more reserved than I naturally am.

World's King · 08-22-2008, 05:05 PM

Okay... Tippler... Can I buy you a drink?

MSD · 08-22-2008, 05:53 PM

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Originally Posted by Esoteric

When I get drunk I get horny, but I don't go and try to fuck any woman in sight.

At leas I'm not the only one who gets inverse whiskey dick. Can't get it up? Don't look for sympathy from me, I can't get it to go down!

World's King · 08-22-2008, 06:07 PM

Some times I reach this magical place like that. It just won't go away.

Two drinks later it's like trying to thread a needle with a fucking hot dog.

Ayashe · 08-24-2008, 01:32 PM

I can definitely say that when I have been drinking I am definitely more easily aroused. I disagree that anyone actually looks more attractive to me or that I would lose my inhibitions completely and make a choice uncharacteristic of myself. I am not a heavy drinker though, never have been. A drink or two and I am very well buzzed I tend to not allow myself to get truly wasted drunk.

As far as watching others while they have been drinking, sometimes it is absolutely shocking. The way people act can be really disgraceful. I have even essentially gave up on a couple of friends due to their drunkenness and inability to be respectful to others in public, causing unnecessary scenes and dramas. It is a shame, but that is the way it goes, if we could attend events or just sit down and play cards or watch movies without alcohol it would be much easier for me to remain friends with them.

08-17-2008, 04:01 AM	#1 (permalink)
little_tippler Leaning against the -Sun- Super Moderator Location: on the other side	Being drunk and seeing drunk I read an article recently that spoke of a study that affirmed, once again, that when you're drunk, people seem more attractive to you. Fair enough. Inhibitions go down, you're more receptive, and...people look hotter? It's a funny idea. I'm not sure how they think they proved this exactly. All they did was have two groups, one drunk one not, and then have the people look at photos of others and say how attractive the photographed people were to them. The dunk group found people a lot hotter than the sober people. Not sure this is actual proof. But somehow it sounds right, to a degree. I know I feel more open to getting it on, or more...raunchy, when I'm a little tipsy, depending on the moment. But finding people more...attractive? I'd have to test this to say. On the flip side, how do you feel when you see someone who is drunk, but you are not? Suddenly, that drunk person seems less "attractive" to me. Mainly when they have no control over themselves and do stupid things. I have been drunk plenty...but I am pretty much in control the entire time. I can't explain it, but I have a strong sense of myself, even when I'm drunk. Also, when I am around drunk people, I can have as much fun as when I'm not drunk. Usually people are surprised when I say I didn't have any drinks. I think a big part of getting drunk is that it somehow allows people to let their guard down, even if they're not really that drunk. That's why I don't like it when people get stupid - I assume they are just being stupid naturally, as opposed to being stupid because of being drunk. I hate people who use it as an excuse to be stupid. Ever watched the movie "50 First Dates"? In it, Adam Sandler's character takes girls out and buys them drinks which in reality are not alcoholic (but the girls think they are). At one point he confesses this to a girl he's out with and says he does it so girls will let their inhibitions fall away but still have the energy to have vigorous, guilt-free sex with him... Drunk can be fun, but if you let yourself get stupid just to be "the life of the party", the joke is clearly on you. It's interesting how by being drunk, we might find someone else more attractive, but they in turn, if not drunk, may find you less attractive because you're drunk. I don't hold being drunk against anyone...being drunk is fun. It's the attitude that matters overall I think. I'm not sure why I think this is worth discussing...even though my username is little_tippler, I don't actually tipple much! Maybe you can psycho-analise me! __________________ Whether we write or speak or do but look We are ever unapparent. What we are Cannot be transfused into word or book. Our soul from us is infinitely far. However much we give our thoughts the will To be our soul and gesture it abroad, Our hearts are incommunicable still. In what we show ourselves we are ignored. The abyss from soul to soul cannot be bridged By any skill of thought or trick of seeming. Unto our very selves we are abridged When we would utter to our thought our being. We are our dreams of ourselves, souls by gleams, And each to each other dreams of others' dreams. Fernando Pessoa, 1918

08-17-2008, 04:31 AM	#2 (permalink)
Charlatan Getting it. Super Moderator Location: Lion City	For me, getting drunk can get me horny. Once I am horny and drunk, there is a better chance that my standards will drop. It's all about getting laid. It's not something I am especially proud of but what's a guy to do? I was out the other night and found myself getting into this mode but found myself more bemused by it all than anything else. __________________ "My hands are on fire. Hands are on fire. Ain't got no more time for all you charlatans and liars." - Old Man Luedecke

08-17-2008, 04:57 AM	#3 (permalink)
Halx Please touch this. Owner/Admin Location: Manhattan	I start with the fact that I'm a complete horndog. Then I consider my "barrier" that is called self-awareness. This barrier is what prevents me, when sober, from acting on my horndog tendencies. This means that I have higher standards, I am unwilling to compromise myself, and I protect myself from looking stupid. The more I drink, the thinner this barrier becomes. Thus, I am more likely to seek to fulfill my horndog tendencies with more people than just the ones who appear completely receptive to them. That's about as simple as it gets for me. __________________ You have found this post informative. -The Administrator [Don't Feed The Animals]

08-17-2008, 06:17 AM	#4 (permalink)
lotsofmagnets Upright Location: reykjavík, iceland	an interesting topic but i´m not sure what the question is. __________________ mother nature made the aeroplane, and the submarine sandwich, with the steady hands and dead eye of a remarkable sculptor. she shed her mountain turning training wheels, for the convenience of the moving sidewalk, that delivers the magnetic monkey children through the mouth of impossible calendar clock, into the devil's manhole cauldron. physics of a bicycle, isn't it remarkable?

08-17-2008, 11:36 AM	#5 (permalink)
little_tippler Leaning against the -Sun- Super Moderator Location: on the other side	hmm...okay, I know I ramble! Well it's not only one question exactly. Threads are not "a question" per se. They are discussion topics. I don't want anyone to answer one specific question. I want to know what they think on the topic presented, if they are interested in participating. The topic here I suppose can be - what do you see when you're drunk, or what happens to you when you are; and what do you see when you see others drunk? How do you feel about drunkeness or drunk people? Do you think some people act stupid when they're drunk because they can? Do you think it makes sense to assume that because people seem more shaggable to you when you're drunk, that automatically makes them "more attractive"? There are several other questions you could pick out of there, just make the topic your own. Hope that helped? __________________ Whether we write or speak or do but look We are ever unapparent. What we are Cannot be transfused into word or book. Our soul from us is infinitely far. However much we give our thoughts the will To be our soul and gesture it abroad, Our hearts are incommunicable still. In what we show ourselves we are ignored. The abyss from soul to soul cannot be bridged By any skill of thought or trick of seeming. Unto our very selves we are abridged When we would utter to our thought our being. We are our dreams of ourselves, souls by gleams, And each to each other dreams of others' dreams. Fernando Pessoa, 1918

08-17-2008, 11:51 AM	#6 (permalink)
thespian86 change is hard. Location: the green room.	I don't think it makes people seem more attractive, so much as I am a little more honest about my needs and wants Instead of saying "meh, that could turn out bad" my id comes out a bit more. If I want it, I go for it. That kind of thing. __________________ EX: Whats new? ME: I officially love coffee more then you now. EX: uh... ME: So, not much.

08-18-2008, 07:48 AM	#8 (permalink)
Cynthetiq Tilted Cat Head Administrator Location: Manhattan, NY	My drinking days lead to my celebate days. I never let my guard down in fact that was part of the game for me: to see how much I could drink and still be in control. attractive, sure, but I was too self aware to act on any impulses. __________________ I don't care if you are black, white, purple, green, Chinese, Japanese, Korean, hippie, cop, bum, admin, user, English, Irish, French, Catholic, Protestant, Jewish, Buddhist, Muslim, indian, cowboy, tall, short, fat, skinny, emo, punk, mod, rocker, straight, gay, lesbian, jock, nerd, geek, Democrat, Republican, Libertarian, Independent, driver, pedestrian, or bicyclist, either you're an asshole or you're not. What's the best nation in the world? DO-NATION!

08-18-2008, 09:04 AM	#9 (permalink)
speshul-k Insane	My standards seem to go up the more I get drunk... how does that one work?!

08-18-2008, 09:33 AM	#10 (permalink)
MSD The sky calls to us ... Super Moderator Location: CT	The only really significant effect on my personality when I'm drunk is that I don't think before I say something. I still feel as self-conscious and inhibited. I really don't think we'll do anything drunk that we don't want to sober, it just gives us an excuse.

08-22-2008, 01:49 AM	#12 (permalink)
little_tippler Leaning against the -Sun- Super Moderator Location: on the other side	I'm glad you like my typo Well, about the control bit...all I can say is, ask my friends. I never drink and drive. I have never got into a fight after drinking. In fact I have never had a bad night of drinking, or thrown up because of it, or had memory loss. Even when I've had several drinks, at the end of the night I am the friend looking out for everyone and making sure everyone gets home alright. @ speshul-k: yeah, that is strange! Your standards go up how, exactly? Interesting! __________________ Whether we write or speak or do but look We are ever unapparent. What we are Cannot be transfused into word or book. Our soul from us is infinitely far. However much we give our thoughts the will To be our soul and gesture it abroad, Our hearts are incommunicable still. In what we show ourselves we are ignored. The abyss from soul to soul cannot be bridged By any skill of thought or trick of seeming. Unto our very selves we are abridged When we would utter to our thought our being. We are our dreams of ourselves, souls by gleams, And each to each other dreams of others' dreams. Fernando Pessoa, 1918

08-22-2008, 05:29 AM	#13 (permalink)
Esoteric Tired Location: Florida	When I get drunk I get horny, but I don't go and try to fuck any woman in sight. I don't drink much hard liquor anymore though. I had a rough spot in my life about a year ago and 151 + Coke was my coping mechanism for awhile. I'd binge drink nearly every night, heh. __________________ From a head full of pressure rests the senses that I clutch Made a date with Divinity, but she wouldn't let me fuck I got touched by a hazy shaded, God help me change Caught a rush on the floor from the life in my veins

08-22-2008, 02:04 PM	#14 (permalink)
Cernunnos Insane Location: Orlando, Florida	The only alcohol that I will ever consume is a single glass of wine or a few beers. I try to ensure that I am never more than buzzed, particularly around other people, whether they're friends and family or complete strangers. I've found that I won't think as clearly or speak as eloquently, and it's unpleasant to know that alcohol is the cause of it. With that being said, I have been tipsy before, but I failed to notice any lowering of the inhibitions or a greater attractiveness of those around me. I believe that I mask (and perhaps compensate for) the alcohol's effects by purposely acting more reserved than I naturally am.

08-22-2008, 05:05 PM	#15 (permalink)
World's King Here Location: Denver City Denver	Okay... Tippler... Can I buy you a drink? __________________ heavy is the head that wears the crown

08-22-2008, 06:07 PM	#17 (permalink)
World's King Here Location: Denver City Denver	Some times I reach this magical place like that. It just won't go away. Two drinks later it's like trying to thread a needle with a fucking hot dog. __________________ heavy is the head that wears the crown

08-24-2008, 01:32 PM	#18 (permalink)
Ayashe Psycho	I can definitely say that when I have been drinking I am definitely more easily aroused. I disagree that anyone actually looks more attractive to me or that I would lose my inhibitions completely and make a choice uncharacteristic of myself. I am not a heavy drinker though, never have been. A drink or two and I am very well buzzed I tend to not allow myself to get truly wasted drunk. As far as watching others while they have been drinking, sometimes it is absolutely shocking. The way people act can be really disgraceful. I have even essentially gave up on a couple of friends due to their drunkenness and inability to be respectful to others in public, causing unnecessary scenes and dramas. It is a shame, but that is the way it goes, if we could attend events or just sit down and play cards or watch movies without alcohol it would be much easier for me to remain friends with them.