Will your friends get naked with you?
 

I was recently invited to a naked party by a friend who has known me (though not entirely too well) for about 3 years. It took him a while to gauge if I am the kind of person who is right for that kind of thing and I guess he read me right. His invitation came with the request that I invite any friends of mine that might also be the type. So, that got me thinking about all the friends I have and who of them would be the type to attend a naked party. Mind you, this is an "anything goes" naked party, so it could always end up as more than a nudist gallery. Also mind you, I have to maintain a balance of men and women.

I have several TFP friends who I know are willing. That should be obvious. However the friends that I know only in my offline life are a little more cloudy. I have a whole slew of new friends that I've met through my buddy, now former co-worker, and they're all quite sexual. They don't know me well enough yet to actually get naked with me, I don't think. Any invitation will seem awkward. My buddy will get naked at the drop of a hat, with anyone, but I know he would not bring his girlfriend along for it, so any invitation I extend to him will be declined.

I do have one friend who I met online who is looking to get into this scene, and I've already invited her. She accepted.

Could any of you invite your friends to something like this?

I would be down for a party like that.... but I think a lot of people I know offline would be suprised by that.

I've got one buddy I know for sure would be down for something like that... and he would probably know at least a couple girls that would be down... hes just that kind of guy...

I'd have to say no. Then again, I'm not sure I would attend something like this.

Nope. My guy friends will think it's "gay," and my girl friends, well, they wouldn't even wear a two-piece when they swim--they always put on a shirt over the bikini. It's a damn shame because some of them have really tight bodies. But what can I say? They've been raised by conservative asian parents. I wouldn't do it either....

I don't have any friends in real life (whom I haven't met first via TFP) with whom I could do this. The one time that it did happen at a social gathering, it was very unexpected and disturbing... and it eventually gave me cause to sever the friendship.

The only way that I could attend something like this, would be if ktspktsp and I were both equally and totally fine with it, and fine with the "anything goes" thing (e.g. we would both know and be fine with the other person getting physically involved with someone else at the party). I would not go if he felt any reservations about any part of it, and I know he wouldn't go if I felt the same way. It would have to be all or nothing, as are most things involving a couple exploring new aspects of their sexual relationship.

In other words, as a married person, I would not make a decision about something like this very casually... even if we're both the curious types, the repercussions are quite serious if events do not go as we foresaw.

I have a friend that used to have parties all the time where the main floor would be clothed and the second floor would be clothing optional. However she hasn`t held a party like that in a few years, mainly due to the fact that she and her boyfriend have two kids both under three. If they got the kids to grandma`s house for the night and held another party, the gf and I would be there in a heartbeat.

I used to have these kinds of parties many years ago. I'd probably still do it with certain friends. I'm not sure my wife would ... sometimes, if she's in just the right mood.

So ... yes. I have some friends who'd be up for this kind of thing and I have a pretty good idea who they are.

So what's the difference between a naked party and a swingers party?

I think the vast majority of my friends would decline. I have suspicions about a few, but yeah, the vast majority would say no. I personally would likely decline as well, but maybe I'd want to try it once just to see what it's about.

Now I'm kinda curious... what sort of things happen at a naked party? What kind of etiquette exists for this social event?

I was wondering the same thing. :confused:

I don't know anything about swinging parties, but do they go like this?

1. Clothing optional, but allowed.
2. You're free to do what you like, but it is mainly people just hanging out like a normal party.
3. Later in the night, things might get heavy, but probably after most of the crowd has left.

Most of the naked parties I've been to just involve socializing naked; it's not necessarily sexual nudity. In fact, I think parties amongst my friends get more sexual when people are wearing clothes, and less so when the clothes come off. Yes, my friends will get naked with me, and I will get naked with them.

I'd be more inclined to attend a naked party where the nudity was social and not sexual, given that my SO is uncomfortable with the latter and not the former. Not all naked parties become orgies, and that's fine by me.

Yes, me too.

Some of my friends and I, both male and female, get naked in front one of another in a casual, easy way such as when changing clothes, camping, swimming, etc. I dont know that I would attend a naked party though simply because it seems somewhat theme-y and affected. Im not sure, Ive never been to a true naked party.

If I'm drunk, it's a naked party! At least on my part!:p

Seriously though, I have very open minded friends and I'm willing to bet just about any of them would be down with something like this.

I'm a pretty open minded guy, but my wife is surprisingly conservative concerning sexual matters. It's kind of strange because she's a belly dancer and you would think she'd be more comfortable, but she isn't. So I might go considering my personality, but due to SO constraints I would not go.

Yeah... Most of my friends have seen me naked. Mostly in hot tubs. Or cause we had sex.



But and orgy type situation might be a little weird. I've been to fetish parties with a few friends but nothing to this extent.

Not sure how you can have a social and not sexual party. To me seeing someone naked attractive automatically makes you think sexually. You can repress that part of you but that will still be there.

Xazy, the main thing that makes CLOTHED gatherings work is a healthy dose of sexual tension. Nobody's asking for a separation of nudity and sexuality here.

Are boners frowned upon at these kind of parties?

I don't think I'd go. Can't say I like my body very much (too skinny), but if I did, I'd probably be a walking had-on.

Then again, I've drawn nude models before and was fine.

With my friends, skinny dipping would be about as close to this as possible.

We're all married and such so the question of "why?" would weigh too heavily.

On the other hand, if I was at a party and everyone suddenly got naked, I'd be an enthusiastic participant.

For some reason I can't quite articulate, planned nudity would be tantamount to cheating, but inspired nudity would be playful and innocent.

I think this thread does a good job of defining the boundaries around nudity that people have.

I asked another friend about his thoughts and he told me that he's been to much more... sexual parties than what I'm describing. He's had to go through 3 different interviews to be eligible to attend a swinger's party. Now THAT is planned nudity.

In my 20's, I was at an informal gathering where stuff started coming off and I was too embarrassed seeing it and walked out.
Now, if stuff started coming off, I'd be too embarrassed to participate and would walk out.
Different reasons, same ending.

Also agreed. Skinny dipping would probably be fine, as long as it was spontaneous (e.g. happening on a nudist beach or river, and no one having any swimsuits, etc). But yeah, since a lot of our friends are couples/married... unless we fully intended to swing with them (which is a rather huge step to be taking, and not one we would take spontaneously), I wouldn't really want us all to be seeing each other naked.

It would be very different if I were single, and if we were all single together, and there was therefore some very obvious opportunity for sleeping together later on... but without that expectation, I guess I don't see much of a point other than titillation and voyeurism.

sounds too forced and artificial to me. had several naked social gatherings in iceland which have involved nature and water but to plan something like that is just all about expectation. i´d have to say i´d do it only if i was desperate i guess. just my opinion.

As in all matters of this type, I'd have to consider the more important question: is it worth it? Yea, I could probably find friends who'd do this, and I'd be more willing to do it.

But I'm in a relationship with someone who would absolutely not, and because of this, would absolutely not understand why it'd be OK for me. So is it worth it? Probably not.

I have been to gatherings that ended up with nudity, but that was not the main theme of the event. They truly were a blast but it was a spontaneous thing. I personally would feel somewhat pressured if it were a forced theme of the gathering.

I only have one friend hat has seen me naked and there were two naked girls there too playing a game after a small house party. I would feel weird talking to naked people at a planned naked party, I just don't know the social conventions, body language and eye contact rules. I probably wouldn't go to a swinger party unless I had a girlfriend and just wanted to have sex with each other with a bunch of other people having sex around us. If it was just a social naked party, I'm sure that people could tell what size my penis is, and I might go just for the experience.

I would love to go skinny dipping with a mixed co-ed group of people. Or even go to a nude beach with people. But I doubt very many of my off-line friends would go for it. Then again, it's like the other thread I made about getting to know people off-line, I have no clue what their views on nudity really are.

I don't have that many close friends and those I do have are not the 'naked party' type.

Myself, I like being naked and I'm not terribly modest, but I don't think I would enjoy a planned 'naked party.' Especially one at which sex was a possibility. Group sex doesn't appeal to me and walking around naked isn't my idea of seduction.

I like nude beaches and I could probably enjoy a vacation at a nudist camp, but there's something a little too pat about a 'naked party with the possibility of sex' for my taste.

More power to the folks who are into it though. Still makes me smile to think of Hal walking around at one. :)

I have friends who would definitely do it. I would not because I am not at all comfortable with my body and have serious self-esteem issues that would prevent me from enjoying it.

Oddly, I think I would be more comfortable being invited to an orgy or swingers party than just a naked party.

I think its a little... romantic... to say that you wouldn't attend a party with planned nudity, but you would get naked if it were spontaneous. For myself, I have been dreaming of a day when I could be naked in a crowd of people. It represents a little bit of freedom for me. When you're all naked, I don't imagine there being much physical seduction; you still need to click personally. If anything does happen, it wont be between two people who aren't attracted to eachother.

From what I hear, there are some people who will attend, but have vowed to take off if it gets hot and heavy. Some people will stay and just watch. I figure that I'll be watching. If it gets really hot, I might have to be petted. If the right-looking pair of women invite me into the shower, I will oblige.

I would probably be one of the ones to take off...and get hot and heavy at home later. :)

Well, dear, you convinced me to go with you.

Yeah, it's pretty hot, ain't it? :p

I would love to go to a party like this, but I highly doubt any of my friends would. There is too much social disapproval with men being naked in the same room as men, regardless of how many attractive women there are...

My crazy friends? Yes. I've seen them naked, showered with them, had sex with one of them and she has watched my boyfriend and myself have sex. We used to just lay naked and talk on summer days. We shared sex toys... basically, we were very close.

My friends from work, or more modest friends? No.

I don't know that I have many friends who would be into this sort of thing. I don't know that I'd be into this sort of thing. I can think of maybe one girl I've known for a long time whom I could imagine getting into this...my girlfriend definitely would not be into it, so it's out for me.

Alas, all of the friends I would want to see naked, wouldn't do it; All of my friends that I don't want to see naked, would.

I've been to parties where I knew nudity was a foregone conclusion (by the end of the night) - unfortunately, it was with the friends I don't want to see naked, so we left when we knew it was getting close to that time.

I would love to go to something like this. The wife, probably not.

Most of the friends I know would probably freak out if I suggested something like this. Too bad...

I'm slightly surprised at the number of people here who wouldn't participate in something like this.

As for me, I would and have gone to parties like this, and I have many friends who would say the same. A couple months ago I threw a lingerie party, which of course was clothing optional, but was only called a lingerie party because of one fairly conservative friend who was helping me set it up.

Naked doesn't have to mean sexual, though it often does. In my experience, I can be around a group of naked people in a very sexual setting or in just a friendly one. Most of my close friends, the ones that I've kept hanging out with through high school and college, would tend to feel the same way. In fact, I can truthfully say I've seen all of most of my male friends' bodies (and I've only slept with a couple of them). And some of the females' bodies too, though I don't have nearly as many female friends who are secure about themselves. Basically, for me and my group of friends that are into this it would be a no-brainer. But of course I have friends who wouldn't do it, not many of those are close friends though.


I have to wonder if the naked party idea sprang out of themed parties that got popular when I was in HS. As such it seems like it's something more popular with younger people (and of course, for many other reasons as well).

That's pretty cool, I'd love to go to a party like that, if only by a principal of freedom. Would I invite my friends? I doubt it. They're all too prudish. Plus for my first time, I'd rather go alone. Being with a friend, to me, would be more awkward.

So for those of you who have gone, where did you meet these people? How would I go about trying to find one of these parties in my area?