Teasing: How-to

[maudlinae]

I'm a pretty shy girl and I've just recently gotten to the point that I can suggest or ask for things from my SO that I wouldn't have before. (Luckily he's got a knack for knowing what I want!)

Today I brought up, once again, being teased to the breaking point. We both are very enthusiastic about the idea but while he has an uncanny ability to drive me wild, I am unsure of what to do to derive the same reaction from him. I've asked him multiple times what he likes and his answer is always, "Just about anything you can think of." Problem is, I'm still worried about doing something that, while he might not dislike it, might be terribly mediocre.

I suppose my question stands thusly:

Ladies, what are some things you've done in the past to tease your guy that have driven him crazy with desire?

Guys, what are some things that girls do to tease, both innocently and sexually, that drive you mad?

The more detailed the better, as always.

[Cernunnos]

Some physical turn-ons: Giggling, lip biting, lip licking, blushing, intense stares, coy smiles, moaning, thighs around the waist, arms wrapped around my head, cheek stroking, fingers through the hair, nibbling and licking at the neck, sneaking up behind and kissing the nape of the neck, finger suckling, clawing and biting, caressing just about anywhere, Klingon sex rituals.

Some mental turn-ons: Mentioning how needy she's feeling, teasing that she was turned on earlier and got a bit wet and flushed for me (and would I please touch her down there), daring challenges of who can make who give it up sooner, revealing that she was too horny to hold back from masturbating, revealing that she was fantasizing about another guy or girl and that it affected her rather naughtily, begging to be punished, taking the initiative, speaking fluent Klingon.

Okay, the last one from both lists aren't turn-ons, but being a fellow Trekker is certainly a positive trait.

[Halx]

The attitude with which you do things is sometimes more important than the actual action. Play a little mind game with him... gaze deep into his eyes, lick your lips, get him into the mood. Once you can captivate your audience, even the simplest of actions will keep them enthralled.

[Daniel_]

Originally Posted by maudlinae

Guys, what are some things that girls do to tease, both innocently and sexually, that drive you mad?

Turn up naked.

Bring beer.

[cmc]

Do you want a sure fire, guaranteed way to be a TURN ON Genius ?

The answer is simple: TEST, Test, test -- any guy - and probably any girl will always admire
the open-minded intention of a partner who is excited at trying different things to get their partner
tuned in, turned on and turned out ! The only way to find what turns him or her on is to TRY different things.

Some valid ( previously used ideas include - but are certainly never limited to ... )
a) words b) phrases c) putting your tongue in their ear - wet and dry.
d) visual appeal - in private & visual appeal in public e) watching movie scenes together
f) discovering what turns YOU ON and communicating that knowledge to him / her by verbally telling and by writing it out -- different times, different places, different angles, at home and away ...
g) doing anything by thinking it up your self h) doing anything by asking first for the idea i) doing anything by thinking it up yourself and then asking about His Satisfaction --

This is like selling -- the Satisfaction Perception is Your S.O. 's most important factor -- and you can not give that to them, but you can give them a host of different opportunities to both discover what is most ( or moist ! ) appealing to them as well as remembering what is most / moist satisfying to them.

You want to find that energy edge in you and in them and discover how to ride it - for as long as you both prefer.
Remember - in love making - everything is game if it is satisfying to both partners ---
Go forth and excite !

[Jenna]

For me, it's all about the boobs. But I'm sure it applies to other parts of the body.

You can slightly show, rub and feel yourself up. If you take them and instead of touching him with your hands and mouth, use your body (or boobs in my case).

[Daniel_]

Originally Posted by Jenna

For me, it's all about the boobs. But I'm sure it applies to other parts of the body.

You can slightly show, rub and feel yourself up. If you take them and instead of touching him with your hands and mouth, use your body (or boobs in my case).

Yep, that'd work.

[cadre]

Well you wanted details but let me first point out that the best teasing techniques depend on the partners. For instance, some men love certain things and you can take advantage of that, if your partner loves it when you play with his hair you better be including that!

More specific things are to get things started early. A naughty text message or phone call will make your job that much easier later. Give him/her things they like and then take them away (be careful with this one though, you can easily over do it). If you're at dinner or out in public use discreet movements and touches to keep their mind on what might happen later. And make eye contact!

The most important advice I can give for this though is to know what your partner likes and dislikes and use that information. That requires practice and attention to detail.