When you think you're over someone

[Strange Famous]

And then your ex calls your office, cos in their new job they just need some info, and the minute you hear their voice your heart feels like its everywhere at once and you cant hardly think what youre saying. And they're asking you about your Merchant ID's and APACS 30/50 or whatever... and you're just thinking of a certain moment or a certain conversation with this person...

And at the end of the day, you come home, and you just sit and look at the wall and keep picturing her face when she smiled, remembering how it felt like when you put your hand on her arm...

And so perhaps youre not over it.

I feel like I want to get drunk or something except I hardly drink these days.

[KirStang]

Yep. Heartbreaks suck.

Here:

[Ourcrazymodern?]

I'll never get over or be able to disregard my intimates. You can't fuck currency.

[KirStang]

It's meant as a joke, OCM.

Saw this girl today who, 7 years ago, I had the biggest crush on. We made small talk, I smelled her breath, and found myself wanting to kiss her.

Point is, feelings die hard. Go hang out with some friends SF. Hope you feel better.

[Ourcrazymodern?]

Also, if you're willing, bear in mind that getting over someone might be impossible. Parts of me still love all my exes.

[aberkok]

I am in the process of splitting with my wife. It's an amicable split, but I don't know if that's better or worse, so yeah... I'm going through this on an almost daily basis.

[Plan9]

I wholeheartedly recommend drinking. Because breaking up feels like what Annie did to this house:



And there is nothing that makes it better except time and distance. You get left with dreams and memories.

Even then? Sometimes it's still pretty bad. I've had years and I'm on the other side of the planet.

I'm not better. I'm operating at 100% but I can't seem to shake the occasional feeling. Weird.

Just know that even if you're standing still, you'll end up somewhere else in a few years.

[Giant Hamburger]

The quantity of my wanting someone is directly proportional to the quality of their wanting of me.

[biznatch]

I don't get sad, but I see my ex's face in some strangers and I swear it's her until I thoroughly check again. It's very off-putting.

My advice is to do something distracting, to change your state of mind, and if that's not succesful, have a few drinks.
The tricky part is to do so while not thinking about her.
You'll be fine though, SF, you're a pretty tough guy.

[samcol]

Originally Posted by biznatch

I don't get sad, but I see my ex's face in some strangers and I swear it's her until I thoroughly check again. It's very off-putting.

this. it's been almost 2 years and it happens all the time. one time it actually was her which really freaked me out. happened to be the same day that we broke up one year earlier at some random gas station. funny how things work.

i declined to get back with her, but somehow she pops in my head everyday nonetheless.

and i agree with ourcrazymodern, once i've loved somebody i always love them no matter how bad they may have screwed me over.

[chinese crested]

After his funeral I would catch a glimpse of someone who looked like him going round a corner, or behind from a distance. I used to briefly think 'he isnt dead, it was a mistake' - but I was always wrong.

[Strange Famous]

She didnt screw me over, nor me her. It just didnt work out because of jobs and economics and my own flawed heart.

Objectively, I can say she was just a normal human being, she wasnt a model or anything.

In my heart I think she is still so beautiful and so perfect. Just the sound of her voice filled me with such a sense of loss and deadness I cant describe.

[Jinn]

Obsessing at this sort of level about a broad doesnt seem very manly......

[Plan9]

Sure it does, mate. It leads to downing pint after pint 'en a long string of hit-'n-quit birds.

[Ourcrazymodern?]

I take it that that means the chances of one getting over himself are nil.