Strap-on w/your man?
 

Ok, kinda serious question here, girlz...

My SO and I were discussing anal; he likes giving it to me, and I think it's ok, once in a while. But I was joking the last time he was wanting to, and I said, "how 'bout I do you for a change?"
He was quiet for a second, and didn't immediately say, "no way!" like I expected him to. I halfway joked a bit further and mentioned getting a strap-on, and I think he may like the idea, but doesn't want to admit it.

I'm worried though, if we try it, if it will weird-out our relationship. We're not into the dom/sub scene at all, and I can't imagine just coming home and telling him, "down on your knees, I'm going in!" I think it might be fun, and I get the feeling he might go along, but I just don't know how to approach the actual act with him.

Any advice from anyone who's tried it?

haven't tried it, but it doesn't have to be any more dominating for you than vice versa. give it a shot if you're both game. if it's not fun, then all you're out is the price of a strap on. if everyone likes it, well, then there ya go, a new direction for your sex life to go in. :) make sure to communicate about ANYTHING new you try, and you'll be fine. :)

exactly what i was going to say :)

Damn, wish my husband would go for that. lol

I would Love to try that with someone....I think it might be a lot of fun...

I almost did once but for some reason or another, it didn't happen.

But has anyone actually tried it? I was just worried how this might change our relationship. I'm afraid that he might think that I might think that he mya have homosexual tendencies or something if I act serious about going through with it. Sometimes I do finger his anus while I'm giving him head, and he seems to like it, so maybe I will progressively get more ambitious.

my boyfriend made it clear very early on that he was completely happy with me NOT touching his ass, and I've respected that, so... I really don't know what to tell you, other than to keep the lines of communication open.

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As my human sexuality professor says, "If you're a guy and you like anal sex or stimulation, all it means is that you're a guy and you like anal sex or stimulation." It doesn't mean he has homosexual tendencies. It's much easier to stimulate the prostate via the anus than any other way--and it is highly pleasurable for a male to have their prostate stimulated.

You might compare it to your G-spot. The G-spot in women and the prostate in men come from the same cells in utero, before the chromosomes come into play and tell the gonadal tissue what to develop into. Yay for human sexuality class.

My man told me his ass is off limits.

I respect that.

However, mine is fair play;)

Yeah i want to try this so bad, think he does too but fingers has been it so far, he hits the roof... so maybe soon i'll bring it up, he likes anal i don't but for him and he is careful so i put up with it ,never o'd over it though. Like to tru the reversal and give it too him watch him squirm!!

My boy expressed a firm "no" on this one...Damnit!

Every once in a while, mine would like to "play and experiment" with my vibrator. He likes it, more for the kinky factor. Next step past the vibrator is a strap-on. Have talked about it TONS of times....now to actually go out and BUy one...thats a different story.

Ok, I finally wnet through with it! A while back, I ordered a strap-on, and have been saving it for the right moment. Last night, while we were getting intimate, he started fingering my ass, which is a signal that he is interested in anal. Sure enough, he whispers in my ear, "How 'bout some anal tonight?" I give him my best mischevious look and say, "Sounds great! wait right here." I go to get the lube and the strap-on (he thinks I'm just going to get the lube) and I walk back in the bedroom with it on. As soon as he recovers from his look of shock, I tell him to lay down on the bed so I can lube him up. I straddle his ass, and spread lube over the dildo and his ass, and gently press forwards. He mumbles something like, "be gentle now," as I start thrusting. He works his way to his knees, and I'm getting this awesome power trip from fucking him in the ass! At one point I thrust deep into him, reach around, and find that he is rock hard. A few strokes with my hand, and he blows, but still stays hard. I ask him if I should keep going, and he says don't stop! This was one of the most erotically charged nights of my life! Talk about expanding your horizons! Later (much later, after we were both physically exhausted), we talked a little about it, and it wasn't weird at all. I don't think I'll be freaking out the strap-on every night, but what a trip!

w00tw00t!

that's an awesome story, congrats to you and your man! :)

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I've been curious about the same thing with my SO. After reading up on anal stimulation for a guy I've been all kinds of interested. I've wanted to do it probably more than he wants to try it, but that is only because I want to make him feel good any way I can. He is still pretty leary about it and I found out recently part of it has to do with some repressed fears. He used to be teased in school cause he hung out with girls just as much as guys despite the threat of "kooties". That progressed into name calling and homosexual jokes. Sadly I think this has made him fear that others, even myself, would think he is truely gay. However, we've talked about it some and there is hope yet for some anal action. As for right now I only lightly press against his pernum between his penis and his anus. Maybe we'll move on to fingers and such later, but I think this is going to all be done in baby steps for his sake.

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Wow! That is one great looking there, Suv!

Of course, I'm partial to purple.

I would love to try this with my husband, but honestly its taken years to get to the point where he is comfortable with me just fondling his ass during sex. I'm in it for the long haul, so I can wait though ;)

But damn if I don't want that toy... where did you find it? Link?

I would have to agree. My husband would never ever go for that. He says that is strictly a one way street. To bad for me I guess? :(

Melun Jinn-

Just curious; How did you get him interested in doing it the first time?

Not to say that this is Melun Jinn's case, I don't know her or her husband, but sometimes men *ask* for it.

Someday, I hope I can do this with someone I really care for. I've only heard positive, exciting stories. And, it doesn't have to be a dom/sub/power trip thing.

Lol!
Yeah we are the same!

I was hoping to find his G Spot, but oh well never mind!
:)

Well my husband actually went for the idea!!!! When the idea of doing anal to me was brought up I was a little afraid I guess you could say. He went and purchased an anal kit (LOL) and told me to try those first to get me used to it. I told him I would if he would so he did, and now I do it to him as well. I didn't realize the pleasure I would receive from doing it to him! There was just something about it that turned me on too!

This is one of my boyfriend's favorite things, sexually. He can't get enough of it! Which is unforunate sometimes, because it requires a lot of preparation and .. clean up. The strap on that we have is a two way one, and has a clit tickling part, which is nice. I think he gets the best orgasms of his life from this ;)

I tend to think more guys would be into it if the subject was brought up - good luck, girls :)

I haven't done the strap-on thing (I'm not that coordinated) but...

I have him lay face down and lube him up. Then I use a penis-shaped rubber dildo with "balls" attached. I push it in with my hand as I lay next to him.

It's fun to "fuck" him and be able to press my body into him at the same time. He enjoys it but doesn't get off. Usually it's foreplay but sometimes it doesn't lead to anything else.

He purrs like a kitten and breathes really heavy. The best part is that we can talk and share a lot of quiet emotional stuff.

Sometimes it's a domination thing but not usually.

I have brought anal sex up many times with my hubby and frankly he hates the idea!!! I am curious but no means no and I leave it at that!!!

This is one of my fantasies that I'd like to see come true. I've been wanting to grab the old strap-on and plug away at my man but I still haven't found the man interested enough to allow this to happen. Someday..

I think alot of guys say no because they're afraid their wives will think they're gay, or some other such nonsense....truly, I think most men are interested, curious, and would even be willing to go along if the moment was right....

I know mine was. It's one of his favorite things now. :)

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The anus is just another one of the errogenous zones (for both men and women). Enjoying anal stimulation does not make one gay!

I don't know if you've heard of this video, Bend Over Boyfriend, but I hear it's a good instructional video if you're both interested in trying it for the first time.

You can find it from this website, doing a search on Bend Over Boyfriend: http://www.goodvibes.com/

I wish my boyfriend would be willing to try this. You're a lucky lady!

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I'm going to have to check this out, it looks like fun...

I wish I had known about this earlier; and you can get the video in a kit that includes strap-on and lube!

Yup! There is conveniently a Good Vibrations in the city where I reside, and every so often I'll go there with my bf to pick up a few new toys. Unfortunately, BOB is not something that he's particularly interested in. :(

Bottoms are fun.
 

Hi There,

I'm into a bit of B&D action and have tried this with a few different partners over the years. In my experience he'll either get right off on it and become a bit of anal slut and want it all the time, or he'll think it's fun occassionally but not really be that into it. I haven't encountered any men who thought they might be gay because they found out they enjoyed a bit of anal action. I also haven't encountered any men who didn't ennjoy a bit of a prostate tickle.

Anyone seen Road Trip where Stifler (I don't know the actor's name or his characters name in Road Trip - doh!) received a bit of up the bum action from a hot nurse. I doubt many guys saw that and thought he was gay, they probably saw that and though 'Mmmmm, hot nurse, fingers up bum, I'd like to try that'.

Who knows how guys minds work though, it all comes down to individual tastes. Try the strap-on, see if it works for both of you - you might love that feeling of having him bent over in front of you doing him the way he does you or you miht hate it. You both may decide that fingers are the way to go and not need to go that extra mile.

As long as you're both comfortable and having fun with it, it shouldn't get to intense. If it feels a bit silly just whack him on the bum and say something like "I'm gonna ride you now cowboy!", something to make a giggle and relax the situation.

Needless to say, you can never have enough lube. Water based is crap for anal so go with either a silicon based lube or, stalwart of anal fetishists everywhere, some crisco!

Good luck, hope it's fun if you decide to go there.

Cheers,
Julie

Thanks, Julie, that was great info.

It is an old thread, but... just interesting...
It ahppen few weeks ago, my friend (she's bi, or better said "lesbian who has nothing against man") was talking about strap-on. As I never seen one in nature, I ask her if I can see it. Ok, it's how it started... even I am not bi at all, when I see it "in place" I was too curious not to try. So, she fucked me and I did her too... I can't say it was bad, but... simply, I cannot feel "on my own" with another girl. On the other hand, to be so "boyish" was really new experience what I like (even, I must say that before I didn't know how hard work is what boys are doing to us). Somehow, idea to do it with my boyfriend came as something logical. But, how to tel him? How to ask him? Still I like it, and as time is passing I like it more and more, but...
Alicia

I have been doing my hubby with a strapon for a few years now and we both love the variety it adds to our sex life.There is no dom/sub relationship with us,just the chance to change places and get a little kinky now and then.

As posted in another thread... one of my fantasies is to tie a guy up, then surprise him (ha!) by pulling out a strap-on and totally nailing him in the ass.

And then of course, I'll let him have his revenge on me.

Ok I've just managed to get all turned on picturing that in my mind...

I recently bought a feeldoe (strapless strap on) and it turned out to be great.

No weirdness ensued, it was just good fun. :)

Wow, this is an ollld thread!

Martel and I want to get a Feeldoe! We love anal play, both of us get a LOT of enjoyment out of it! The idea of me doing him.... oh man, what an INSANE turn on! :crazy:

The only thing is that you need amazing muscles to keep it in while thrusting. It's going to take a bit of practice to have me on top, but him on top works amazingly well.

Yeah, we looked at the Feeldoe, but went with the Nexus instead. (Ours is a much cooler color though, red with black marbling). I like it because it fits in my Bend Over Beginner harness and it doubles quite well as a dildo for when I am masturbating (I use the bigger end for that). Sometimes the head is a little difficult for my SO, but he has gotten used to it... and it's definitely more realistic than the smooth-ended dildos that come with Bend Over Beginner.

Anyway, we highly encourage couples to try this out... it was one of the first "events" we ever posted about on TFP, way back in Feb 05. :)

well, we've just started experimenting with the hole ass licking, finger-in-sticking and that sort of stuff.

i have to say, that after reading all these posts, i'm very excited that we started and i am thankfull for all the stories that make me want to do it a whole lot more.

last night was the first time i actually stuck a finger in and it gave him an instant hard-on. he rated it as a 5 out of 10 but is more than willing to go on practising.

i cannot wait.

Yeah, too bad last time I mentioned it my guy it was a big NO. I'm workin on him though. I have hopes.

I absolutely hated having anal sex the first few times, but now I have found some numbing lube that makes it needless to say quite enjoyable. However, in the beginning there were many times that I would have LOVED to do that to/with my husband just to let him know how it feels (for at least the first time)!

On behalf of a male member :

Mmmmm... reading through this thread made me really horny, so I took my bf into the bedroom and used a finger on him... then he gave me a banging I won't soon forget! =) I've used a vibrator before on him, but it's been a couple years, so this was a good reminder.

Slightly related topic - are there strapons that men can wear, so they can do you with... ummm... two? :crazy: :crazy:

I have tried it
 

with an ex. I dont remember how it came up, but I do remember starting slow. I would touch his anus during foreplay and sex, soon it moved to putting my finger inside of him. When we were comfortable and ready we moved on to a strap on. We both picked it out because it made him feel comfortable, and we got a small size. We used alot of lube and took our time. It was odd after the first time, but then again it was odd for me after my first anal experiance. We talked about our toughts and feelings and did it a few times afterwards when things got routine in bed.

I know I liked doing it. I loved the power trip and the feeling of being in charge!

my balls are too big for my britches

Stevie - you just described a scenario I'd love to play out with a friend of mine....I bet he'd love it and I know it would be a wild ride!

Thanks for sharing and reviving one of the more ineresting older threads on here!

It's amazing to re-read this thread and see how many closed-minded (and closed-ass :rolleyes: ) husbands/boyfriends there were... I wonder if we would get the same reaction today? Probably. It's really too bad for them, since they don't know what they're missing out on... ;) I say any man who likes/wants to have anal sex with a woman, should at least allow her to fuck him in the ass once and see how it feels. It's only fair... and plus, it's a lot of fun if you give it a fair chance! :thumbsup:

I've never really thought about strap-ons. You don't get them easily here (unless you go to a shady person in a dingy alley, too creepy for my liking) or get it when you're in another country (what if the Customs' see it?!)

Apparently my so's position hasn't changed. It's still a NO. :grumpy:

OK, so honestly this never occurred to me to try with my husband. Mainly because I'm not fond of anal. And I think I'm not fond of it since the few times I tried it, I don't think it happened like it was supposed to.

So after reading this thread I asked my husband, and he said it had occurred to him before but he never mentioned it. I'm still trying to decide if it's something I want to try with him. But thanks for all the information!

Interested in seeing and learning more...
 

Early on my boyfriend and I have bounced this thought off eachother. Since then we have done this several times and he loves it. We are thinking about putting up a site with pics, videos, and anyone could ask questions and get answers. Do you think that this would be a good idea? Do you think there would be interested? Would any off you look at the site and use it to be able to do your man with a strapon? :confused:

I always support any website that's kinky and informative. tell us when you're done with it. :)

Well to tell you, it used to weird me out to think about doing that with my SO but, recently after me joking about doing that to him he would joke back about letting me. Now I have come to learn that when a man jokes about something, he wants to lol. At least thats how it is with mine. And now, I know it would be fun, so I plan to try it soon as we can afford one lol. I say come right out and be serious about it and say you would like to try it. I bet he will admit to it then. Thats what I did and my man admitted he would like to try it :)

Oh and "eyecandy", I would be interested in seeing the site :) I love the male butthole :) Very tastey!

My fiance and I enjoy this activity quite a bit. We started out with anal on me then my playing around with his ass a couple different ways including finger, my dildo and a butt plug. Finally we made the plunge into a strap on. We first tried the Feeldoe but I don’t think I’m shaped right, and perhaps a little on the thicker side does not help. The Feeldoe kept slipping out of me anytime I tried to apply enough pressure to “enter” him. So we made a lil trip to our favorite sex toy shop, Babe Land, and bought a very nice Outlaw leather harness, black and red my fave sexy colors. Took it home and tried it out with the Feeldoe and met with more success, but something just wasn’t completely right. So yet another trip to Babe Land and we bought an “Adam.” This along with the harness has met with the best results. We both have a lot of fun with it and do a little role playing as well, I’ll let your mind wander.
Everyone will have different luck with different items but this compilation has been our favorite. As for any guy or girl worried about any weirdness, all I can say is I forgot about any I might have felt as soon as I saw the reaction this fun inspired in my man. The way he quivers is indescribable. :thumbsup:

Hi...just read this thread and thought I'd share something interesting that just happened to me. My boyfriend and I were discussing our sexual fantasies and he sheepishly admitted to me that he wanted to be fucked by me wearing a strap-on. I had never even heard of such a thing...but agreed to try. The next day I posted an ad on craigslist in 3 different cities and asked men if this was a common fantasy for straight men. (I was a bit concerned!) Well...no more! I received over 350 responses and only 6 men said no!! So many confided in me that they were afraid to admit this to their partners for fear of them thinking they were gay....how sad. This just happened this week...I can't wait to go shopping with my man for some toys....I think this will be fun for both of us!

I'm a man and I'm now aware that I can't post in the Ladies Lounge.

My SO like to go on his knees while I finger his ass with one hand and jerk him off with the other....he gets really excited when I work on him like that.
After he cums he's ready to do anything for me which is good for me. I find it pretty hot to do it like this once in a while.

An update three years later - I've managed to find a man who will let me do this to him! i was surprised as although he is a liberal-minded person, he always seemed to me to be conservative in bed.

Our first time, I did pretty much what I planned in our first post. One day in the shower, I said I wanted to do something rather adventurous with him sexually, and did he trust me? He was a little nervous, but said he trusted me (sucker! Ha ha!).

When we got out, I tied him up face down on the bed, and over the course of an hour went from kissing his butt and thighs, to licking him between the cheeks, to a finger, to two, to eventually penetrating him with my brand new strap-on. He only managed about five minutes of gentle thrusting before he said he couldn't take it any more...

The feeling of power I got was such a thrill, and the look on his face was exquisite. I've never been more turned on by a man's moaning before, and by the time he asked to stop, I was ready for my turn. I told him I was super horny, and seeing his erection I told him not to hold back on me...

He lubed up and entered me straight away, and came about five minutes later himself. Then much to my delight, he picked the strap-on up with his hand, and used it to penetrate me while we cuddled and deep-kissed. Eventually we were exhausted, and sweaty, sticky and covered in lube we got back in the shower.

Men, you owe it to yourselves to give this a try. You have no idea what you're missing, and what you're keeping from your girl!

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By the way, I find it interesting that this is the most viewed thread in Ladies Lounge (about 25,000 views) despite only about 60 replies. Something tells me the men are curious about this thread! ;)

I have a feeldoe for this very reason. It's really sexy and fun, and it makes me feel powerful. The toy took a bit of manoeuvring to figure out the first time, but in the end it was really worth it for both of us.

But, sadly, I don't know if I'll ever get to use it again: new boyfriend is afraid of his ass. :(

Reading your post Sharon, I have a strong suspicion I am going to be breaking out the harness and dildo rather soon. :thumbsup:

My honey has been asking for it for a little while now I think were gonna go for it tonight.

I am willing to do it with mu hubby
 

Hi,
I would like to try but I don´t know how to rise the subject. Does anyone know a softcore movie related?
Thanks :)

What's good for the goose is good for the gander...and we're just a couple of wild Canada geese!

It's fun with lots of lube and a shower waiting.

My first husband LOVED it. We each had our own "toy box" It always made me kind of want to giggle though cause he was a big, macho, hard working man. So to see him laying on his back, holding his ankles - well sometimes I'd just laugh.
It did nothing for me. But I like seeing my partner experience pleasure so I liked doing it for him.

I'm one in the "would love to try it" camp, but my current SO likely has zero interest.

Jeff Dunham's Peanut: "..they stuck something in my butt, and not in the good way."
My SO's response: "There's a good way?!"

:(

lol, I didn't try that

I wouldn't want to ever do that. I think it would ruin it for me. I like to play the submissive role mostly and if I knew that I had fucked him in the ass, it just wouldn't do it for me anymore.

Any pleasure I would get from strap on sex would have to be strictly mental/psychological. How could it be otherwise?:confused: Since the strap-on dildo wouldn't have any of my nerve endings in it, how could I even feel the penetration?? Or anything else physical?
When I put my lubed finger up his butt, then at least I can feel something, and feel the way he moves. If I wanted to feel more control, I'd use my thumb while holding his balls with my other four fingers.:thumbsup:(Thumbs up, so to speak.)

And I would also have the concern (expressed by a couple of others, refuted by Snowy) that he might decide he wondered how the "real thing" felt in his butt.

Lindy

Lindy, there are ways you can both get physical pleasure from this act. The harness I own has the ability to hold two dildos, one for me and one for him. I have also set it up so that I can have a vibe going on me.

Plus, isn't a large part of any intimate sexual contact mental? Its not like I could have sex with anyone and feel as turned on as I do with smrt. The more he seems to enjoy it, the more I get worked up and thus the better my orgasm is when its my turn to be pleasured. :thumbsup:

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