valentine's vanality
 

I was talking to some girls at school about valentine's day and what we had done. I had a great time, my boyfriend is in germany at the time so I went out to the theatre with a friend and his girlfriend and it was really nice.
But anyway, one of the girls at school was all proud because her boyfriend had given her (like she asked) some pearl earrings. Another one was bitching because her boyfriend had only given her one rose. I thought it was really stupid how they only cared about the gifts. I wouldn't ask a (probably broke) college age guy to buy me pearls, they would probably be crappy peals because he wouldn't have enough money to get nice ones. But that's not my point.
I don't see why your valentines day is good only if you get a nice gift :rolleyes:

So what do you girls think, is getting a nice gift so important and meaningful? Thanks girls

i have, for a long time, had a huge problem with the present attitude of girls around valentines day. i find it shallow. there's nothing wrong with getting and appreciating a gift, but some girls just take it too far, like those you indicated. so to combat that attittude and the commercial-driven atmosphere that surrounds the holiday, i have chosen not to participate. i told my boyfriend not to get me anything, and was serious, and he didn't. if he wants to get me something, he can do it when it means something and when its not a prearranged "only because i'm supposed to" kind of thing.

I can't stand it when girls have to RECEIVE something nice in order to appreciate a holiday. What ever happened to giving? I love giving gifts. I enjoy receiving them, but for me, it's more about the thought that goes into the gift than it is the gift itself. The knowledge that someone thought enough about me to think of something special means WAY more than a dollar amount. I'd honestly take the rose over the pearls any day.

It's the thought that counts.

It should be more than enough just to have a SO on Valentine's Day. Getting something from them...whether it be small or large is just a nice bonus to an otherwise fabulous day.

I think that it's very shallow to complain about what you got for V-day. I got nothing, because I didn't even have a SO to spend the day with, but I did get to spend it with a good friend of mine, so I had a great time nevertheless!

Getting someone something expensive sometimes shows that they might be worried that they might lose you if they gave you anything less than that. Personally, I think that the best gifts are the really dumb ones that usually have an inside joke or meaning. Something that comes from the heart, or something that makes you laugh, and reminise...:love:

It is definitely not the amount of money spent, but the thoughtfulness of the gift that counts. Lebell sent me the most romantic, hand written card I've ever received. It made my Valentines day, me week, my month. He is very romantic.:icare:

While it is always nice to get a gift....I agree that it is the thoughtfulness that counts.

My boyfriend got me a plant that he picked out and potted himself in some pottery that he picked esp. for me.
He also gave up studying for the whole day on valentines day even though he had two tests the following monday..

He is this sweet all the time though and that is what matters the most.

Couldn't have said it better myself, I agree 100%.

The sentimental gestures are more valued then the expensive gifts. I'd rather receive a handmade card then some jewelry or flowers.

A gentle kiss and a warm hug is all I ever ask for and all I need to make me fully happy.

Girls that don't get what they 'want' for Valentine's Day and throw hissy fits about it should stop whining and realize how sweet and meaningful a simple kiss from their loved one can be. That is all..

I find it really discusting when someone is more worried about material cost of things or what they did or didnt get.
My fiance and I live 800 miles away from each other so its very rare that we get to spend physical time together. We spend countless hours on the phone talking and on the computer. I dont ask him to buy me anything and I never would, in fact he felt really guilty that he couldnt get me anything this year for Valentines Day. I had to reasure him that there was nothing wrong with that and his love was and is all I need. The little things that he does like telling me he loves me, I m beautiful, and an amazing person is more then I could ever ask. That in itself means more to me then any materialistic thing.

good question.
i don't really value valentines because it was never a big part of my life. in gradeschool, even though the teachers insisted each student bring cards for everyone in class, i would always get the fewest valentines while everyone else had so much... *i* of course gave all my classmates cards AND took special attention to each message the card was saying and who i thought fit the message. yeah, i'm a little bitter about valentines. to me, it's just a hallmark holiday. i don't see why you have this ONE day to celebrate love when everyday should be celebrated. that's why my boyfriend and i have decided to celebrate this commercial holiday on the day after. :-D non-conformists we are. heh.

anyway, this is a pretty roundabout post. sorry for the tangent. materialism bothers me a lot. i see it everywhere. lower-middle class people compensating for shitty apartments with the best digital toys (computers, big screen tvs, sub woofer 6 cd changer sony stereos, etc), girls bugging their boyfriends to get them another prize in the arcade when he already won her one, and of course, valentines.

She complained about a rose? Do you know what I would give for just a freakin' daisy picked from a ditch!? I'm not asking to be spoiled, but any attention is good. As far as I'm concerned, but of those girls got loving attention on Valentine's Day which is more than I can say for a few people I know.

The gift is not what matters.
Knowing that people love you is what matters, and sharing your love with others.

Geesh those girls would make me puke on the spot if I had overheard them myself. Either that or I would have had a difficult time controlling the fist of death. grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr.