How do you get your orgasm?
 

Ladies,

I've been dating this guy for like 5 years now and we've had great sex. I've always been able to get an orgasm and etc. However, the only way I can ever get an orgasm is if I am on top, grinding. I also can get one if he goes down on me. He pretty much knows how to do that. But as far as sex goes, I've tried lying on my back, and other random positions...and it get the sensation like I'm about to get one...but then nothing happens. Is there something I should try? I feel like I've tried every position...but is there something the guy could do or maybe I could try different?

Does anyone else have this problem?

wow, I'm surprised that this has had no responses so far! Ok, I'm pretty much like you, I need clitoral stimulus to get my O. So, knowing this, work with it, not against it. Clearly, penetration alone is unlikely to cut it for you. So, if you give yourself a hand (literally) when he's in there, you'll probably get a nice surprise! It works for me. He can also help you out if you prefer. The key is, to stimulate your clitoral region as well as other parts, and then you're likely to get a different kind of orgasm overall.

I agree with everything little_tippler said. And sometimes, you only get two ways. Don't think of it as a limitation; you can still do all sorts of different things....just remember how to finish:thumbsup:

The other night, I was enjoying a romp with the fellow I'm seeing and had a surprise vaginal orgasm. It was a good night. :-)

But yeah, I can count the number of times I've gotten off from penetration alone. Manual or oral clitoral stimulation only, generally speaking. And then, it has to be well-executed. Damn near eroding my clit is not going to be well-received.

I am the same way. I usually have to give myself a helping hand to get off. Though I can do it other ways, it is easier when I am on my back.

Sometimes I am at just the right place, and I can tell I will get off without help. It doesn't happen all that often.

I have never experienced an orgasm other than waking up having one or by using a vibrator.

well, i'm thinking about timing.
with me for example, it takes about twenty minutes to half an hour lying on my back and about five minutes lying on my stomach with or without ~assistance~.
facing any other direction is touch and go (excuse the pun).
what's that about eh?

in your case i think it's pretty common. i've known a few women who can only finish while in the cowgirl or reverse-cowgirl position.

physically, that is one of the deeper dickings, and you're generally in control of it all (momentum, depth).
i think for a lot of people it's also psychological.
that's why i figure it goes a lot faster in my case while i'm lying on my stomach. the almost restraint aspect.
maybe you're just dominant?

clitoral stimulation, as a rule

I consider some of you to be lucky. For me, no hand/mouth = no orgasm.

Doesn't sound like you have a problem to me.

I know for me when my guy is on top of me it is sometime harder for me to climax. I too get off easily when I am on top "grinding" away. It does help when I am on bottom if my guy really lays straight out on top of me while pumping (rather than sitting up) - I think it's because more direct clitoris stimulation. Sometimes I have to help a little if I am not feeling it.

This isn't a problem. This is normal. A problem is if you need a goat, a roll of duct tape and some kumquats to get off.

Most of us don't have screaming orgasms everytime a cock is shoved in. Those of you who do, shut the fuck up, I don't want to hear it. The rest of us need a little extra attention to get off. Accept. Experiment. Enjoy.

This is definitely the case for me. My partner has always been really great at giving me an extra hand during intercourse, usually with him on top.

In my case, ItWasMe said it best: no hand/mouth = no orgasm.