Im confused, cant keep a girl. - Tilted Forum Project Discussion Community

--jones-- · 07-07-2003, 01:56 AM

I have no problems whatsoever getting girls. The problem is i cannot keep them. Now I know I am still young (18) and I know you all will tell me that I have time to devlop into a more mature person and that things will work out, however Im worried that I am devloping seriously wrong relationship patterns.

For some reason every single relationship I have ever had has lasted less than a month. For some reason we get to a stage in our relationship and become awkward. It happens sonner or later with girls. Im not sure what is going on. We are great toghter for a while the out of the blue we stop talking and get awkward around eachouther. Im just wondering if anyone has the same problem or expirenced the same thing.

Peetster · 07-07-2003, 03:45 AM

I'm guessing the awkwarness happens after you reach a level of intimacy beyond the level of your relationship. Are you quick to get physical with girls? If so, slow it way down. Develop the relationship first. Take a lot of time to get to know her as well as you can. Develop mutual interests and things you enjoy doing together. When you eventually start to explore a possible physical aspect to your relationship, you will have a broad foundation of friendship and trust to build on.

rogue49 · 07-07-2003, 05:46 AM

such is the nature of things when you are 18.

remember, is might not just be you, but the girls are exploring also at this time.

just enjoy each relationship for what it's worth, you have a long way to go.
you are still figuring out yourself, much less the others.

--jones-- · 07-07-2003, 01:48 PM

Ya, I do move fast with girls, but keep in mind I am 18 and I want to move fast. Is there any way i can keep a girl and still move quickly? I dont think Im ready for a serious relationship. Would it be a bad thing if I told the girl I wasent looking for a serious relationship?

Nova_Dust · 07-07-2003, 02:19 PM

That's like saying I want to test drive a car but not buying it. If you don't want a serious relationship, just do some casual dating, like dinner and movie.

If you ultimately want to drill her, then forget it.

Tiger69z · 07-07-2003, 02:34 PM

If you do not want a serious relationship then why do you want it to last more than one month?

Think about it, that's hypocritical....

baudot · 07-08-2003, 09:24 AM

Nothing wrong with not wanting a 'serious' relationship. At 18, U.S. culture considers you young, which isn't a stage at which serious relationships are a good idea.

But really, all that matters on this is how you feel and how she feels. It's hard to fault you as long as you're being honest and caring. Not that the world will reward you for it.

07-07-2003, 01:56 AM	#1 (permalink)
--jones-- Crazy	Im confused, cant keep a girl. I have no problems whatsoever getting girls. The problem is i cannot keep them. Now I know I am still young (18) and I know you all will tell me that I have time to devlop into a more mature person and that things will work out, however Im worried that I am devloping seriously wrong relationship patterns. For some reason every single relationship I have ever had has lasted less than a month. For some reason we get to a stage in our relationship and become awkward. It happens sonner or later with girls. Im not sure what is going on. We are great toghter for a while the out of the blue we stop talking and get awkward around eachouther. Im just wondering if anyone has the same problem or expirenced the same thing.

07-07-2003, 05:46 AM	#3 (permalink)
rogue49 Loser	such is the nature of things when you are 18. remember, is might not just be you, but the girls are exploring also at this time. just enjoy each relationship for what it's worth, you have a long way to go. you are still figuring out yourself, much less the others. Last edited by rogue49; 07-07-2003 at 05:48 AM..

07-07-2003, 03:45 AM	#2 (permalink)
Peetster Right Now Location: Home	I'm guessing the awkwarness happens after you reach a level of intimacy beyond the level of your relationship. Are you quick to get physical with girls? If so, slow it way down. Develop the relationship first. Take a lot of time to get to know her as well as you can. Develop mutual interests and things you enjoy doing together. When you eventually start to explore a possible physical aspect to your relationship, you will have a broad foundation of friendship and trust to build on.

07-07-2003, 01:48 PM	#4 (permalink)
--jones-- Crazy	Ya, I do move fast with girls, but keep in mind I am 18 and I want to move fast. Is there any way i can keep a girl and still move quickly? I dont think Im ready for a serious relationship. Would it be a bad thing if I told the girl I wasent looking for a serious relationship?

07-07-2003, 02:19 PM	#5 (permalink)
Nova_Dust Upright Location: Toronto	That's like saying I want to test drive a car but not buying it. If you don't want a serious relationship, just do some casual dating, like dinner and movie. If you ultimately want to drill her, then forget it.

07-07-2003, 02:34 PM	#6 (permalink)
Tiger69z Banned Location: Sunny S.FLA	If you do not want a serious relationship then why do you want it to last more than one month? Think about it, that's hypocritical....

07-08-2003, 09:24 AM	#7 (permalink)
baudot Tilted Location: Today: St. Louis.	Nothing wrong with not wanting a 'serious' relationship. At 18, U.S. culture considers you young, which isn't a stage at which serious relationships are a good idea. But really, all that matters on this is how you feel and how she feels. It's hard to fault you as long as you're being honest and caring. Not that the world will reward you for it.