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Wife "friends" with male married gay couple.

Discussion in 'Tilted Life and Sexuality' started by TommiMiddaugh, Jun 16, 2019.

  1. TommiMiddaugh

    TommiMiddaugh New Member

    Location:
    Ohio
    So, anyone else currently or been thru this type of relationship? I was working nights every other weekend when this started.
    One guy is a co-worker of my wife and the guy is his husband. One comment set the wheels of distrusting her in motion.
    " I'm bored and lonely"
    when you work weekend nights.
    " But they are gay and I didn't think you would mind"
    Well, asking for men comments and even woman comments.
     
    TommiMiddaugh, Jun 16, 2019
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  2. redravin

    redravin Cynical Optimist Donor

    Location:
    North
    What is the issue??
     
    redravin, Jun 17, 2019
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  3. rogue49

    rogue49 Tech Kung Fu Artist Staff Member

    Location:
    Baltimore/DC
    If they're gay (not bi) then they'd be like girlfriends to her.
    Also, they're married...so I'd think you'd trust them as any other married couple. (unless they open and swinging...and even then it should be about consent)
    And that's what it's about, trust and consent.
    If you're describing it correctly...they are just friends.

    Hell, they may even be to your benefit. Keeping her occupied while you're gone...or giving her a male perspective, to your advantage.
     
    rogue49, Jun 17, 2019
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  4. Herculite

    Herculite Very Tilted

    Gay or straight it comes down to one thing.

    Do you trust your wife?

    I'd trust my wife under just about all circumstances.

    Unless you think these guys are going to drug or rape her, then its just about trust of your wife.
     
    Herculite, Jun 17, 2019
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  5. ASU2003

    ASU2003 Very Tilted

    Location:
    Where ever I roam
    The gay people I know would be more interested in you than her.

    Now, they might have lesbian friends and then it is up to you two if her messing around with another woman would be cheating.
     
    ASU2003, Jun 18, 2019
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  6. Lindy

    Lindy Moderator Staff Member

    Location:
    Nebraska
    Rather than dwelling on the "married male gay couple" examine the relationship in your marriage. Are you becoming more married to your work than your wife? Is your relationship with your wife -- sexual and otherwise -- blessed with trust and good communication? Do you share common interests that help bind you together? Could you be included in some activity with her and the gay couple and would you be comfortable with that? Are you jealous of her freedom to enjoy weekend activities while you must work?
    The gay men that I know would have absolutely no (sexual) interest in a hetero female. But might still enjoy her company. And have areas of commonality such as art, music, food, sports, etc.
     
    Lindy, Jun 19, 2019
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  7. TommiMiddaugh

    TommiMiddaugh New Member

    Location:
    Ohio
    Thanks for your honest response. The idea of they would be more interested in another man maybe part of it.
    Considering the first time We went to their house for supper and card game, cards against humanity, never heard of it. She seemed to know the game as if they played it together.
    Did I mention that the wife of the couple and I got very drunk, but the husband and my wife were very sober.
    I really do thank you for your honest opinion.
    Believe me it does help me to understand.
     
    TommiMiddaugh, Jun 20, 2019
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  8. InnocenceLost

    InnocenceLost New Member

    Location:
    US
    Yeah you have nothing to worry about LOL gay men do not have any sexual attraction whatsoever to women that is what being gay means lol

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    InnocenceLost, Aug 29, 2019
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  9. buzzgunner

    buzzgunner 180 gr. of diplomacy

    Location:
    Western Oregon, USA
    Well, maybe and maybe not.

    If the married couple is totally gay, then I agree with you. OTOH, if the married couple are both bi (as Rogue49 suggested), what you really have is a recipe for an MFM threesome. Being a naturally suspicious person myself, I'd want a little more information before just letting it slide.
     
    buzzgunner, Aug 30, 2019
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  10. InnocenceLost

    InnocenceLost New Member

    Location:
    US
    LOL you watch too much porn LMFAO

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    InnocenceLost, Aug 31, 2019
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  11. ralphie250

    ralphie250 Fully Erect

    Location:
    At work..
    Agreed
     
    ralphie250, Aug 31, 2019
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  12. Lindy

    Lindy Moderator Staff Member

    Location:
    Nebraska
    Or, perhaps the wrong kind of porn.;)
     
    Lindy, Aug 31, 2019
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