My penis getting soft when he's getting inside

Hello everyone! This sounds very embarrassing.

I have my first sex since I'm 16 years old with girlfriend. She's a virgin. We're having a good time whenever we're having sex. But suddenly we broke up after 3 years. Then I decided to have another girl. Now my problem comes.

We try to have sex. This time the girl is already virginized by someone.

I lie in her bed. The first time I saw her wear a white shirt without bra and a good size of breasts. And wearing a pajamas. My penis gets hard without any doubt. And now I am so excited what will happen next. We make up. We rolled all over her bed. We touched each other.

But when the time comes and I am going get inside. I find my penis getting soft. Thats why our sex stopped. That's really embarrassing right? I experienced that with two girls. Please somebody help me out! Thanks in advance and thanks for the respect

 

You're trying too hard. When you worry about losing your erection, you tighten your PC muscle, which actually draws blood away from the penis. Keep your focus on the erotic situation, and relax into an erection.

Getting and keeping an erection is 90% mental. Worrying about the problem makes it worse.

It may sound hokey, but for most men, hypnosis can help a lot.

You don't need to pay a doctor -- you can find some pretty good hypnosis tapes online.

(Note: I didn't realize that TFP would expand bare links into embedded media, but there you are.)


View: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ez9hTSnpgrk


View: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yhjIZHebr44


View: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7Wl3tFnfjW4


View: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qh9UyRFHVLI


Don't do it just once and give up -- try listening to one twice a day for a week or two.

 

Wow, that's a huge G-Shock.

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It's perfectly natural. Check it out: your wang is largely controlled by your feelings. You're not a robot and thus you have to be right in the head to get the job done. A lot of guys can hang weight plates on their cock for no reason first thing in the morning but go soft around girls due to performance anxiety. You just have to plow through (*rimshot*) a few different experiences to get comfortable with yourself before you can build the confidence you need to keep ye olde love spear turgid in carnal combat.

 

Appreciate your help guys. Maybe it's just my feelings. I'm nervous, maybe.

Thanks a lot guys ^_^

@Street Pattern, Really thankful for embed videos. I'll try to watch those and see what will happen

@Plan9, Thanks also for helping me out. But how can you say that the G-Shock im wearing is huge? I think that's the smallest G-Shock except on Baby-G. Hehe. I have no idea what do mean.

 

I can only add that it happens to most, if not all, men at some time or other. Especially after breakups, for some unknown reason.

On a serious note, you need to find a way to relax, I think. Good advice above.

(They don't call 'em 'dicks' for nothing... )

 

Yep... Slept with this beautiful, slim, blonde SoCal girl I met just shortly after I found out I was getting divorced last year. She was the first "pick me up" fuck after the divorce, I guess. Gorgeous, and took a shining to my white ass in the club for reasons I can only begin to guess at, and when we left the club and went back to my place, I couldn't get it up for like 20 minutes. I even excused myself and dashed into the bathroom, trying everything to get my shit up, but no dice. After a few minutes I went back into the bedroom with my tail between my legs, where she was playing with my bwhite German Shepard and was all like, "Look, I think I just drank too much booze at the club, I'm sorry, I just can't do shit tonight." She was cool about it and we started to make out, but once it was off my chest and the pressure to perform was gone, and I just sort of relaxed, and BAM! Liftoff. We fucked for HOURS. The trick is to get comfortable, man. Not to stereotype, but women tend to be a lot more emotionally/intimately supportive than men, so most girls will work with you and try to be understanding.

 

street pattern hit the nail on the head (atleast for me). I have had the same failure to launch as you describe and it only happens with a new lover and even more so soon after a breakup. My fix is to go down on her and give her the oral sex she has always wanted. This always fires me right back up nice and hard. In the unlikey event it didn't get me hard it's great for repeat business. LADIES PLEASE BACK ME UP HERE. If you do this she will appreciate your willingness to please and be more willing to give you another try. Likewise, if I came too fast and she didn't I'll go down and complete her with some great oral (only if I want other chances of sex with her). Tell her she turns you on so damn much you couldn't not cum and that you like her so much you owe her a fully satisfying sexual experience (honor/pride in a task well done). Tasting my own cum grosses me out the same as the next guy but if I was that committed to her pleasure then I need to suck it up (no pun intended). I'd stand a much better chance on a second chance with her than some guy (most guys) who would not. Plus if your close to cumming and you think about having to taste your own cum its damn near a show stopper and brings me back from the edge. Eating out my lady after I've warmed her up with my cock doesn't doesn't bother me at all. I even enjoy it more because she is fully open like a flower. I only wince if I've nutted in her first. It's not her body that rubs me the wrong way it's tasting my cum that bothers me.
On a second note. After you've gone down on her the first time kiss her on the mouth like it's no big deal. I know some women might say they object but most don't mind if you start off right by kissing her after wards. It's damn hard to change this if you make her think she should be squeamish about tasting her pussy on your lips (cock or fingers for that matter). If she tries to kiss me after I came in her mouth I try and not freak out. This is not hypocritical. Cum smells like bleach or something. Pussy juice on the other hand is divinely erotic. So in my mind you can't compare them. Besides, if I didn't nut in her mouth then I don't mind kissing her after getting head.

 

My thoughts exactly... This is probably mostly gender-based (or sexual preference-based).

 

Hate it when that happens

 

It does smell distinctively deliscous

 

Happened to you too?

 

every man needs a woman with a semen addiction

 

Or up my nose.